Are prople who ghost most likely self centered, selfish, narcissists etc?

[red324]

Any or all of these traits. For example, I asked this girl out on a date and we agreed to a place, then she messages saying just let me know a day and time. I messaged back a couple hours later. She never even even looked at the message I sent. 🙄 I checked back two weeks later and she still never checked the message. Why not just say no in the first place.

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Then a month later she'll make a facebook post about how nobody treats her right 🙄 well gee I wonder why...

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I think ghosting is just the way of the world these days. I showed up to the jobsite today and find they hired someone else, nobody said a word to me...🙄 Oh we found someone cheaper they say when I get them on the phone.

[82lynx]

Somewhat off-topic but I was reminded of this...

One chick who likely had some SERIOUS issues stood me up when I took buses to get to a very busy spot just to purchase a laptop bag. I had my suspicions when she didn’t answer my updates, which I couldn’t send on the go because I despise smartphones. Later on, after I sent a heated message upon returning home, she said she got suspicious and her cop boyfriend (yeah, BS) told her not to go. As someone I used to know once said, I made a long trip for f*** all.

[Anonymous]

I used to talk to guy from this site. He does everything I want I never asked him anything money its just what he does for me like simple things a guy does to a woman like when I ask him to do something like write my name on a paper he would write it and take a picture and send it to me. Like he does everything literally for me. We used to talk to here sometimes he wrote stories for me I did the same for him too. He said he likes me and get jealous when I tell him I hangout with guys. But suddenly he just left and hasn't logged in on his account for like 8 mos now. No idea what happened to him but the last time he ghosted me he said he got a girlfriend so I wonder if he got a girlfriend now too or found someone else. He lives in other part of the world and I live on other side. I still think of him even though he ghosted me. I wonder if he ghosted me because he found someone in his own country.

[Account]

They are simply people who are not interested in you. They are not necessarily narcissistic or self centered or selfish. None of us should feel entitled to a response. Sometimes we don't receive one and that is alright.

[Account]

Arranging a date and then never saying anything is indeed rude, however ghosting in general is not necessarily a narcissist behavior. She should at least have had the decency to cancel

[shoeboxcerealcard]

Actually it is selfish. It's inconsiderate and displays that is apart of that persons philosophy. It's very serious! You're seeing who that person is. People reveal themselves to us all the time and we take it lightly. One shouldn't want to be with someone who lacks consideration for others. A trail of sister traits follow. Controlling being one of them whether overt or through manipulation.

I agree with you it shouldn't make them a narcissistic but it does reveal negative traits in them.

[Chelsdope0]

Very narcissistic

[Account]

Ι simply think that not receiving an answer is an answer on its own and should be considered as such. It is just the way it is nowadays

[Chelsdope0]

I agree. It’s happened to me.

It took me a minute to get over because it hurt my ego BAD. I cursed him out until he had no choice but to respond…

But never again. I learned from that… take the L in silence.

[red324]

@Chelsdope0 A lot of girls nowadays just block you as soon they send the break up text which usually leaves more questions than answers.

[red324]

So you can't even work it out

[Anonymous]

I don't think they are necessarily narcissistic. It's more like cowardly. Her feelings changed (she likely has someone else in mind), but she didn't dare to call it off. It's frustrating.

I actually had to ghost someone last week form an online dating site after making plans (but not confirming the time). I think mine was justified in my mind because every time we had a conversation, it just felt so one-sided. She wouldn't ask anything or try to get to know me. I was enthusiastic in my responses and tried to get to know her. There Despite all of this, she said she wanted to meet up. I just felt immediately turned off.

[Clyde_123]

Good for you.

[httpbibimbap07]

Me, myself, I ghosted a man that I have been dated for months. A few months later I saw a girl that I never knew before post a picture of him, without him repost that picture and we were on a long distance. He didn’t say anything about it. That moment I knew that I need to walk away without saying a word. Because the more I got attached to him, the more I hurt my feelings and it’s not good for my mental and emotional state. I need and should prioritize myself more. In this case, I can say I am selfish.

[red324]

Someone appreciates him more than you do looks like.

[Chelsdope0]

Good. Take care of your mental health bc men will definitely hurt you

[dustybiker2]

Maybe she has her phone set to not give notice when a message is read?
She might have thought it easier to not let you down in person, as rude as ghosting is. I'd rather people just lie they are in a relationship than do this to people.

[red324]

I'd rather them say they aren't interested so I can figure out why. I'm not saying I'm entitled to an answer from them, but at least maybe I can evaluated if it's maybe something I'm doing wrong. When you go and approach 200 plus women and they all have a boyfriend already I'm just going to assume I must have impeccable taste in women. Now if they straight up said they weren't interested, then I would have looked back at myself. I'll admit it took me a while before I went, huh sure is strange nobody is available. I guess I'm a bit clueless sometimes 😂

[wiltingrosepetal]

The people I know who do it are just socially awkward and find it much easier to block than to say 'hey, i don't want to meet with you anymore'. So yeah, I relate it to cowardice

[Anonymous]

There's a lot wrong wrong with someone who ghosts. Let's just call the person who does it "damaged". And not in a "victim" way. A mentally healthy person does not act in this manner.

[red324]

That's all I attract though. There's millions and millions of these women out there.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, most women today are NOT relationship material. You have to determine who these women are much quicker. But look on the bright side man. Much better she ghost you then remain in your life and destroy it. I know it's not fun , but look at it on the bright side you actually dodged a bullet.

[EDR44]

Definitely selfish and obviously not ready to be dating anyone. I have never ghosted someone its rude weak and sad. It would be great if people actually communicated why instead of ghosting

[WhitneySnow]

Most likely but she could have a legit excuse why she ghosted you

[spartan55]

Ghosting is sorry ass, I don't know about narcissistic.

[Flatmanlewis]

Sometimes they are just immature. Hopefully they grow and learn.

[Anonymous]

No, just huge cowards.
-signed “still scorned by a ghoster” 🤣

[JHAYES317]

That would make virtually every girl I’ve ever matched with on dating apps narcissists since practically all of them have ghosted me at some point.

[OddBeMe]

Were the world’s cynics. Why waste time on goodbyes?

[dustybiker2]

Some people need closure, even from the crazies, as confirmation that have stopped chasing.

[OddBeMe]

@dustybiker2 Uhg. Emotions. No thank you.

[dustybiker2]

Ugh. You took that class too?

[red324]

@dustybiker2 what class? There was class? Must have missed that day lol

[dustybiker2]

@red324 You don't know how lucky you are, sir! True bullet dodged.

[red324]

@dustybiker2 I'm just glad I never got any of those broads preggers. I thought about this on the way to work this morning. I was like if they aren't going to stick around, might as well just adopt a kid that way they're 100 percent my responsibility, none of this paying for someone else to take care of them too nonsense.

[dustybiker2]

Save some kid (s) from horrible existence in foster care.

[OddBeMe]

@red324 The class is bullshit. Be glad you missed out on “emotions”. I think everyone has at least half their “friends” just becuase they’re too polite to tell them to fuck off.

So ghost.

[dustybiker2]

This puts our friendship into proper perspective

[OddBeMe]

@dustybiker2 thank your local cynic.

[dustybiker2]

A snake eating its own tail.

[ALLURING24]

People who ghost other people are all the bad stuff you said and more.

[dragoblack]

More burned by bad experiences and/or anxiety if possibly dealing with those said bad situations.

[red324]

That's true. I forget that girls get nervous too, but hell i've been on so many dates that I don't really get that nervous anymore since it's not like they go anywhere anyways lol

[DreamLife7]

It means she doesn't like you. Accept the rejection and move on. She owes you nothing

[red324]

I get that, but if she's not interested you say that! You don't arrange a date, then disappear.

[red324]

So you think that's okay to agree to a date then back out?

[red324]

Have respect for yourself and the other person

[Chelsdope0]

It’s not right… your feelings are validated… I understand the feeling..

[DreamLife7]

@red324 she's not going to say it. So you might aswell move on. Men do this all the time to women.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

@dreamlife7 just because people do it doesn't justify it. Perhaps you don't mean that to imply that.

[DreamLife7]

@shoeboxcerealcard who cares 🤷🏼‍♀️. People have free will. Move on and stop trying to control people

[82lynx]

I say it means she’s a heartless piece of shit.

[DreamLife7]

@82lynx you're entitled and need to grow up. She's not obligated to like you. When women tell men they aren't interested what does the man do? He either gets angry and tries to harm her or keeps trying to pursue her regardless of her saying no. Your reactions now is the perfect example of why women ghost.

[82lynx]

I’m not entitled at all. I don’t even approach and have never dated. In spite of that, I’ve had so many bad experiences with you she-devils that the idea of a relationship disgusts me.

P. S. FU.

[DreamLife7]

Ur unhinged seek help

[Slim57]

Yeah world's full of it nowadays, you see it just driving to work and back everyday

[whistlingwh0res]

yes I am self centred and I ghosted a lot of people

[serious]

No, not necessarily.

[Friendlybro79]

Nah they're just assholes.

[Fuentes]

Any girl who ignores me get the block list

[itsclearlynicholas]

Probably

[itsclearlynicholas]

It's as rude as the GaG people who don't reply to messages on here, like if you don't wanna talk say so or block is my. motto, the chicks on here, urgh growls bear 🐻🐻🐻

[Pohjolan]

Or just lazy.