How can you tell if a guy is out of your league?

[Anonymous]

I often seen people say on the internet that if a woman has trouble getting a guy to commit to her, it is because he is out of her league.

[DishLady]

The made-up “league” concept is something created to formulate an excuse about why one person is or isn’t compatible with another person. Similar to the 1-10 “hotness” scale.


So let’s say the woman is CEO of a company and graduated from good schools with several degrees, blah blah blah. She meets a guy with a similar background and they’re in the “same league”, but she meets a guy who can’t read, perpetually loses his job and has, perhaps, a prison record…. She’s out of his league.


(You can swap and say it’s a male CEO etc and a woman who isn’t anything more than a “pick me”/housewife type… The point would be the same — that these two human creatures aren’t designed to satisfy each other properly.)

[FreyaRed]

No. Half of men have huge deficits in social skills which are necessary for finding a partner. The other half even if they look like Quasi Modo and have shitty characters have as option 100% of women.
Today when you want a normal men you need to pick some acceptable looking boy from the half who has difficulties to find a partner and teach them things which their fathers forgot to teach them and turn him in man. This isn't an easy task. You need practically to coach your own boyfriend or take some spoiled mofo from the other half who is living in a fantasy world of being 150cm, bald womenizer. lol

[Pohjolan]

Firstly its a question of whether she is relationship material or not?

Doesn't matter how hot she is if she is crazy.

Secondly how much she takes care of herself?

It would be hard to get a championship level athlete to commit to you if you are a flat slob yourself.

Thirdly how lucky one got in the genetic lottery and here is where it gets subjective.

Fourthly is he even looking for a relationship? If you are going to fuck a fuckboy, don't assume the he'll commit.

[ohsheeT]

Yeah but in reality what happens is anytime that word League shows up in the sentence or out of somebody's mouth the girl will usually end up getting with the guy that's out of her League and then somewhere down the road.. . Comes to find out that the league bullshit is just bullshit and he's no different than anybody else and the odds are is that he is out of her League.

[sheenagwapa]

i'm a cery simple person you do not like me, i do not like you too. i don't understand why things have to be complicated since people enter in a relationship because of a feelinh a ROMANTIC feeling


i was born ALOME the thing is i reallu do jot unferstand why i should or anuone should be forcinh themselves to be with a certain person


by the way i do not like to date someone who looks more mature because i have been with my ex for a long looong time and when i had a relationship i became a loner


and it's not because i am arrogant i just have been a social outcast for a lonh time now. i like gatherings, i enjoy the company of people i am just not the type who would organize unless there's a need. i am an introvert

[slatyb]

Leagues aren't real. People tend to seek their equals in intelligence, ambition, fitness, and emotional maturity. If he's interested in you, he's not out of your league.

What sort of commitment are you looking for? Exclusivity? Marriage? If he doesn't want what you want, then you either have to accept what you have, or you have to end it and find someone who does.

[Serkee]

Everyone is saying leagues don't exist, but we all know that's not true. Do you really think I have a shot with some bigshot hollywood actress? No, of course I don't. She's clearly out of my league. Status, beauty, wealth and charisma definitely matter. As long as standards exist, so does the idea of someone being out of your league, or vice versa.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

If I'm hypothetically intimidated, he's probably too good for me.

(I can't recall if that ever happened or if I ever felt intimidated by any guy.)

If I intimidate him, he lacks confidence which is important to me since I'm oozing with confidence.

Therefore, he's out of my league.

[molonski2]

People have said that of me my entire life.. So how could it be true? Because its been a constant..

Reverse that.. And who remotely cares what they say? Americans seem obsessed with ratings = Guess what? They dont exist , its all in your own heads.

[bobalife]

The first thing is recognizing that there is no “out of your league” because that dialogue is only making someone feel less than another person and it only creates a low self-esteem. Building your confidence and value is what matters rather someone rejects you or not - it does not devalue your worth.

[UnicornLobotomy]

They never tell you whether or not the woman has kids, or is overweight. For women and your age bracket having kids and Being overweight are all too common. And even if they look like a 9, but they have kids and they’re covered with tattoos, and they drink and curse, And they just chase guys who look like 8.5s to 9s, of course they’re going to just be used.

[Vegasrunner]

For starters you have to understand where you stand looks wise. If you're a 5 it's probably going to be difficult to get a 10 to sleep with you. Secondly you need to understand what a man wants, we don't care about your personality, your money, or any of the nonsense women try to lead with.

[electromagnetic]

No guy is out of your league! Aim high. There may be kinda who aren’t interested because of many factors including interests.

[Anonymous]

You ask him.

If he says "no" then you're not. If he doesn't answer, looks away, basically tries to avoid the question. Then yeah, he is.

Whether a guy commits has nothing to do with leagues. It has to do with whether the guy is committed or not. Some guys you'll never keep on the porch. Many women are just subconsciously attracted to them guys. So they'll always have this problem.

[Nikki1989]

There are NO leagues. That was just an immature cop-out invented by people to use as an excuse for their relationship failures.

[TheSpaceGnome]

There aren't actual leagues because people prefer different types of looks.
Whats really happening is that particular person is settling, then regetting that choice later, which prevents commitment and eventually leads to just leaving.

[IslaTheWitch]

never had this problem... maybe because I don't assign people to leagues or give them label...

[Anonymous]

If a man won’t commit its simply because he doesn’t want to. There are high caliber women dealing with men who still live at home or have minimum wage jobs, no better than the woman at all and still noncommittal.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe. A lot if really good looking guys don’t want to commit unless their partner is equally hot. But some are not like that.

[RedInnocent69]

Not really. A lot of guys are commitmentphobes. We’re also ver visual, so it is less likely that a really pretty guy stays with a less pretty girl. But there are lots of less tangible factors too. Never forget Charles and Diana…

[LiamJHayden]

He isn't. You two might not be for each other or have different ideas and priorities, but leagues only exist in the mind.

[Ms_Facesitter]

When he wants certain qualities and lifestyle choices from you, but doesn't follow those himself.

[lightbulb27]

that's baloney. maybe some people like baloney...

[DaddyDiablo]

A guy out of a females league? Not possible n if he is just know that he's going to act n be different then what you're used to so are you really wanting to be an emotional wreck or?

[DtMe89]

If he's not committing, it's because he likely isn't in the shape to. Have you asked him why he won't. I can almost guarantee you, that he's not READY to

[BethOfWisdom]

She does not stand up to the values, moral, ethic in what he is looking for. It shocking but it true the amond of women and girls that men and boys wallk away from. The female does not have the quality they looking for in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

No guy is out of my league. I'm sorry but they're not and I know it. I don't use that power, but I know I have it.

[pregananant]

That's a classic example of putting the blame on a woman for her SO's issues.

[paledreams]

One look at me - the ladies keep their eyes away from this prize ♂️👀😋 if I do say so myself 😈😬🙂

[paledreams]

Allows me to go about my day to day without the cringe of ladies being stare-bears 😳😲🫡 👀👁️👁️ while I enjoy my merry shakes 🥤🥤😋

[Starrrboy]

Other girls still hit on him despite knowing he's with you..

[smurfwrangler]

hotter than you, richer than you, smarter than you, better educated than you, taller than you, etc

[Anonymous]

If he's with girls who are WAY hotter than you are, then he's out of your league.

[NathanDavis]

leagues are nonsense...

[Part2603]

If you're over 30, he's out of your league.

[Crazzyyworld]

he will cum right away