Is it childish to block someone?

Question

I’m really frustrated with a guy I’ve been seeing, but I keep checking his social media. I’m considering blocking and deleting him, but I’m unsure if it’s childish, though part of me wants him to notice.

strobegrl · Accepted Answer

I would only block if I’m completely over the person and not intend to ever contact them again. Otherwise it looks immature to block and unblock and they won’t take you seriously after that. Personally, I blocked an ex who just wouldn’t stop texting me despite me telling him I’m dating someone else.. and I was so over him at that point. I blocked a few people who also crossed boundaries or just didn’t get it that I don’t want to talk to them.

But it seems like you are checking up on him although you two don’t have any contact I don't know maybe you do want him to contact him if thats the case I wouldn’t block. Maybe delete only?

Oh yeah, I recently deleted a guy I was getting to know bcz he kinda messed up. But I still liked him so I deleted his number after the argued so that he knows I am serious about my boundaries but I kept him on insta because part of me still liked him. If Im not 100% sure Im over the person I keep a door open.. or else I’ll look like a clown blocking and unblocking.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

the specific reason/s could be considered as childish

like attention or hurt feelings.

Overall use of the blocking feature is in no way childish. It’s best used for reasons like safety, conflict of interest, harassment, peace of mind, filtering, and etc.

but just for emotional or small things or attention- I don't know.

It’s not a bad function but the mindset behind using it should be from a healthy individual using it for their own benefit and also be happy and content in their lives. It’s not war of the buttons. It’s simply a feature.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

I answered this before….

Basically there was this one guy who was posting violence & threats & absolute nasty things towards another user on here so I deleted their responses then blocked them so they couldn’t retaliate against the user and they could be free to respond to my posts without fear of that asshole.

There was another who claimed falsely that the Pandemic wasn’t bad because I didn’t lose anyone near and dear to me / knew any friends & family who lost folks…. I say falsely because I did know people that died and from my family and a friend who was close to dying from it…. He didn’t know my business and frankly he didn’t deserve to know after that not so warm welcome to put things lightly. Blocked them! They deserved it.

I ain’t blaming you for blocking someone, I once was blocked over having a different opinion of a member (who I won’t mention)… Just block them for the right reasons not the wrong ones.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I may be way off here , there isn’t a great deal to go on but seems very much like un-resolved feelings here but blocking and deleting on an app won’t delete those emotions and thoughts so in that sense I’d say it’s probably immature to think that way although understandable given the frustration you think you feel for him , You may be “sick” of him interrupting your thoughts as you stare at his profile so you feel that removing the option will help? Again understandable but likely won’t help. I think it much more sensible to attempt to draw things to a conclusion if that’s possible or maybe even communicating in a way that helps you move on more respectfully. I often say that the way to treat others is how you would want or expect to be treated yourself , there is dignity in that at least assuming he is deserving of that.

HollyK21 · Answer

If you’re done with him then sure, block him. Who cares. But if this is your way of sending a message or trying to get his attention and you aren’t really done then yeah, that’s childish. You should communicate first, and give him the opportunity to work with you through whatever the issue is rather than trying to prompt him to chase or even miss you. He’s either already doing/feeling those things or he’s not, and you shouldn’t trying to manipulate your way into having him act how you want him to act.

AviatorTom · Answer

It depends. Blocking someone because they say or do something that you disagree with, but otherwise don't bother you, is childish. If someone continually bothers you or is totally disrespectful, blocking them may be okay. In most cases, though, it's perfectly acceptable to just ignore them.

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes why would you block him all you would be telling him is that I know what you're doing not putting up with it well maybe because I'll turn my blocking off in about a week after I think you might have noticed

Why would you want to do that why not just keep him added and just tell him in another way do not answer his messages let It Go you need to show him who you are and that you don't need him in your life if he doesn't need you

ManOnFire · Answer

You're 40 and this is still your approach to life? You're frustrated with him yet you keep looking at his social media. And then you want to block him and hope he notices. That's 20 year-old girl logic. Hell yeah it's childish.

Maybe you're still not ready for dating.

MrOracle · Answer

If someone is harassing you, block them. But in my opinion what you are describing sounds like Jr High school drama. That's not how adults in a relationship act.

Malgarak · Answer

What do you want him to notice? In either case, being direct and honest is more fruitful, certainly with men in general.

As for childish, it can be of course, sometimes it may be necessary, but I certainly see how everything turns into echo chambers these days. So many people block people left and right for simply thinking different, but if this is someone you are interested in, don't play games. Just be direct, for better or for worse it forces progress rather than being stuck in uncertain limbos.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the occasion. I'd wear boyshorts maybe going to the gym or if I'm wearing like a short skirt or sundress especially if windy.

Briefs if I'm on my period usually black.

G-string for like a figure hugging ball gown or some outfit I don't want a vpl. You can't wear a g string with jeans.

Slipshorts at times

Hipsters, Tanga and cheeky as well

Thongs because I like how my butt looks in them and for comfort. I like the reaction I get from my husband when I wear them. Good under jeans, young pants or tights. Normally thongs or boyshorts. I dont go in really for all that Victoria secret stuff, wallmart is fine.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Depends completely on the circumstances. Here I had to block a few people because the  first  interaction with them was them throwing every cuss word they could think of in my face for having an opinion contrary to theirs. Others were eternal trolls that could not admit a mistake but instead doubled down with more and more aggression. I don't have time for such idiots.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

It's not childish tell him or talk to him about it first tell him he's frustrating you or it will go on more I'm a very straight forward not shy girl have been from I was young you have to speak to him about it don't block him without speaking about it the reason for that is because your seeing him try sort it out first

BazookaTrouper · Answer

In this context, it kinda is if the reason you're doing it is because you can't resist looking at his social media or interacting with you. If someone harasses you though, then that would be a different story and blocking such a person would be justified.

A better way to phrase this question would be "Would it be childish of me to block this person?" because I don't think it is silly to block people in every situation.

Cripplingkingship · Answer

Its not childish to block, if it gives you peace of mind and his behaviour is affecting your well being, then go ahead.

If someone is really annoying, I always block them. You are entitled to do that.

Kori1236 · Answer

I block people for my own mental health, I wouldn’t consider it childish. But blocking him because you’re frustrated and want him to notice is the childish part. Say he notices what do you think he’s going to do?

Anonymous · Answer

Blocking should only be used to stop harassment. I think it's very childish otherwise, and people on this site do it a lot. If you say something they don't like, the next thing you know someone is blocking you and you don't even know who.

spartan55 · Answer

For a 40 year old woman to have this mentality is not appealing at all. He may notice, but likely won't give a shit. If he does, and 'comes back to you' it won't be for long.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Umm... clarification please?

You want to block a guy on social media, but you're dating him in real life?

Do you mean you want to block him because you don't have the willpower to stop looking at his social media?

avery58 · Answer

I think you should be upfront with him and tell him you want to stop seeing him. Ghosting and trying to get a reaction out of him is kind of manipulative.

desperatelyhungry · Answer

I think it can be, I think it can also be necessary. It’s gonna be hard to move on if you’re obsessing over his sm actions. Block him if it’s what’s best for you

Anonymous · Answer

I've blocked girls i dont want to talk to emphasis on girls, even though they are in their late 20s or early 30s, they aren't women, I just view them as little dramatic girls which is a turn off. This will surprise females reading this because females assume guys will just drop everything, even his values for a wishy-washy dramatic girl, nah, not me.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

that you would want him to notice is childish. 40 fucking years old and playing these dumb games still?

alice55 · Answer

It's not, if they're rude then blocking them is ok then again if he's not the type to send one hundred insulting message then there's no point in blocking him

genericname85 · Answer

i don't give a fuck. if someone annoys the heck out of me, i'm gonna block them. like who decides what's childish or not and why do you need to give a fuck if it's not you deciding it? you have the power. not anyone else. specially not online.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just be straight up with him. A lot of guys will cruise along thinking everything is okay, not realizing that you want more attention. It is probably not intentional. He's likely just as ignorant as the rest of us guys are.

jazzy34 · Answer

Why do you keep checking his social media accounts?

MemeSupreme · Answer

it is unless you got a legitimate reason like a breakups, are they triggering you (not like political BS but saying fucked up shit), etc. etc.

lex09xo_ · Answer

It can be i'd just usually unfollow n ignore them, sometimes it can be petty for not blocking over something silly

WhitneySnow · Answer

It is childish unless he’s done something really horrible to you

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

No not at all. Your own safety and mental health is more important.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Definitely childish if it is just for him to notice you.

Lliam · Answer

No. There are some people who I don't need in my life.

godfatherfan · Answer

Yes. Just like is is stupid and childish to post anonymously on this site.

Radiate143 · Answer

If it's to manipulate, yes. That's childish. If it is for protection, no.  That's wise.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It isn't childish. It's an attempt to protect yourself from... Fill in the blanks :)

Iron_Man · Answer

If you think about it, that’s like cutting all communication off for life and what if if there’s a chance to repair it with blocking you can’t do that

LostandFound__x · Answer

It’s not childish, it’s your phone and you control what you have on there.

RavVid · Answer

I think it is childish myself but that is me not you.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. Self preservation above ALL ELSE.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

I just had a weakling block me. She knew her answer was the wrong answer she tried deflect the wrong answer onto me by blocking before I replied.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Depends on what. When it comes to spammers then no but when it comes to just disagreeing with someone or you hurt your ego because you run out of arguments then yes.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, I think so. I don’t know most of the people who have blocked me or what I did to piss them off. I think they just disagreed or didn’t like my opinions and took it personally

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

yes because the longer  you avoid them the more they always come back

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, it can be a necessary self-preservation tactic.

Emmytexrex · Answer

No if there is no better specific reason to but if it just nonsense reason where you are jealous or something then it is childish

Logan2000 · Answer

It's rude in my opinion. It hurts people and especially those with abandonment issues. Only block people who abuse you.

Account · Answer

I don't care. I am childish.

Peridot25 · Answer

Ok, we need more details. Like why are you frustrated with him?

noohair · Answer

Social media is fake billsh! t where people pose as special. I block people on my phone when they become toxic.

JoeRob67 · Answer

I have heard that before when I blocked someone. That I was childish but then they proceeded to contact my family members.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, if you can't handle HONEST disagreements. No, if you're receiving threats or disgusting messages.

clampfan101 · Answer

Not if you give them a chance and a warning.

Staximus · Answer

Why don't you try clear and effective communication

plundo · Answer

Kinda, in some cases. But not always. Sometimes it is actually the only way (harassment etc.)

Still-alive · Answer

im of the opinion that there's no shame in it at all. block him for your own inner peace

disappoint3d · Answer

Yes blocking anyone is childish. just put your phone down. Jesus Christ.

shades777 · Answer

I do what is necessary to protect my peace of mind. Blocking is just one of many tools in the shed

Sicboi · Answer

Whatever feels best to you. I get it. I mean at least you thinkin' about 1st. So, I'd say it is not childish just for that reason alone.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it isn't! People can be annoying and crazy! You need the ability to block and protect yourself!

robocop666 · Answer

Many people block me so I need to be used to it

Anonymous · Answer

No, some people are just rude, and they won't stop.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It doesn't seem reasonable in this case.

Open-minded99 · Answer

No because people can be annoying

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