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Met someone who is hot and cold , inconsistent, and giving off mixed signals. I moved on 4 months ago, and he's doing the same thing again. I thought he'd be different reconnecting, and now I'm losing interest in him because I'm going on with my life ( moving in a month and a half , starting college in May , back to my business stuff , and getting settled in my home ) .. I know once I move, I'll be going off the grid with 0 chance of coming back on the grid. This guy has been freaking out since I told him I'm leaving and moving forward with my life.
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2 mo
His intentions aren't clear , giving mixed signals, and is confusing me with his behavior.. it's making me sick - advice? I've pulled back
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It sounds like you have moved on from him, why the question?
He's still reaching out despite me pulling back - last night I was too tired to text him.. he's draining me and not talking to him makes me feel better and I'm not confused , but he won't move on
I'm tired of him atp
Asker... so why deal with him? Tell him to bugger off.
I did and he won't yet he's stressing me out with his behavior and me pulling back has saved me my sanity and peace of mind from his chaotic behavior
Asker... if you are less stressed with him out of your life you are making the right decision. Stand firm.
I am and I do
So again, what's the question/problem?
HE WILL NOT MOVE ON AND I HAVE PULLED BACK AFTER REJECTING HIM HE SHOULD WALK AWAY BECAUASE HE IS NOT HEALTHY FOR A RELATIONSHIP OR TO BE PURSUING ME - THE GUY IS ALL OVER THE PLACE PLUS IF WITH HIS INTENTIONS
I AM NOT WASTING MY TIME OR ENERGY HE IS
THE ONLY OTHER OPTION IS TOO BLOCK HIM WHICH I DID 2 TIMES AND CHANGED MY NUMBER
Well,. ok. have you been definitive with him? As in, "stop contacting me"?
ME 🚫 HIM SPOKE VOLUME
HE NEEDS THERAPHY BEFORE HE RUIN SOMEONE'S ELSES LIFE WITH HIS CHAOTIC BEHAVIOR
You can call the police and file a report and request a restraining order.
Luckily he lives states away, but knowing him he would come to my state out of desperation- instead of saying wtf he wants and expressing himself he w9uld rather put me through the ringer of unnecessary stress and drama that I don't need right now with a major move I'm preparing for. He doesn't have the skills to communicate with women - from what I can see. I am tired and don't want to be bothered by him because I don't want to be hurt by him again when he strung me along playing mind games
So if he "said what he wants" you would take him back? It seems you are part of the problem by not making a clean break or at least giving him hope.
He never had me - how can you lose something you never had to begin with
First I have to figure out wtf he wants - why he won't leave me alone at all
Either he wants to have sex, date, etc he needs to make his intentions clear he told me he couldn't date me due to distance, but I friend zoned him.. friends don't call friends baby and communicate daily or every other day... if he's looking for short term he's wasting his time
No, no you don't. This is leading him on. Either try to make it work or DON'T. This half in/out is a big part of what is making him crazy.
He needs to tell me wtf he wants ! I expressed to him how I felt and he shot me down by saying he couldn't date me due to distance! Then I told him I was waiting on the right person- but then he switches up when I back off!
I've gotten cold with him due to this and refuse to invest with him as much
Make an adult decision. If you are leaving tell him to stop contacting you.
He's hot and cold not me ! He will not hurt me a 2nd time with his games ! He's inconsistent not me - he told me we could be friends so that's what he'll get is friendship and my options will be open !
I did, and he won't move tf on
In a month and a half we'll be gone than what? I guess he'll go bat shyt crazy once there's no contact
I told him 2 days ago I'm done dating and wanting to be single- yesterday he asked if I were OK when I went no contact
That's a good start. Stick to your guns.
I shouldn't have to tell grown man I'm moving on and stop contacting me
Asker... there are many things people shouldn't have to do.
I'm not his mama or guider common sense is around
His male ego is driving this. And young guys today really don't know how to be men.
just get over it and get back on the saddle.