At what stage do men start giving women pet-names?

[Anonymous]

He’s been calling me “Love, Baby, Cutie, Beautiful”

Am I expected to reciprocate?

I don’t feel like reciprocating as of yet.

[Anonymous]

None of those are pet names. A pet name is a special name you both understand the meaning of together but people outside the relationship are often obvilious. In my case, it was an in joke. between the two of us reflecting insider knowledge of the other.

Regarding reciprocation, for the names mentiones, I would say your choices are to either discourage or encourage their usages. Either thay make you feel special and loved (aka encourage), or they make you feel cheep and like their lazy ways to compliment you (aka discourage).

If he's got some name like 'snookems', 'cuddlebun', 'sexyeys' or even something odd like 'hatter' then there you have a pet-name, and you don't need to accept nor recipricate. If you find it fun also use it, if you find it annoying, you can either give him an equally annoying pet name or tell him to stop.

It can actually be quite fun giving an equally annoying pet name, they can catch on as a couple in joke and be used even if you split up as a way to connect (assuming the splitup wasn't acromonious and also the name doesn't after the relationship become toxic).

[silyt_ghoest]

well shit, does "motherless bitch" and "dumb motherful aryan" count then?

[Opinion Owner]

@silyt_ghoest potentially if the person their calling it feels its done lovingly and feels it reflects their partners sense of humor (and presuming there's comic effect in play, and its delivered in the right way at the right ocassions).

Though, your flippance is recognised you make a sound point. It is whatever is recognised by both partners as loving and potentially humourous enough to become an internally supported and repeated.

[handsomelad70]

Depending on the time it takes for him to want to be her beau.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I did very early but not generic ones like "Babe". I mostly favored abbreviations like if a woman's name is "Michelle", I started calling her "Mish" as soon as we started getting very friendly. I didn't expect anyone to reciprocate although they often did and abbreviated my name too. I did for women who were just friends, not just dates.

[SneakyPapaya]

Nah, move as fast as you want. I was a bit of an ice queen so I didn't use pet names till my husband and I got engaged! In a sort of ironic way we would say boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance as terms of endearment. It soothed my icy little heart before years passed and we broke out the vomit inducing honey smunches, sweetie pie, cutie patootie

[dustybiker2]

Aren't names earned? If they come too easily it sounds too much like a player. Which is fine if the people are into that. I always preferred the unique ones not used generally.

[Asker]

I don’t think he calls everyone those names, we have been talking and calling each other for 3 months everyday, I think they are kind of earned.

[dustybiker2]

That's good then.

[laly520]

happens naturally when they r comfy but if girl not ok with it she gotta ask him to stop

[Asker]

I am okay with them

[Coden7]

Just let it happen natural I guess. It doesn’t bother me if she doesn’t call me anything though I might slip in a pet name from time to time early on.

[Coden7]

I forgot to answer the “stage”. Usually once we have dated a few times and

[Coden7]

Intend on continuing. Didn’t mean to send yet lol

[Asker]

Ahahah

[KrakenAttackin]

You are not at all required to reciprocate.

[Asker]

What about “When do men start calling women pet names?”

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. I think men do this when they want to better define the relationship, meaning it's something couples do rather than just two people who have been on a few dates.

[Jennz6]

I’m not very tall and I’m being called “Short Cake” now 💃

[Asker]

Good job. That’s not what I asked short cake ;)

[Jennz6]

Not right away and I don’t make up names for guys

[DJB72]

I've called my wife "Babe" since we've been exclusive - about 22 years now. She still uses my name.

I have a friend - JUST a friend - who calls me "My Lover" from time to time. It's a cultural thing because of where they're from - English Westcountry.

You do you and let him do him.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Whenever ya feel like it darlin' lol. Sorry. Couldn't resist.

Truth is I have no idea who usually starts it. I have pet names for friends and family that I do it without even thinkin' half the time.

[spartan55]

Pet names should be at least saved until after sex. Just like farting in front of each other. The chamillionaire is putting full court press on I see. 😁

[Asker]

Lol, that’s a full court press? 🤣

[spartan55]

Absolutely, but it fits his MO so far.

[Asker]

How did you figure out his MO so soon?

[spartan55]

It was hardly graduate level stuff. I'm a guy remember? Have you met him in person yet?

[Asker]

In September- we will meet. Why? What does your guy mind tell you about him?

[spartan55]

September? Okay... that's an eternity from now. Why the delay?

[Asker]

We live 10k kilometers away and in September he plans a trip to my country.

[Asker]

It’s his hobby to travel every 5 months and he’ll be having a next trip in April to Portugal and then in September in Caucasia.

[spartan55]

10k is like 6 miles...

[Asker]

Yes 6200 miles away

[Asker]

Why?

[spartan55]

I think I'm getting confused with this metric thing. 10 kilometers is 6.2 miles, not 6200 miles... correct?

[Asker]

No, 6200 miles… 6 thousand 2 hundred miles. What does it have to do with pet names and full court pressure?

[spartan55]

10,000 kilometers, OK now I get it.

[Asker]

And?

[spartan55]

I don't know, I've thought he was weird from the start. You won't even meet him for six months? Wouldn't take me that long...

[Asker]

I like weird people…

[Asker]

Wouldn’t take you that long for what?

[spartan55]

To visit you.
I will stop using the term weird, because I can tell you don't like it.
Using pet names before being intimate
isn't unusual. Not something I would do, but I digress. Using pet names before you even meet someone is not normal. Some people would even call it lovebombing. Discussing and bragging (your words) about your wealth before you meet someone is not normal. He seems all hot and heavy about you, but he can't visit until September? That is really odd to me. These things I am pointing out as cautionary I think would be considered reasonable by most.
I remember very recently you mentioned you weren't interested in dating. You mentioned it several times.

[Asker]

Well, I like him, because I met him at very difficult time of my life, and he made me feel like he was very attentive. He was very caring and sweet to me when I was totally alone vulnerable and helpless he was there for me, and it means a lot for me, because having my leg broken in a totally different country, and totally alone wasn’t the easiest thing for me to overcome even if I did not complain about it at the time I look back, it was very difficult for me, and I appreciate that he was there for me as a time and made me feel cared for and a little bit loved at that time , so, even if I wasn’t really into dating, I would gladly date him if he was here and I don’t know if his love bomb or what I don’t see any problems in that because I know he’s a busy man and he has all his travel plans already planned out could possibly be a red flag about him if he’s all hot and heavy about me why is it wrong for him to meet me in September? Why do you think, it’s a problem not to meet me earlier he’s busy he’s working and he has some other plans. I suddenly appeared in his life. I cannot expect to change all his plans right end of his life.

[Asker]

I have recorded this reply, as I’m walking to work, so forgive my lack of paragraphs and commas

[spartan55]

You're fine, it actually came over well. You don't have to explain yourself about this guy, I just wanted to share what I see from the outside.
I had no idea you had such a hard time with your leg. You hid it well. I think everyone was happy to see you bounce back so we'll.

[Asker]

Well… Of course, It wasn’t easy, I was super healthy and energetic, confident and independent and suddenly I broke my leg, had a surgery, lost my job with unknown amount of time not knowing when I’d walk again and If I’d walk - How would I walk. And on top of that I am in China, totally alone.

I just don’t like complaining, I danced almost everyday of my recovery to take my mind off this injury, but doesn’t mean it wasn’t tough for me. And he never asked me if it was, he just knew how tough it was for me and would tell me all the right things I needed to hear.

And while he was traveling in Latin America, he was informing about his travels everyday, making me feel like I was part of it.

[Asker]

On top of that my visa was expiring and my workplace was super slow at handling it and I was running out of time to stay in a country, when I couldn’t even walk on my own feet…

I honestly don’t wish anyone a similar experience. But it toughened me up.

[Asker]

And with all that broken leg and a lost job, I was still helping my mom who takes care of my grandma with dementia. To be honest, ai respect myself much more after that, because I overcame such a hard time so gracefully, without ever saying a word of complaint or weakness.

[Asker]

And not even after 1 month since I started walking, I am pushing my limits to walk 10-15 k everyday…

I deserve all the bragging I’ve ever bragged haha

[spartan55]

Lol, that's something anyone should brag about.

[superchan2011]

I started doing that with my ex after she started giving me pet names first. It was pretty early on in the relationship. So while I can't speak for other men I started doing it pretty early on when we started dating.

[MsBrie]

My friends that have known me for more than a year all call me Icey queen because im always cold does that count?

You can reciprocate if you want its up to you.

Baby ;)

[NathanDavis]

I don't think there's a standard...

don't feel it, don't do it

[itsclearlynicholas]

Hell no. 😋😋🤪🌕🌕 The girlfriend who gives me a pet name, is out the door 🚪 metaphorical, in my mind. Pet names cue vomit emojis 🤮🤢

[itsclearlynicholas]

I wouldn't give her a pet name, and if that's her deal-breaker, cya lol 😆

[888theGreat]

Like most women you will in time. You will use enduring pet names like SOB, Moron, Bastard, Idiot, Tweeb, and Asshole.

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[soe11]

Same phrases "Love, Baby, Cutie, Beautiful” I articulate to my girlfriend, she loves it.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

No set stage for Me, if I have affinity or affection for a Female, I express it.

[Yamaal]

Sometimes she calls me beautiful or she calls me the garden of love🥰🥰🥰

[msc545]

At about 6 months into it, if you are still around, I begin calling you "butthead".

[justabuddy]

I think it varies. I don't use them that often.

Does the middle finger count as a person name lol

[MAV300123]

It's up to you. If you are intimate with him regularly in other ways, there's no need. Just make sure he feels loved.

[AnAmazingGuy]

when the men become to lazy to calling by name.

[BLP11520]

after about two months😊

[Ms_Facesitter]

The moment they get comfortable around you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

The no talking stage even is enough for some. Never got approached by a stranger calling you baby out of nowhere?

[ChefPapiChulo]

I call my girlfriend sugar tits

[spartan55]

Very underrated.

[Anonymous]

Dominatrix bunny 🐰 *makes weird guy face*

[Sameone]

When i love her