Help, should I have asked her out?

[Anonymous]

There was a woman I knew from grade school, that remembered me, and sent me a Facebook request. I accepted it, and then I added her on Snapchat. Some months after that, she responded to one of my snaps stories, I think I said something that could have been construed as being hard on myself, and she just said something nice. I explain the rest short and too the point

I started to comment on her snaps more often, I don't know why, because I don't see her in person, or know her like that, and she would respond every time.

I then started to like her, I would basically tell her that she looked pretty a couple of times, and she would respond with hearts each time. I would also comment on stuff other than her appearance, and she appeared to enjoy talking to me. Would use emojis, exclamation marks, semicolons, said a decent amount most of the time, and the other times she would just like the message (if there was nothing to say I guess). Also would say more than just a simple thank you when I would compliment her. Would be like a thank you and the something else after it.

She frequently watches my stories, I don't know if its because she's just curious, but she replied to a few more of my stories and complimented me a couple more times, saying she thought I was nice, sincere, and she thought something about my appearance looked fine (I think it was my hair, cuz I cut it, and posted it for no real reason, just having fun, and she basically said it looked better before I cut it, but that it still looked fine. I figured she was just being nice, and trying to make me feel good. She never said that I was handsome or anything, so I figured she doesn't find me physically attractive. She never asked me out on a date either. Should I still have asked her out? I don't want any girl to be potentially upset, and feel like you can't even be nice or have casual convo without someone making someone more of it, if they don't feel the same way?

Yes, you dropped the ball

Probably

Uncertain

[coachTanthony]

You'll never know 100% if you have a chance with somebody and if you do would you really want them? Probably not so just do it... rejection is a part of life... so next time say this too yourself... I would rather be rejected and understood then ambiguous in my actions. No regrets.

[Asker]

True. I was just wondering if anyone thought she might have been showing interest, based on some of her actions, or if it was tough to tell?

[coachTanthony]

Sounds like you need the woman to show interest or go all the way to ask you out before you get the nerve to do anything. If that is the case you won't be very successful. Only thing that matters is that you are interested not if she is or not.

[Bethany22]

Ask her out. You guys are young. Most girls start out in life assuming people just talk to them because they're just being friendly. Some attractive women even maintain that innocence well into their 40s. So the sooner she can learn the cold hard truth that at least the majority of men only talk to women they find attractive, the less of a rude awakening she'll have when she's 60+ and suddenly no one is 'friendly' to her anymore.

[DishLady]

You’re WAY overthinking this… I got dizzy just reading how many media platforms you used to basically stalk each other. Ooof!


The girl should have to ask the guy out. She should be able to make a subtle show of interest and the guy should be able to grasp that and make the next move… like in a game of checkers… go ask her out already….

[Asker]

If you're saying she should have to ask me out, why would I ask her out? Also, you really feel like we both stalked each other lol?

[DishLady]

Yeah there was definitely a co-stalking vibe to the story... I'm saying either one of you could have asked in this situation. (For some reason we're all still hung up on the guy asking first... for a few old fashioned reasons, I guess... plus for a girl it's always nicer when the guy shows that little initiative... but in my opinion, it's not absolutely necessary for the guy to always be the one to ask.)

[Asker]

True, I just didn't know if that was enough to think that she was interested, I know you're supposed to take chances, but I try to be mature, and not jump to conclusions?

[TommyMountainFigure]

You should have asked her out on a date because you wanted to, not for any other reason. If you are happy just talking to her online then keep things that way. If she wants something more? That's for her to ask you.

[Asker]

True, I just didn't know if I had a chance, or if it was worth it. Didn't want to make any assumptions if she liked me or not.

[TommyMountainFigure]

If you had to choose as of now.. Would you like to go out with her?

[Asker]

Yeah, I just want to clean a few things with myself, so that I could be the best version of myself?

[TommyMountainFigure]

If I may give you just one little bit of advice. It's not just about this situation with her, but life in general. It is possible to be SO concerned everything be just right before you make a move, that you end up missing the boat.. ya know?

[Avicenna]

Yeah, life is too short not to shoot your shot

[exitseven]

Okay-the great Wayne Gretsky said that you miss 100% of the shots you don't make. Send her an email (not a text and ask her I she would like to meet up some time.

[molonski2]

Why would you not have a crack if you wanted to ask her out?

[jeremy_09]

If a girl is saying these things to you she would have sucked your cock if you asked

[slatyb]

Just ask her to a meeting.

[Asker]

Why a meeting?

[slatyb]

Coffee, lunch, dinner, whatever.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

No. Don't ask her out at all.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

This part says it all...
" I don't want any girl to be potentially upset, and feel like you can't even be nice or have casual convo without someone making someone more of it, if they don't feel the same way?"

[Asker]

Yeah, idrk if she is into me, but I don't know if I should have tried it, maybe there was a chance.