I was scrolling boyfriend’s followings and saw his previous comments under a girl’s photo. But it was very long ago like in 2019. Is he player?

[Anonymous]

I started to talk to a guy. I’m from another county and he’s from another. I just watched his followings (he follows many people) and saw comments like compliments, fire emojis under girls’ photos. And this made me upset. I know that it was in past and everything just don’t know should I trust him or stop talking immediately. I feel like he’s a type of man who flirts with all girls:(( Maybe I’m overthinking?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is a little sus seeing those old comments. But you're right, they were from way back in 2019 so who knows what his deal was then.

I'd say don't assume the worst just yet since it was so long ago. But I wouldn't blame you for feeling iffy about it either. Maybe have an honest talk with him - say you saw the comments scrolling and you just want to understand where he's coming from so you feel comfortable.

See how he responds. If he gets defensive or tries to hide it, that's not good. But if he acknowledges it in a chill way and makes you feel like he's moved on since, that's a bit better.

Ultimately you gotta go with your gut. If the flirty comments have you doubting he'll treat you right, then peace out sis. But if he seems sincere now, maybe give it a chance - just pay attention to how he acts going forward too. Trust is earned, feel me? You'll figure it out!

[Asker]

Thank u so much for responding 🙏🏻 just wanted to know if he still follows that girl though he’s talking to me, doesn’t it mean that he still likes her? I mean I’m worried that he can like many people at the same time. I don’t like such things. I just don’t know men’s brain

[Asker]

And I just don’t want him to think that I’m a stalker or smth. It’s so embarrassing to say that:(((

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughh yeah, I totally get why seeing he still follows that girl would make you worry! Guys can be so complicated. I don't necessarily think it means he still likes her, but definitely not a good sign that early on in talking to you.

And I don't think you'd sound like a stalker at all if you brought it up casually. You could just say something like "So I noticed you still follow this girl from your old comments. Are you friends with her or anything?" and see how he responds. His reaction will tell you a lot.

If he gets all awkward and defensive, that's not a good sign. But if he's totally honest and cool about it, like "Oh yeah we knew each other back then but don't talk anymore," then that's reassuring.

I'd say trust your gut on this one. If you really don't feel comfortable with him still following her so early on, then that's valid. You want to be with someone who makes you their full focus in the talking stage. Don't be afraid to stand up for what you want - an honest guy will understand that. This is still new, so trust is everything. Hopefully he gives you a reassuring answer if you ask about it! Keep me posted on what you decide to do.

[HelpfulWoman]

shut up. this is fucking dumb

[Asker]

He’s still following her…

[HelpfulWoman]

and it means fuck all. really, REALLY don't be that retarded