What can I do if I'm afraid to move on from the guy I love?

I 'm in love with a guy who has a girlfriend. He has rejected me in many occasions because he is very secretive about his girlfriend and I thought he was single in some points, but he was not. In many cases I've thought he was giving me hints of been interested back to me and I feel that there is mutual attraction. However, I don't feel strong enough to move on because I' m afraid of losing the chance to be with him in case that he breaks with her. I love him so much and I 'm terrified of the possibility that if I find a guy I don't love, and the guy I'm in love with breaks with his girlfriend, I will lose him forever, and despite I know it's wrong, I feel the need to be available for him. H-E-L-P!!!

teamvic

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I get what you're feeling and everything but unless you're prepared to do what I'm going to tell you to do then you'll never move on

All you gotta do is not see anything of him. Eventually you'll get over him, you ever hear the old saying ," outta sight, out of mind"?🤔 well all you gotta do is just at the VERY least, mute his posts and stories if you have him on any social media because if you keep seeing him you'll keep thinking about that perfect little picture in your head you have with eachother. The less you see him. The less you'll think about him. And if you see him in person just try your best to not look at him that way the thoughts don't start to come in.

You also have to understand that, well maybe the girlfriend isn't the only reason he's rejecting you🤔 maybe he's just not into you girl. Think about the guys you've rejected, if you have, think about the ones you weren't interested, imagine if they had the mindset of, " oh she only rejected me cause she's in a relationship " I'll try again later. It doesn't leave a good look🤔

I get that you're afraid to get in a relationship with someone cause you don't want to be unavailable for this other dude. But at the same time it's stopping from you potentially finding the guy that'll make you forget about this current guy. And yes it sounds unlikely but hey, if that situation does come and he does try to get with you. Then why can't you just break up with the guy you're with? If you're thinking about another guy while in a relationship with another guy then that relationship wasn't going to work out anyway. Unless you're afraid you catch feelings for a second guy then that tells me maybe this first guy ain't as special as you make him out to be.

I have been in a similar situation where I think this girl and I would be perfect for eachother but shits complicated. To say the least. More than anything I'd want to be with her. But it's been so long. How much longer can I be unhappy and hoping for her to come to me when she's just living her life not even thinking about me most likely. Now I bring this up because I want you to ask yourself that same question, how much longer do you expect to keep dealing with it. Sure I'd want to be with her, but I'm no longer waiting out for her. If I find someone else I really like, well then it is what it is. If we end up talking again while I'm in a relationship and I find I still have feelings for her, well then it shows who I really have feelings for Still. And I do still care about her, but I don't think about her much, and it's because I have all her posts and stories muted. So I never see her. But anyway, do what I said and I think you'll be okay.

But what do I know im just some guy on the internet

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