Got too drunk with a friend and maybe embarrassed myself?

[Anonymous]

I’ve got a good friend named Evan that I’ve known for almost 5 years. We’ve had our ups and downs and we’re in a little situationship about a year ago but that ended when he moved. We got back in touch and I went to go see him and unfortunately got too wasted. He was pretty drunk too and barely remembers more than I do but still told me some stuff I’m embarrassed of. We slept together, which isn’t out of the norm, but he said then I kept trying to again when he wanted to sleep. He also said I told him some embarrassing secrets, not too bad but stuff I kinda feel weird about now. He messaged me the next day because he had to work and told me to let myself out whenever I was ready to go, then told me all that stuff. He kinda laughed it off and I apologized a few times but I’m really embarrassed.
I’ve had a huge crush on him the whole time I’ve known him. He’s seen me wasted, I’ve seen him wasted doing the same kinda of stuff too so I don't know why I feel so awkward. I really wanna see him again, but I’m worried that on top of making a fool out of myself, that he sees me as a rebound after his most recent relationship. I can’t stop thinking about that night and I’m so ashamed I can’t think about anything else. I feel so bad, but also really hope he still wants to see me. I don't know exactly where we stand, if I should give him some time before asking again but it’s not a good time right now anyway due to our schedules.
Should I wait till I know he’s free and ask to meet up again and not drink as much or at all? He was very sweet in the messages after and sent some with hearts and kiss faces etc as well as complimenting me a lot in person but I’m confused on his feelings about me and if I should ask to see him again?

[DoggyDude]

Definitely! Ask to see him again. His feelings on you are unknown, but its certain he's into you because guys don't really bother to sleep with a girl their not into. It doesn't mean necessarily how exactly he's feeling, but that will partly be defined by how your positioning yourself. Get in touch, initiate some interactions together. If you get a chance, tell him your feeling closer to him and see where that takes the conversation.

It's a nice chance to find out what might be. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

'also really hope he still wants to see me.'

I wonder what it is about so many women that makes them seek situations that deplete them of time and options. This 'situationship' serves no purpose period. I think it's time you took a step back and reevaluated what it is you are doing here before you get to a point where you realize just how much time you've wasted. Best to stop now.

You said 'I’m confused on his feelings about me'

But his feelings for you are very clear. He is not committed to you, not offering to marry you, not talking about having children, not planning a future... but he is ok sleeping with you and acquiring pleasure from you.

Ladies and gentleman. I think it's about time we stopped taking part in useless friends with benefits and Situationship. You are all surely better than this. Your body is supposed to be the temple of the Holy Ghost...

Stop selling yourself short and allowing short lived pleasure to rule your life.

[Rangers]

You two should date eachother, and no need to be embarrassed, you should see me when I'm drunk, which I almost always am

[Fireguy17]

just remember, no good story started out with I was eating a salad...
it happens, own it and move on.

[Anonymous]

Why didn’t you ever just date normally if you’re so into this guy?

[Asker]

How does that answer my question? I was with my ex for a long time and when me and this guy were talking just wasn’t the right time

[Opinion Owner]

I just find it remarkable that you’ve known the guy for five years and in a sexual relationship with him for a whole year but the idea of dating just didn’t come up.

Do you always give it up without dating or only when you’re drunk?

🤷‍♂️ I tried to be nice. You’re the one who got all “How does that answer my question.” 🙄

Good luck with your love life. Maybe try dating someone and having some romance before you spread your legs and think they will consider you as anything more than that drunk girl they can bang with no stress, attention, or strings attached.