I go back and forth on this, but as of now, I blame men. The peacock should put his feathers down, gobble up as much grain as he can, and then go home and watch Netflix.
I can't believe I never understood this before. I grew up on a farm!
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Every time I talk to @Juxtapose a new question pops into my head? We all know that online dating doesn't work, but who do you blame?
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Online dating is the most common way that people meet partners for long term relationships. Those who have no success are online whining about it, blaming online dating instead of themselves. However, online dating works for many people, but they aren't online bragging about their successes because most of them are busy enjoying the life that they actually have. I am one of those successes; on April 27, I will be married to a lady who I met online in December 2020.
Perhaps the fact that the unsuccessful ones are so eager to blame something other than themselves offers a clue about why they are unsuccessful!
Are you speaking about your own success, or are you speaking for the majority that disagree with you?
If the majority has no success with online dating, how is it the most common way that people find partners for their LTR?
Again, people who don’t have success want to blame the institution of online dating rather than taking responsibility for their own failures.
Did you find her in America?
Of course.
I'm confused why you chose to argue about this. If you won the lottery, would you advocate for gambling? OK, so it worked out for you, but is that the norm, or the exception? My advice to guys is to not waste their time on dating sites. Get some "game" and go out in the real world. Your advice is to do online dating. Cool beans.
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This is where I want guys to go.
You sign up for free. You join as many groups as you want. (hiking, biking, yoga, dancing etc.) You don't have to be single to join the site, but that's the gist of it. You join the clubs you want and then you sign up for the various events your clubs offer. Dancing and dining are by far the most popular groups. You join the group. You sign up for the event, then you get off your lazy ass and go. It works. Trust me, I've been on dating sites. You don't have to get off your lazy ass and do anything. I'm happy it worked for you.
1. "I'm confused why you chose to argue about this." I disagree with your statements about online dating and this is a site on which people express their opinions.
2. "If you won the lottery, would you advocate for gambling?" I've never played the lottery, I would not advocate it, and that is an invalid comparison.
3. "OK, so it worked out for you, but is that the norm, or the exception?"
A survey from OnePoll/Forbes Health conducted in August 2023 polled 5,000 U. S. respondents who have actively dated in the last five years, and looked into how people date, how they prefer to date, online and app-based dating and more. Nearly 70% of individuals who met someone on a dating app said it led to a romantic, exclusive relationship, while 28% said it did not. Males were more likely to have met someone on a dating app and have it lead to an exclusive relationship (75%), compared to 66% of females.
Online dating is still very popular, with nearly three in 10 U. S. adults saying they have used a dating site or app, and more than 40% stating that online dating has made dating easier for them. The top place to find dates according to 45% respondents was online dating apps, followed by being connected by a friend (33%) and concerts or festivals (32%).
www.forbes.com/.../
4. "My advice to guys is to not waste their time on dating sites." The above survey results show that online dating is not a waste of time for most people.
5. "Get some game and go out in the real world." I agree.
6. "Your advice is to do online dating. Cool beans." First, online dating IS the real world. You meet someone online, chat a few times, then schedule a date. . . in the real world. Are you one of those people who thinks that online dating is ALL done online? Second, I never suggested that online dating is preferable to meeting people in the traditional way. I merely said that online dating works if you approach it properly.
7. "This is where I want guys to go. Meetup." Brilliant! You lambast me for saying that online dating works, you suggest that people should do everything in the real world, and your solution is to sign up for something ONLINE because it will lead to real world interactions (the same as online dating. I met my fiancee online and had our first date - in the real world, not virtually - within a week.)
8. "You join the group. You sign up for the event, then you get off your lazy ass and go. It works." You join the online dating site, you meet someone, you suggest a meeting, then you get off your lazy ass and go. It works!
9. "Trust me, I've been on dating sites. You don't have to get off your lazy ass and do anything." If you didn't get off your ass and do anything, of course it didn't work! I hear SO MANY people who tried it, had no success, and they blame "the system" of online dating instead of themselves. And that is why I responded; people who use such excuses need to have others call them on their BS.
You're a lost cause. I'll post a question about this.
I was thinking the same thing about you. The only way to understand you is to assume that you don't understand online dating. Some people have this crazy notion that online dating means EVERYTHING you do in online and you never meet in person. THAT would be a huge waste of time. But real online dating works. Your personal experience may be different but that doesn't change the statistics I cited.
It works for people who use it right and who are actually decent. So I don't blame either gender for when it doesn't world for someone, but rather blame that individual for their own failure.
I have no idea what you just said.
Okay.
Yes.
Because people have so much choice they tend to alway want more or better when it comes to dating in my opinion plus most aren't truthful when it comes to dating
Why did mother nature design this in birds?
Because it would increase the birds chance to be noticed and be able to mate
But look at this picture.
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Mother nature designed this. Why would "mating" be so one-sided? Wouldn't it make more sense if both birds were attractive?
I like you, and I think you're a nice guy. But I don't think you get what I'm asking.
Why are the boy guppies prettier than the girl guppies? You say it's about attraction, but doesn't it go both ways?
Because u are looking at it from a human point of view animals mate to breed for the most part with males attempting to attract female animals they don't date or pick what's looks pretty for the most part as males
No because most animals the male attempts to attract the female that gets yo pick and choose who will mate with it
Yes, it's a human thing.
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It is as its also a human thing to also do what's against the norm 😅
And birds and guppies are fighting the norm.
How are they when if u look in most of the abimal Kingdom it tends to be the male that attempts to attract a female with such tactics?