How should a guy respond when their partner asks, "Darling, does this dress make me look fat"?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

If you don't care about whether you get a proper kiss or endearment from your gal, just reply "yes dear" blindly till she hits the "fat" question and gets peeved at you...  If you're about to go out and want to salvage your girl's honor, you can kindly say, "Well, it's not as flattering as that outfit you wore the other day... You know, the one I like." This is a positive way to get her to change her outfit without landing yourself in the doghouse. (Bonus points bc you remembered something she wore or did in the past.) You can also give her the "lost boy" look and say nothing. She'll get it, but her feelings will be hurt. She'll change and swallow her feelings, which will lead to some cranky vibes between you for at least the rest of the day.  Option 2 seems like the best, but proper delivery is up to the guy...

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Say, " Don't ask me. Ask the internet ...". LOL. But honestly, this is one thing I will never understand. Why ask her guy? There is no way that ends well for him or her. If I were asking, it's because I already know the answer. I have eyes and a mirror. What is really being asked here is: " has  he  noticed yet ?".

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

Hahaha

I actually cracked the code to this one.

If the dress makes her look fat just look at the dress, not her, the dress with a confused look right by where it doesn't look right and say

"Where did you get that?"

And she'll say something like I thought it looked cute online and I've been working to fit in it etc. Whatever she says you go

"it's not hanging right, it looks good over here but I think it's the dress"

If she calls you on your shitfaced lie just double down

"If you think I look fat just tell me I'm fat"

"You didn't look fat (very specifically mention the last time she looked really good)"

Blame it on the dress, reassure her. Depending on the woman you could help her pick something else if you know what you want her to wear already.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I'd just tell her as I see it. Whether it's to my taste, whether I think it suits her figure, if I think the color contrasts nicely... I don't hold back. If it makes her look fat I'd let her know with no hesitation. I would hope that if I wore a hideous outfit or I was getting fat, my partner would be honest enought to tell me.

I don't believe in white lies. If you can't tell your partner, who can you tell?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

@DishLady has given you a great response. I can't say anything to add to her response.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I don't see the problem with saying, yes the dress makes you look fat and follow-it-up wit... perhaps that fit isn't right for you, I recall the red/black/blue dress you have fits you better.

Make it seem like it is the cut of the dress and not her body that is the issue. If she's put on a lot of weight then at some point you just have to say... I think we both need to go on diets. At least make it sound like you are willing to be more active with her and shed the pounds.

Stevepro68 · Answer

Pro tip... always always always say no and then give a actual observed reason why you like the dress on her. So later if her friends say it looks bad you can argue your point. It's really a check to see if you are paying attention.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Anyone with a basic grasp of the English language can be honest without sounding rude.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, it makes your butt look so small I can no longer see it.
The words "no it doesn't" should be flowing out of your moth before she is done talking.
Even a milliseconds delay and you are dead meat and will be rubbing yourself out for the next couple 2 3 years.

ShadesVow · Answer

There is literally no correct answer to this question. If you say yes she'll be mad. If you say no she'll think you are lying and also be mad. If you want to avoid this just find a woman who doesn't ask

worldscolide · Answer

"I'm not falling for that trap because if I tell you the truth you won't believe me, and if I lie you will be pissed at me, so I choose not to answer."

RingOfFire · Answer

You younger guys need to listen and listen good. The answer to this question is ALWAYS... listen carefully... "NO !!!"

sage2021 · Answer

How about just not asking him in the first place? Go look in a full length mirror and judge for yourself. And don't even but clothes that could make you look fat.

katiesmuff · Answer

Well for me I'd be laughing so hard it would be difficult for me to get the words out asking my husband what the hell is he doing in one of my mother's old dresses!🤣🤣🤣

electromagnetic · Answer

You say, ‘yes, you do.’  because if you say no, she won’t believe you. If you say yea, maybe shell consider changing into something she feel comfortable and confident in. 🤷🏾‍♀️

RavVid · Answer

She is expecting you to lie so you'd better. It is telling you still care about her despite her having gotten fat. That is what they are actually asking.

Anonymous · Answer

Guy: "No your fat makes you look fat". Woman: "What"? Guy "what"?

Unit1 · Answer

If you like the dress she's wearing, then dodge the question and say "I don't know but it looks good on you." or if you don't, then replace the second half with "i've seen other dresses, that i believe will suit you better". Hehe

Anpu23 · Answer

You are lovely. Im not sure how that dress effects that. (Male ignorance is an easy out)

adam6402 · Answer

"It's not the dress making you look fat, it's the fat making you look fat"

EmmaMary · Answer

@coachtanthony  Please be completely open and honest... Thank you.

paledreams · Answer

The best way to is to offer a better dress/better options like "look what I found" 🤭😛 not the same wording

msc545 · Answer

You should always say something like "no, it makes you look great".  This is the standard response unless you want major trouble.

Dargil · Answer

**Putting in my Lawyer hat**: "Sweetie, you look  fine!  You can't get into a perjury trap when you say that. It's a subjective opinion which does not address  fatness.  Its a reassurance that cannot be questioned.

OfDeath · Answer

“You can polish a turd but it’s still a turd”

LiamJHayden · Answer

"My love, you are perfect in every way."

NathanDavis · Answer

" is it going to rain today... it looks like it's going to rain today... "

82lynx · Answer

According to Married... With Children, anything less than telling her she looks “fine” is risking a groin pull at least.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

I sold the car for crack is usually the best response I thought?

dustybiker2 · Answer

"Let's see if it makes me look fat first."

purplepoppy · Answer

It gives a false impression

Miristheiss · Answer

Damn babe!!! You look huge!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

He should say, "No. Your rolls make you look fat."

thegreenyogi · Answer

Be honest.

Dongie · Answer

Tell little white lies if she does.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Yes you sounds like oink

noohair · Answer

You are kidding, right?

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Yes, it does make you look fat.

Surely · Answer

Nah! Mirrors always add a few pounds!

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