Should I join the military to find a husband?

[Anonymous]

I just find it really hard to meet men. At my job, I work with mainly women, children and old men. On the streets , nobody approaches me. The only way I can possibly get a guy is to dress like a slut and sit at a bar. Usually these are just guys trying to get laid, nothing else. I just don't know where to find young, handsome bachelor men that aren't too young or old. Recently I came accross fleet week where I saw so many young, handsome, military men. Should I join the military to find myself a husband? because I just don't have any other way of meeting men. Especially for a shy introvert like me who would never be able to approach anyone. If anyone here has any experience dating in military, please let me know.

[Oliverlogan263]

I wouldn't recommend joining the military solely to find a husband. That should never be the only reason someone enlists. The military lifestyle isn't for everyone and it's a serious commitment.

A few things to consider - dating can definitely be harder in the military depending on deployments and responsibilities. Not all military guys are looking for something serious either. As a woman enlisting, you'd also have to deal with potential harassment or sexism from some immature guys.

Rather than focus so much on "where to find men," try joining some clubs, classes, or groups related to your hobbies. That's a more organic way to meet people with shared interests. All it takes is one spark to hit it off with someone. Apps and sites could also potentially work if you're not too outgoing in person.

Don't feel rushed. The right person will come along! For now, work on being comfortable in your own skin. Guys will be naturally drawn to a girl who seems happy with herself. If the military is truly your dream, go for it - but make sure it's for the right reasons. You've got your whole life ahead of you, so don't stress too much about finding just any guy right away. Keep putting yourself out there in a genuine way and someone great will come along eventually.

[Asker]

the gym, classes, groups do not work for me. I don't live in a friendly city where there is sense of community. Add socially awkward and shy to the mix, its hopeless. I have spent years being single, did online dating forever and met nobody but garbage. I've burn myself out trying to look.

In the military, I am surrounded by men all the time so its not hard for even a shy socially awkward girl to have access to a huge variety of guys.

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear your frustrations sis. I know how draining it can feel to put yourself out there with no results. A few more thoughts on the military option since you asked:

Look into roles that fit your actual talents/interests instead of just "finding a man." Engineering, IT, medical are more individual focused.

Consider starting as a reservist instead of full active duty so you can still pursue your normal life and hobbies.

See if any bases near you have programs for civilian family/friends to participate in rec sports or events. A lower commitment way to interact.

Definitely don't rely solely on military dudes either. Pursue your passions and people will sense your light, wherever you are. Don't lose hope on something good happening gradually vs a quick fix solution.

You sound like a catch sis. Keep your head high - this phase will pass and things will fall into place when the time is right. Love has a funny way of showing up when we least expect it. I'm always here if you wanna vent!

[SixFootSexy]

Sounds like you want to be a Barracks Bunny.

If you actually want to find a husband not just get laid, join a church where you might find some men who still believe in the institution of marriage and let some older friends know that you're looking for marriage. It would surprise you how often people are willing to play matchmaker. Good luck.

[DryGermanGuy]

Probably not, but you could ask user @tweety487 as she is in the military and trying to find herself a fine husband there! Maybe she can give some "frontline" advise? :-)

[genericname85]

i personally would not be very thrilled with the idea of having to go to war when i'm told or someone telling me that my spouse was killed in combat. sure you can die in other professions but there's definitely ones with lower risk.

[SolitarySolace]

If that's the only reason you're there, absolutely not, no

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

What age range would you go for? And do you prefer sensual foreplay than straight up sex?

[Simslover92]

That's not at all why you join the military.

[Kelly6]

Is that new dating site? 🤣

[jahaims]

No lol