How good looking does a guy really need to be in order for women to approach him, ask him for dates, or even ask directly for sex?

[Anonymous]

I have had this happen to me for 20 years. But the problem is I am autistic. When women do these things I just panic. So even though many women have asked for my number and even asked me for sex, I am still a virgin to this day.

The reason I ask is because I did not realize that other men have women doing these things. It turns out that I must be somewhat handsome to have these experiences.

I guess it's nice to realize this. But at the same time I'm still a 30 year old virgin. Before I felt worthless my whole life due to my lack of social abilities as an autistic person.

I just wonder what should I do now? Am I actually attractive? Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe most men get the same experiences with women as I do? Am I being delusional?

[jennifer_bloom]

I’ve met guys that looked better than a young Brad Pitt that had no sex appeal to me. A good face is good for romance, not for sex. His odds of sex are the same as others even with an amazing face and body, he has to be a good person and he has to marry me first.

[Anonymous]

If you haven’t already more recently then maybe you should consider professional help. You don’t want to approach a woman but when she approaches you, you panic. There has to be a way to work through that so that you can make the first move as well and not blow your chances each time.

[Asker]

You put it perfectly thank you. I kind of expected to just be alone. I've always been alone. I like to be alone. I'm honestly not sure if I should date or not. Maybe I should. I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing is wrong with being alone if that’s how you’re happiest, but at the same time you shouldn’t rob yourself of experiencing a loving relationship if your main reason for not being in one is your autism. But I do think it would be good to see a professional first because then maybe they can help you navigate dating better with your condition.

[slatyb]

Moderately. Try role playing with a female friend. If you don't have female friends, make some. That will make a big difference in your response when you are approached.

[IHateBeingaMan]

reminds me of a comment i will never forget, a reminder of how cruel nature and reality can be

[Anonymous]

i have never asked for sex but if i want it i will hang around him and do something like brush my boobs against his arms once or twice and that will get him to ask sometimes

[Asker]

They do things like this too. Like pretend not to notice that she is touching me or that her whole arm is pressed against my side.

They're sweet for that. I probably make them feel bad because I can't respond to it.

[Opinion Owner]

why can't you have sex just because you're autistic?

[Asker]

Because I am extremely socially awkward and weird and can't make eye contact and stuff like that. No woman wants that. They may ask me out or flirt, but after a few minutes they figure out something is wrong with me and they just walk away.

It's fine. It's how the majority of people are. They just see I'm shy and introverted and they just leave me alone.

[Opinion Owner]

print out a little card that explains that and when things get sexy give her the card

it would work on me

[laly520]

u havw to work on ur social skills

[In_Trance]

Have you seen Pete Davidson?

[Asker]

Yea why?