Does she really want that date? What should I do?

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(29F) Girl I (25M) like was teasing me during the first month we met through friends. Once she replied an Instagram story telling she loved the place I posted. Another day I went the same place, I send her a photo and she instantly replied: “My favourite place. So jealous!”. So, I asked her out and she apparently and effusively replied: “Yeeees!”. But, when I tried to schedule a time, she replied with a sad sticker and texted: “I can't… I have a final project”. So I told her to let me know when she's available, and she replied: “Of coooourse I will”. Now, the “problem” is it has been nearly 3 weeks since then, and she didn't reply anything (although she has been out with her female friends on punctual days). Some of my friends tell me to move on, others tell me she is waiting for me (although the ball is in her court). I honestly don't know what to do. The initial teasing and the current silence aligns with she is actually busy, but I have mixed signals.

he-takes-a-part · Accepted Answer

For a quick reply and move on. Just initaite. Don't just go for business motives. Ask how work is going on and stuff make it like you did it in the initial approach. After a while if the engine inside her picks up which you'll have to notice and decide. Ask if she want to get rid of being jealous and finally go. That reply would tell you that if she's really into it or gaslighting or just wanted an adrenaline due to her current boyfriend issues. Happens with me too. Many a times. Reason I behave rude with them. In sucha. Case even if you dont get them pussy you still be happy. There are lot roaming out there ideal curious minds. Who knows she's doing same thing with every guy friends she meets. Maybe its her last intensity and get satisfaction with it. Your peak her peak can't be the same.

tremendousfern · Accepted Answer

I think your instinct is right, the ball is in her court. And like some of your friends said, you should move on. In fact, until a woman wants to commit to a relationship, there is no point in waiting for any of them. You don't owe the girls you text or go on coffee dates with any loyalty. You should always be looking for new dates until you find a girl who wants to commit.

Women frequently like to play mind games. Don't play into her mind games. While men pursue and women get to pick men, she should also be demonstrating her interest in you and her value. No replies for 3 weeks while also obviously going out with others to me shows that she wasn't serious to begin with and is pretty rude and selfish.

LittleMelissa9614 · Accepted Answer

I say just move on. I mean it's not like you were committed to this girl. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Unless there's something going on with her in her life, but that's up to you. You can keep trying, wait for her, or just move on.

sadstrawberry · Accepted Answer

Some other dick in her vagina, give her time. Stay friends and wait haha. Some woman don't cheat. Nowadays no one is single. All are dating someone or the other.

RavVid · Answer

If she was as keen as she appeared to be, she would have made some time as she has with her female friends. Just politely ask her how that big project is going and see if you get a response I think.

slatyb · Answer

Ask again and if you can't make a date then it's no.

bobalife · Answer

Ask again when she’s free

LiamJHayden · Answer

She might have had a momentary desire, but it should be obvious that you are not a priority. Move on.

laly520 · Answer

she ain't interested

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