Is it normal for a man to slow his pursuing a woman after almost three months of dating?

[kris89]

In the beginning he was texting me wanting to see me often. Saying he “had” to see me and would often text he missed me. We are still seeing each other 2-4 times a week, but how he texts me has changed. He isn’t as pushing in text. Not as many “I miss you”. Is it because he’s more comfortable now and knows he has me more “locked in” I guess or it’s just not exciting anymore? Also, I told the guy I’m seeing that I’m “falling in love” with him and he said it back to me and then reassured me a second time that he too was falling in love with me. He isn’t a huge texter to begin with and I sometimes have anxiety over that…but should I be worried or is this normal male behavior once you know the girl is invested in you?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Guys tend to slow down a little once they feel more comfortable in a relationship.

It's normal for the super intense puppy love phase to die down after a few months. Doesn't mean he likes you any less, just means things are settling into more of a routine. And you said he's still making an effort to see you a couple times a week, so that's good!

Plus you already had that talk about falling for each other, so he probably feels secure knowing you're both on the same page emotionally. My advice would be to try not overthinking the texting stuff too much. As long as you're still spending quality time together in person, that's what really matters.

He may just not be huge on texting to begin with either. I wouldn't read too much into it unless he starts cancelling plans or seems distant when you're together. From the sound of it, I think you're good! Just try distracting yourself when the anxiety hits and trust that he likes ya. Everything's probably fine luv, don't stress!

[kris89]

Thank you. I think I’m just stressed that he is backing out or having second thoughts about telling me he was falling love with me. This was a week ago, but we have been together since then. I may just be getting in my head a bit.

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome but look here mama, I totally get why you'd be stressed! It's always so nerve wracking when you lay your feelings out there first and then something seems to change. But from the sounds of it, you've got no solid reason to think he's pulling back yet either.

I'd say next time you see him, don't mention anything about the texting difference. Let yourself just enjoy being together in person without that concern in the back of your mind. See how things feel between you - is the vibe and chemistry still there?

If so, that's a really good sign! Sometimes we just psych ourselves out for no reason. I'd bet once you relax, you'll click like normal and all will be well.

And then down the road if you're still feeling unsure, you can casually bring it up. But for now, try not to dwell on it. Trust that what you have is real until given an actual reason not to. You deserve to be happy girl! This may just be pre-date jitters is all. Stay positive 💖

[Anonymous]

If you can get 3 months out of most guys, you have done well.

[LazerBean]

If he feels like it going nowhere then yeah

[Anonymous]

Sure, if he started to lose all interest in you.