Are guys that refuse to date single mothers trash men and are guys that date single mothers good men?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

That’s not true at all, just because somebody doesn’t want to date someone doesn’t mean they even judge them as a person. Some people aren’t ready for kids, and dating someone with kids long term it’s going to be a responsibility. Even if she doesn’t require anything other to be friends. Some people just aren’t that good around children.

It depends on the single moms situation, if she was married her husband cheated so she divorced, if she was raped, if she made bad choices but has taken accountability and is doing the best she can, etc. But if she’s just sleeping around plopping babies out that’s another story.

I am sorry you’re not entitled to date any man the same as no man is entitled to you. People have preferences and standards, if those standards aren’t reasonable the jokes going to be on them when they’re all alone in the end, that or settled for someone they’re not happy with.

Just because someone doesn’t want to date you doesn't make someone trash. If you feel entitled that could be what’s chasing any decent man off. They don’t want a woman whose like that. Men who aren’t trash also don’t sleep around. They don’t want a woman whose doing that.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

If that's true, then I'm a trash guy lol.

I'm not currently at the point in my life where I'd be okay with raising another man's kids. I want kids of my own. I don't hate on single mothers, but another man's kids are not my responsibility. It also shows (most of the time, unless their partner has passed away) that they were not willing to figure things out in their past relationship or did not filter well enough. It's not a good implication of what my future might look like if I end up with them.

Damaged00 · Accepted Answer

No. People refuse to date people for many reasons. It's a preference. It doesn't make someone trash and it doesn't automatically make a guy good if he dates a single mother. If you're a single mom, take it as a blessing. Your kids come first and if a guy already knows he can't handle that type of responsibility up front then you saved yourself and your kids time and energy. But in no way does it make them a bad person, they just know what they want and that's respectable.

JSkye · Accepted Answer

No, I don't think so.

Just like some of us women who aren't ready to be (or don't want to ever be) mothers, some men aren't ready to be fathers. The presence of an opinion on the matter is not a trait that determines how good, or bad, the person is.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well you can't put somebody down for not wanting to do or not wanting to date somebody that has children

Maybe they're not ready for that maybe they don't know how to do anything like that

And for the guys that dates a woman with children he has to understand that those children come before he does and he has to respect that

If he tries to become priority instead of the children then I think he is trashy he needs to understand those kids come way before he does and if he can't accept that then he's not going to be a good partner or friend to those kids

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Young people are always looking for general rules that allow them to classify members of the opposite sex as good/bad. But general rules have so many exceptions that it is a mistake to rely on them. There is no substitute for spending time with someone and getting to know them before making decisions about whether you want a future with them.

Avicenna · Answer

Not wanting to date women with other men's kids doesn't make a guy "trash". No need to hate on them, they have preferences like anyone else.

And as for the men dating single moms, well, they aren't all good men- many of them have criminal records and other serious downsides themselves and can't get anyone else.

DishLady · Answer

No. Some guys who insist on exclusively dating single moms may have "hero complex" or enjoy dating women who have hit a specific point of desperation that makes them completely dependent on the guy.

UnicornLobotomy · Answer

Usually its the opposite. Since we are using the standard of trash. I was 20 and I could get almost anyone, even being some hick that just got out Iraq with shrapnel souvenirs stuck in my arms and legs. My confidence was in the trash so the trash started texted me and I felt more comfortable with the trash. The trash took my kids with them after trying to take my life for my TSGI.

lol, birds of a feather I guess. No. Finally I know what I was worth then. I have a good heart but that shit is on my sleeve too often. I’m actually pretty simpy and when a woman smiles flirts though I look like I could fight at 205 in MMA my old beta mindset weakens my knees, I’m married now so it doesn’t affect me like that now but I still like that attention a little too much and think about it as if I’m still 25 and single.

weak guys make weak decisions, not necessarily weak physically, but weak in most other aspects, they make decisions they regret all of the time, impulsive people get with other impulsive people, for women with kids their impulsive decisions ruin their chances of finding a good man, because most good men want their own family-not some other guy’s kid (s).

Men can recover and become good men, but losing kids and having to pay child support and/or alimony is a big life hurdle for them as well, most impulsive guys in that situation do not recover or rebuild their lives well enough to start a good family of their own with a good woman.

Serkee · Answer

There are good men and trash men on both sides of that. There are plenty of good men who don't want to raise another man's kids and be used for their money and security, and plenty of trash men who just date single mothers to have sex and leave. Expecting men to deal with the consequences of your misguided actions is just pure entitlement.

itsannalee · Answer

Not really.

Why would you call someone who doesn’t want to date single mothers is trash?

Everyone has their own choice.
Someone who doesn’t want to date single man/woman maybe just because they don’t want to bothered or troubled by someone else’s kids. Or take responsibility of someone else’s kids.

BadApple69 · Answer

Some guys just aren’t ready for an instant family. That doesn’t make them bad or good.
Think about this… some bad guys might date a woman with a child because he believes she would be more desperate. Better chance of getting lucky.
See… there are good and bad everywhere, and people can seem good but be bad or seem bad but be good. Time will tell.

alice55 · Answer

Majority of men date single mother after their 40s cause majority of women and men have kids at this age.

I do not think we can call a man trash because he refuse to date a single and who's in his early 20s...

Also lots of abuser love to date fat, ugly or single mother because it give them power over them to degrade them so no all men who date single mother aren't good men.

thearchjoker · Answer

Nah, most men will not date single mothers and those who do are usually divorced or widowers (the male equivalent of a widows). Many good and many bad men will reject you for being a single mother but also many good and bad men will still accept you.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

There are good and bad people out there. All you can do is ween the bad from the good. There are signs to let you know, so look out for them signs. Yes, there are good and bad men out there, just watch the signs and I wish you the best :)

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

No. I don't date single fathers. That's a perfectly logical and sound preference. Who in their right mind would want to be a stepmother or a stepfather if they don't have to be?

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not necessarily. Some guys might not want to get involved with kids at all and that’s totally valid. Like I’m only 18. At this stage in my life I wouldn’t date a guy or girl with a kid no matter how nice or hot they were.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Those assumptions are wrong. Often it is the opposite. Good men might not want to deal with her crazy baby daddy or daddies or children who are not his own. And trash guys might see single moms as easy prey to use for a hit and quit.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not. But if you believe that I think now we see why you struggle.😆

Just because a woman is a single mom does not autimatically make her trash. But it does signal a potential problem. Potentially a BIG problem! This is why a man would do well to approach a single mom with CAUTION. Take his time, lest he make a mistake.

FreyaRed · Answer

I think a man who has many option won't accept a single mother as long term partner. To determine how far makes someone who has options bad or good is beyond my competence

paledreams · Answer

I'm probably a trash man, yeah for that reason even though I consider myself, clean, friendly and kinder out in the streets than most average males who talk monotone, who act tough an who rarely smile and give flat looks all the time flat 😐😐😐

Truthatanycost · Answer

Everyone has different preferences. I have no issue with any woman choosing not to date me, be around me or even acknowledge me for what ever reason...

Anonymous · Answer

This is not a simple question. I have dated single mothers before. The reality is that on a good day, here is the list of her priorities: Her kids come first, then, she comes second. Then, you come last. You have to be willing to deal with this lineup. And in a bad situation, you could end up in really unfortunate circumstances.

normalice · Answer

Men who leave their kids' mother are trash. Men who don't want to have their own kids shouldn't be expected to raise someone else's.

smashleyy · Answer

Neither. Comes down to personal preference. Not everyone wants the responsibility that comes with kids which is understandable

Anonymous · Answer

Why should a guy be forced to deal with a child that's not his? It doesn't make him trash, it's his choice. Don't have kids if you don't want your choice in men limited.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is a giant red flag. It usually means they have little to offer a woman, let alone a single mother.

LoveHotGrillz · Answer

No real man wants to be a cuck and raise another man's child

Berethor · Answer

Well it's better to be selfish than sucker I would say, single moms are low quality women.

slatyb · Answer

No, they are not trash. They have no obligation to help raise someone else's children and may reasonably prefer to date a woman who has no children.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

No man with any self respect raises and gives his resources to raise another man's kids.

Anonymous · Answer

People aren't trash for refusing to date someone for any reason as nobody is entitled to other people.

I can't imagine dating a single mom, end up loving the kid, breaking up and never seeing the kid again.

Anonymous · Answer

No, and no.

You need to realize that when it comes to children, men have responsibilities without rights. Why would a man CHOOSE to put himself in that situation for another man's children.

This is not rocket science.

Yannae · Answer

Not at all! No, you have horrible and good men on either side.

msc545 · Answer

No. They are smart as single mothers can be very problematic.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, I think its a matter of personal preference when it comes to both situations.

Chthou95 · Answer

Just because men dont want to date single mothers doesn't mean they aren't good men silly woman

Surferboi_02 · Answer

He it sounds weird dating a single parent because don't you want your own kids not someone elses

Twalli · Answer

I am not opposed to single mothers, it was more a matter of not being financially stable.

MasterKS · Answer

I do like single mother for date, they are more easy once for me!

jahaims · Answer

Nope. Guys who date single mothers are desperate

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Depends on the dude.

BetaBucks · Answer

No and no

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They aren't.

In_Trance · Answer

Absolutely not

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