Why is she making me wait?

Question

I’ve been talking to this girl for like 2 weeks now and on the second date she let me kiss her but she wasn’t getting too physical or too passionate. (I thought that was weird but I am a passionate kisser so maybe it’s just me) she mentioned wanting to watch a movie with me the next time we hangout but she doesn’t want to watch it at my place. What does this mean why are we going on dates and talking to each other but she’s making me wait. She’s giving off the vibes that she’s this innocent pure good girl and I’m sold on that but I actually want this girl so why is she making me wait. I don’t get it

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

An ideal world this is good for both you. Building up a respectful relationship. Women fall in love slower than men. 30+ years ago this wouldn’t be a bad sign. But in modern times it is.

But I would be very careful about the friend zone danger on all of this. She might get too comfortable with the attention you give her and given it’s “safe” for her given everything is (near) platonic.

But she definitely has her own sexual/romantic needs as well. I just would hate to see you go through the agony of her saying “can we just be friends?” just because she found some exciting asshole she wants to pursue (and will drop it fast for) and she used you for validation in the interim.

Anyway if she had strong spiritual/tradional convictions that’s one thing. Don’t take her word on that either. Watch her actions and what she is doing (does she spend a lot of time with her family, go to church, etc?).

Also pay close attention to how she acting around you. Is she really comfortable? Actually a bad sign because of she likes you she will be worried about how she comes off to you. Also does she get compliment you on your appearance? If she doesn’t that’s bad. Very bad.

Women will often compliment guys on everything else EXCEPT their looks if they are stringing them along and/or pushing them into the friendzone. An inexperienced guy will mistake that for attraction when it isn’t.

Anyway let her come to you at this point. Let her text/call first. Let her initiate dates and hanging out. Also when she calls see if she just wants to talk or actually asks to hang out.

If she isn’t doing any of that I would keep your guard up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As long as you're making progress each date, it's all good. You kissed on the second date, so that was progress. On the third date, just make sure you make out a bit more.

SweetPi · Accepted Answer

WTF is wrong with you! Id dump you! You want the innocent girl... She is mating you wait... No da she is!

You don't get the slut and innocent girl together!

Stop trying to hook up and give up. Good reason she is not letting you have her!

She does not want sex but it's all you do!

It's a huge turn off when the guy just wants sex and is wildly passionate when she is not feeling well any attraction besides the friend vibe!

jojouzumaki · Accepted Answer

She probably like you that’s why she’s taking her time.  Is she worthy to wait? If she is, then have some patience and if not let her go.

Anonymous · Answer

From what I can tell it sounds like she's not all that interested in moving at your speed. Your question comes across as if you want to consummate with her as quickly as possible but you need to be able to differentiate between who wants a relationship and who just wants a quick fuck.

I'm not sure how she reacts to you but if you feel she's not very interested in you, you two probably need to split. Unless you're capable of taking a step back and reflecting on how you have been acting. You seem pushy.

It's okay if you meet someone who wants to move fast, have sex fast, and burn out fast. But the reluctance you're feeling from your current date is more than enough of a sign that you need to slow down or step away. Women are people and not all of them will react the same to your bold advances-- just like anyone else. On top of that I personally can't condone your entitled outlook about this and hope you mature someday. Take time to get to know someone first, don't invite them to your house within the first several weeks, and don't seem so desperate to bang. It's much better if you both fall in love before skipping to dessert. And I can feel her hesitation through your question and it makes me feel awkward on her behalf.

Just reflect on what people are saying in the comments. You're not being attacked, just criticized. Have a good one.

Lurix · Answer

So, it sounds like you’re really into her, but she’s playing it a bit slow. Kissing you on the second date is a good sign, but her keeping things less physical might just mean she wants to take her time.

The movie thing is kind of odd too—she might just not be ready to hang out at your place yet. Some girls like to build that connection first before diving into anything more physical.

If you really want to know where her head's at, just ask her. You could bring up how you feel and see if she’s down to take it to the next level. Just keep it chill and see what she says!

MisterWack · Answer

She just wants to test the waters and see if you are a good fit, she probably had some bad prior experience of dating and it might be swaying her judgement. Just go with her taking it slow, if it is 3-4 dates later and she ain’t budging sit her down and tell her how you feel in a polite, compassionate, calm tone she’ll come around then if she hasn’t already (at that point).

BetaBucks · Answer

She's getting to know you before she fucks. Completely normal. You want a girl that bangs a dude after five minutes? "Making you wait" is when she's had a bunch of one night stands and is still banging her ex or her friends with benefits. Completely different scenarios. You MIGHT also be in that scenario, but it's too early to tell.

jshm2 · Answer

Either she's not into you, and checking elsewhere. Or she's seeing if you'll turn crazy controlling when you don't get attention.

Best thing to do is talk/text about anything else but the date. If she's not engaging then you know she's ditched you.

nevooo · Answer

hookup culture got you thinking weirdly. If you hung out 2 times and only knew her a week, it’s pretty soon. But it’s a good sign honestly, if you really think about it you don’t know her well, so it’s a good sign that a girl your seeing that doesn’t know you well, isn’t trying to dive into bed and fuck immediately

genericname85 · Answer

probably cause that's how women show they are quality women as well as making sure you're serious about it and not gone after the sex. now i'm not saying it's a guarantee that you're with a quality woman, cause every virtue signaling can be faked. but you're definitely better off than with a girl who jumps right in bed with you.

CindyRuns · Answer

I've always believed in going slowly... At the same time, once I was ready, for me, I loved every bit of being passionate and intimate with the guys I dated.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Bro, what? It's only been 2 weeks. That's not making you wait.

Peridot25 · Answer

First off, it’s only been 2 weeks. Second, you’re coming off as pushy. If you’re going to continue acting like this, you might as stop dating her.

Curmudgeon · Answer

A song comes to mind:

msc545 · Answer

If you seriously do not understand all of this and you need to ask strangers on the internet what it means, then you are not an adult man and have no business trying to get involved with this girl, even just sexually.

ronandamberspencer · Answer

It is difficult to tell. If she has been a slut in the past, get rid of her. If she has been a good girl in the past, keep her. Sluts have to have sex with you, good girls don't.

AGAM1 · Answer

Bro respect her feeling and actions why don’t you communicate your feeling with her? If you’re both looking for two different relationships.. then time to go and save her heart!

LiamJHayden · Answer

You've gone on two dates and that is making you wait?

Alex-Snow · Answer

Take it slow and do not rush it. Let her set the pace. How mold are you two?

SotiCoto · Answer

Not innocent. Not pure. Almost certainly seeing other guys on the side and waiting to choose.

Radiate143 · Answer

Because she can, it's her body. Go find a spreader.

CookiesandCream60 · Answer

She's dating multiple guys and you're not her first option

Ariesman81 · Answer

Cause she thinks you're a punk

Reymundo41 · Answer

Why you asking here and not her.

Open-minded99 · Answer

She respects her body. Stop being a male slut.

noohair · Answer

What do you expect after 2 weeks?

In_Trance · Answer

You haven't given her the right signs yet

Twalli · Answer

Not everyone jumps into sex quickly.

Thecuriousbird · Answer

I guess it is what it is

Anonymous · Answer

How did u get to know her

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