I started talking to this girl in 2022, we went on a few dates hooked up a few times. Most of our dates were at my place, we went on a few dates outside when she asked. I didn't like where I was in life and had to clear my head so I went on a trip for like 3 months I just travelled a few states and spend a few days in Canada. I talked to her when I could. I just needed to clear my head I planned 3 weeks but it just went on for longer. I responded to her when I got the chance too. So I came back from my trip I found out she was talking to someone else I did say a few harsh things to her that I'm not proud of I called her a slut amongst other things her abusive ex said to her that she shared with me. I made it I didn't want a girlfriend from the beginning cause I wasn't in the best of mental states she said she was okay with waiting her waiting was 9 months from 2022 October until 2023 June. I really did hurt her feelings but her excuse was nothing was gonna change no matter she waited but I was gonna make it official when I got back I just expected to have a bit more patience what she wanted was coming. She stopped talking to me and whenever we see each other in public she runs away. I apologized and honestly dont get why she is upset. She says my apology wasn't an apology it sounded like something a child reads infront of the class as punishment and she wants nothing to do with me she hasn't spoken to me in 5 months since last year. She's honestly over reacting. I do admit saying she was for the streets and her ex was right about her might have triggered her trauma but it's a bit too much treating me like a low life, I'm the second guy she's kinda dated and slept with.
Dude, I totally get you wanted space to clear your head, but 9 months is a long time to leave a girl hanging without commitment. And travelling without consistent communication probably made her feel really unsure of your interest level.
Calling her those names was incredibly hurtful and out of line, especially knowing about her trauma. That's not how you treat someone you care about.
I know you probably feel rejected, but try looking at it from her perspective - she opened her heart and waited a long time only to be disrespected. That kind of betrayal is painful, and cut deep.
Of course she needs space now. Pushing isn't going to fix it, only make it worse. All you can do is give her that, respect her boundaries, and use this as a learning experience to be more considerate of a partner's feelings in the future.
Maybe someday she'll be ready to sincerely accept an apology, but for now, you just gotta accept that you really hurt her dude. Just try to do better next time.
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Dude from reading your comments all this crap sound like bs and made up
I don’t know anything about you or anything about her, but I do know this; most girls don’t like having their time wasted. Especially as we get older. You planned to make your relationship official in 3 weeks, and then dragged it out to 9 months. So my question is, did you give her a timeline of when you would have been ready? How often were you talking with her and how long were your conversations?
There comes a point in time where a lack of communication and a lack of a plan lead to a rise in doubt. You say she only had to wait 9 months, but dude, she’s already been waiting for 2 years!
Why would you want someone for the streets instead of to yourself?
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Make up your mind. You're either going to abuse her or protect her. You seem super immature
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