What are some ways to avoid becoming obsessed with getting a boyfriend? Is it possible?

[Usersarepoo]

My experience with previous experience has mostly has be bad and I been cheated on some previous relationship. I used to be bit boy crazy but still obsessed about getting a new boyfriend but I how to do I stop bothering with finding a boyfriend or just stop looking for one. I have been going out more to social events in real life and is better to find a new boyfriend in real life then from online dating has been shit for me when comes to looking for a long term relationship or long term relationship.

[Kaneki05]

Becoming obsessed ain't bad but it is when spent on someone who don't deserve it.
It's always better to find someone close but realistically harder, especially depending on your hobbies and circle.
I mean the last thing you want to do is stop trying, because while things do happen when not trying it's also just limiting anything that could happen but now won't and you'll never know.

There is no real easy fix, some people offer the advice to work on yourself that's true to an extent but if you only do that the lack of finding someone persists.
Honestly keep spinning the wheel, maybe try to find a pattern that leads to problems focus on that but still keep spinning the wheel.
Also many times that pattern won't be on you, it will be their pattern that's the problem if your running into cheatings and that so see what their pattern is.

[Serkee]

You want what you want, you can't really just flip a switch and turn that off. Trust me, if I could stop wanting a girlfriend I would, but it's baked into our DNA to want a partner so we're sorta SOL in that regard. My best advice (though I'm probably not the best person to take advice from) is to look into some hobbies that men tend to enjoy, and see if any of them might interest you. It's a lot easier to make a genuine bond over shared interests than through generic social events. I do think you're making the right call in avoiding online dating. Online dating is pretty shitty for both men and women. Women get swarmed by way too many guys to make a confident decision, and men are lucky to get one match a month. It's honestly just toxic for everyone involved, nobody is happy.

[Usersarepoo]

I don't like very tall men and from my UK and so far men has be trash as reading body laughing, trash about kept changing they darm mind and did met one player from online dating. Kept finding tall men online dating. I don't have many interests part from gaming. Only other option are disco or rave.

[Serkee]

Yeah, we aren't very good at reading body language or picking up on hints or signs women send our way. That's pretty frustrating on our end too. If you want a guy to know what you do or don't want, you need to be clear and direct. Women are much better at detecting subtle hints than we are so they tend to expect us to understand what they want, but unless you tell us directly we have no idea, and it's a frustrating guessing game.

[Usersarepoo]

But being direct when you already attractive women is Impossible think they playing a game but I always be direct and men still trash if I been very much direct.

[Serkee]

I'm not sure what you mean. Are you saying men are trash, or that they don't understand what you're telling them?

[Usersarepoo]

They have zero clue what I'm wanting and being direct doesn't help with men that think very good looking women will thanks is a trick or games to get reject by.