She got upset once and was done with me is there another reason that she wouldn’t tell me?

[Anonymous]

Me and her been together for a bit dating not fb official tho, and nothing was wrong she constantly telling me how happy she was and how much she liked, me showing me to all her friends and such …then I was quiet on one car ride from dinner bc i didn’t feel well (I told her i wasn’t feeling well) and it really made her mad and after a few days she told me that she was mad about it and how I was on the “shit list” for it and she didn’t want to talk for those days and even was the reason she would cancel dinner plans we had, but we were fine after like nothing really happened for like 3 days and she made plans for Sunday with me and kept making sure I knew the times and everything, then she ghosted me for the day and reached out, hrs later after I reached out to her friend we were meeting later in the day to see if she heard from her and if she was ok bc i hadn’t and it was out of character. To which my girl messaged me saying her friend told her I reached out and told me she was ok but she changed her mind on the plans and didn’t feel like telling me, followed with her saying we were friends and everything was just as friends (which makes no sense for everything we did as well as her telling everyone we were together)

which we haven’t talked besides asking for my stuff and giving her stuff back like two weeks later, which she seemed really happy when she was talking to me and trying to keep the conversation going a bit in small talk. But didn’t want to see me to give my stuff back.

but what happened everything was going so good and we were extremely close and for it to mean nothing bc I was quiet and I guess checking with her friend to see if she heard from her

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, I don't get chicks sometimes. That whole situation sounds really weird.

For her to go from saying how happy she was with you, introducing you to friends, acting all coupley - and then suddenly cut it all off just 'cause you weren't talking much one time? Makes no sense.

And the part about getting mad if you checked on her when she flaked out of plans too - that's kinda messed up. Why get so pissy about caring how she's doing?

My best guess is something else was going on with her that she didn't tell you about. Maybe she wasn't as into it as she said and that little argument was just her excuse to bail. Or some other dude came along she liked more. Who knows with girls dude.

Either way, you're probably better off just moving on. Someone that flakey ain't worth the hassle. Her loss man! Throw yourself back into the game and forget about her trifling ass. Plenty other fish and all that. Stay up bro

[Asker]

Yeah I agree…. im just so confused bc that has never happened to me before, and the sudden change just has me shocked…. there must’ve been something she was hiding very well bc she would ask to hangout pretty much every day after she got off of work and that little problem to be such a issue, then I just feel bad bc I let it sit for a couple days bc i wanted a little bit of space bc of how much we spent time together.

But in the end your right no need to put myself through the trouble, just gotta accept it all as a lies and leave it there if everything meant anything or what she said i don’t believe she would’ve been trying to make everything an issue and a big deal

Glad im not the only one that thought checking in with her friend wasn’t some out there thing bc she made it out like is was a huge deal and a overstepping a boundary even tho I met that friend a few times

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, girls can really have you scratching your head sometimes. Sounds like she was just looking for an excuse to bail if a small argument caused that big of a reaction.

Definitely nothing wrong with checking in with a friend when she wasn't responding, she was probably just trying to make you feel bad to justify her decision. Don't let her get to you with that guilt trip - you didn't do anything wrong bro.

The best thing is like you said, just accept it happened and don't waste your time trying to figure it out. Easier said than done since it came out of nowhere, but better to move on than stress over what you can't control. Keep your head up homie, you'll find another girl who won't play games like that. Just live your life and have fun, she'll be the one missing out!