Is blocking someone immature?

[Anonymous]

I've been thinking a lot about blocking an old friend that I got a fight with and she never apologized about what she did to me, and she still communicate with me on social media and it's really bothering me! Like she send me private snaps of her with other friends of hers and says Best friends in the world, then send me a text on WhatsApp saying she miss me and I'm her the best friend she ever had! Although doesn't talk to me like friends since the fight! She don't even ask me how I'm doing! I think it's Hypocrisy and I can't take it any longer. I wanted to block her but I thought it's immature, and if she ever noticed and talked to me.. I think I'm gonna keep ignoring her and that's gonna make me Kinda rude.. So what should I do?

Updates

+1 y

Her BD is comming this month and I don't want to give her a gift or even wish her a HBD.. If I block her now she may think I'm just doing it to escape giving her a gift /:

Giving MHO to MH person! Please I need advice!

[Chris0516]

Hmmmm... It depends on how you feel about what the did.

A female online friend of mine. Who I have kept in touch with since 2003. Will sometimes disappear for a while. Most recently in August of 2012. Her (ex) fiance told her to stop chatting with me.

A year later, she contacted me. Telling me they broke up.

There have been plenty of times, since 2002. That she has told me to F-Off and that she will never speak to me again. Sure enough, she can't hold to that.

I have never told her to get lost. Because I know her behavior patterns, and life experiences, too well.

[Asker]

Well.. You are a very patient keeping up with your friend! You're a good friend Sir.
Thank you!

[Chris0516]

I am also stubborn as a bull. When her (late: before the ex) fiance told her his U. S. Army unit (she is Canadian) was being shipped out to Iraq for a second 'tour of duty'. He told her that he was breaking up with her. He wouldn't tell her why. She contacted me and told me what he said.

I told her to tell me his Yahoo Messenger contact info. She refused. Saying that he would be extremely mad at her for giving it out. I finally wore her down and got it from her.

I contacted him. Of course he wondered who I was. I told him, and told him why I contacted him. He refused to tell me, at first. I wore him down. He finally told me. He had a 'premonition' that he would be coming back from his second 'tour of duty' in a pine box. I don't believe in premonitions', but I didn't tell him that. I asked him. If he wanted to tell her, or he wanted me to tell her. He said he would. He told her, and they got back together.

Sadly, His 'premonition' came true. During that tour, he became KIA.

[Asker]

Wow.. This is just too much to deal with
I hope things are better now between you and your friend.. Sometimes I just think it's hard to deal with women

[Chris0516]

I don't let her manipulate me. But I stand by her. Because, I am the only 'constant' in her life. While, apart from family, everything else, constantly changes.

[Realistic07]

Blocking should really only be used in moments where harassment is an issue like if someone continues to message you after you've made it clear to them your not interested or if your trying to keep someone away that seems creepy or odd. Look the reality is your friends and friends fight sometimes and argue over stupid things. You should really take time and call her on the phone or if you can see her in person and talk things out with her. It's a crappy situation but just because something's crappy that dosent mean you toss away a friendship over it. How long have you to been friend's?

[Asker]

You're right, I never wanted to end our friendship. We've been friends for 5 years
I called her of course, and she behaved so odd and weird and disrespectful. She was silent for most of the call, i asked if she can talk? If she's busy I can call later and she said no it's a perfect time. And whenever I expect her to answer or simply talk.. She's silent so I kinda yelled at her saying what's wrong? Can you answer me. Then she started a HUGE DRAMA AND CRIED SAYING DONT YOU YELL AT ME!!! I swear to God I never yelled and this time wasn't even yelling I was just tired of her silent I wanted her to talk instead of ignoring me!
And so many other examples are the comment I left for other kind people trying to help. If you have time please see and give me your opinion, I really need help.

[Realistic07]

Okay I understand that her silence was getting to you but yelling or shouting isn't the what way to do it. You have to be more patient than that if there are moments of silence then just ask the question again calmly and wait for an answer or ask her what she thinks about it and let her think. She is clearly stressed about something probably the fact that you two have been arguing and she is becoming reclusive and stand offiish with you because she isn't sure what to say or do. Much like a fearful animal she's distancing herself so she can have a better vantage of the situation your goal is to be polite an kind not on a fake way just in a patient one so she knows you care about her and do want to know her opinion and that will allow her to express herself openly with you. Right now she's fearfull of what to say because she's worried about your reaction so when you yell when she is trying to compose herself and her words it puts additional pressure on her.

[Realistic07]

Two questions A do you see what I'm saying, B dose she live near you or close enough to you that you can go over?

[Asker]

Yeah.. I feel so guilty right now
No she doesn't, but she did asked me a while a go if she can visit after she finish all of her exams. I said you don't have to bother yourself. I felt like I don't wanna see her because of all what have happened. And I don't want to lose it when we're talking face to face.

[Realistic07]

Call her and apologize a lot tell her how you feel about yourself and tell her what you wish would happen because I'm sure you wish that you and her could be close again, and keep in mind she has exams this is one of the most stressful time for her right now. If she yells or gets upset just keep apologizing and stay calm she is just letting out frustration andsometi! es as friend we have to take the yelling so that way they can let out their issues it also helps with figuring out her feelings about things. Ask to see her and if she could come over that you want to make I up to her and take her out to lunch or to do something. Let her know you care and that your sorry an that it's okay for her to be upset. Things will be okay I'm sure of it just be patient and stay calm you'll get your friend back.

[Asker]

I can only hope so..
I will try to talk to her after she finish her exams and see if we can meet.. I'll do my best to give our friendship a chance to survive before doing anything I may regret later...
Thank you for the help!

[Realistic07]

Also see what you just told me a complete stranger tell her those things it's important that those are the things she hears and that your open like that with her. Never the less you're welcome and good luck I wish you both a happy friendship. Also remember to get her a gift for her birthday.

[Realistic07]

Also if you need to feel free to message me.

[Asker]

Thank you so much man, I really can't thank you enough.. I wish you the best with your life, you're a good man!

[Realistic07]

Thank you.

[Realistic07]

Just curious if it work out?

[06CuriousMind]

i dont think so. i blocked my ex boyfriend because i kept holding hope that he would come back to me. i finally let go of him and no longer feel like im waiting on him

[Asker]

I understand your situation..
But don't you think it's a little harder if it's your friend not ex bf/gf?
Specially a friend since high school

[06CuriousMind]

i probably wouldn't block them then

[Asker]

Hmmm have you read my problem? I would appreciate if you take a minute and give me an advice.. I would like to know a girl's opinion since my friend is a girl

[06CuriousMind]

Hmm well that's tricky cause I'm not like most girls... Does she seem pretty fake? Moves from one friend to the other pretty frequently? Talked bad about a lot of her friends to you?

[Asker]

Well.. She've been kind of a normal 20 years old girl (shy, very polite)
Since we stopped talking she changed so much! I watch her on social media and I think she's faking a whole new personality! I even told her once this is not you? She said its me its has always been.
She prented to like books, reading, classic music, she even started to be a LGBT activists ( which she never ever been ) and you know who personalty is that? MEEEEEEEEEE:) she pretended to be a big fan of certain books that I am crazy about and as a test I asked her some questions about those books.. She failed SOOOO HARD and that's when I knew she's fake! But why wanted to bother me so much by trying to be me?

Yes she talked so much bad about her friends to me, now she's Best friends with them and she send me a lot of snaps on snapchat of them gathering together and she comments about them (best friends in the world)

I'm so disgust about her new attitude
Even when we talk she's not polite anymore..

[06CuriousMind]

Hmm if i were you I would text her and say "IDC how much you say it is, but I know this is not you. I know you. I don't know who you are becoming but I miss the old you. If you still want to be friends then I want you to be real with me. Otherwise I don't want to be a part of your life" if she gets defensive, you gave her the warning. Block her.

[Asker]

Thank you.. I think it's fair to at least let her know how I feel before I block her
And hopefully she understand and do the right thing..

[06CuriousMind]

Yeah no problem. Good luck 😊

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Chris0516]

I never 'friended' my (ex) wife, after the divorce. On Facebook, or anywhere else. So, I definitely know what you are talking about.

[06CuriousMind]

@Chris0516 what are you talking about? Lol

[vishna]

If it grants peace, no.

You should unfriend her now. Don't keep her around, even in the tiniest way.

[Tdieseler]

Its immature if you block someone for the wrong reasons. Just because you are "fighting" with someone or don't agree with someone isn't grounds for blocking them. You can just stop talking to them or if there is an option, delete them.
the blocking button is for when you are getting harassed. so if you aren't getting harassed or spammed... etc... Yes, blocking is very very immature.

[Asker]

Well I suppose you haven't read some of the comments where I said almost everything about what happened.. Well it's mental abusive to keeping up with all her drama! And yes She've done a lot of things where she disrespected me! So?
I wouldn't think of blocking her if she just left me alone ( I have never blocked anyone even my crazy ex )
But she won't leave me alone she is disturbing the peace in my life and I am a sick man who can't take more negative energy! She knows that and still bothers me in every way possible.

[Tdieseler]

well... most people consider that harassment, so rape that block button then and find peace.

[cheapshotbob]

i blocked everything from a person i was with but i did leave one way for the them to contact me if it was that important for them to talk t me or anything. because if there was anything meant by the friendship they will do what it takes to contact you and not just move on.

[Asker]

You're right.. If I ever blocked her it would be on social media and WhatsApp.. She can still call me for important things or emergency.. So yeah I get you
Thank you so much!

[cheapshotbob]

your welcome

[bryon]

In some cases it is I suppose. In almost every case where I have blocked someone , wherther it be here or other sites it because they were being baligerant or just stupid. Some people don't or won't value an opinion that varies from theirs. Then there are those that expect vindication of their wrong doings that get all but hurt if you point out the things that they did wrong. In theses cases I would rather block them or have them block me as deal with their pathetic drama

[Asker]

Yeah you're right, in my case.. What do you think?

[bryon]

What she is doing in my opinion is misleading you. Sending you the messages shared between her and others is to me mocking and extremely disrespectful. I can see how this would be hurtful and really piss you off , it would me as well. Blocking her wouldn't be childish , spiteful or immature as far as I'm concerned it's simply a self preservation act. If she wants to rub your face in it , it's up to you to put a stop to it . Sure she will be mad , butt hurt or what ever emotion she wishes to call it , but in the end she hasn't shown much compassion in regards to your feelings dude

[Asker]

Exactly!!!
Thank you so much Sir!

[bryon]

Not a problem bro. With her sending you private messages telling you that your her boyfriend , she is hiding it from the others that were her boyfriend in the other posts. = two faced and a lier in my world

[Asker]

I couldn't agree more..
I feel sorry she turned into this bad person, but if she don't wanna change then I'll have to take her out of my life.

[bryon]

I couldn't agree more dude. You can offer someone your friendship you you can't make them take it. If you haven't already done so you could just say hey this is something I'm no longer comfortable with and one way or another it has to change. If she denies that it exists or becomes combative , you will know she isn't going to change

[bryon]

I for one am just to old to consider playing kiddie games with grown ups. If they have the type of mentality / personallity such as the one you spoke of they loose , I would in fact block them... From every avenue of communication possible

[Asker]

I can't thank you enough sir
Thank you for helping me, I do appreciate every minute you took trying to give me an advice.
Have a great day!

[bryon]

No problem dude. Sorry your having to deal with this type thing.

[hi2712]

I don't think it's immature, I think it's more like rude. I had a similar experience before except it was my cousin and I really wanted to find a way to shut her up, I thought about blocking her but then I thought I wouldn't like that from her either even after what happened because it's so rude, so I just let it cool off by itself by not login in for a while.

[Asker]

I don't want to be rude That's why I haven't done blocking her yet..
But not login into every social media because of her? I did actually thought about deleting my Twitter, snapchat, and WhatsApp only to get away from her bullshit but NOOO!! I have a life too!

[akadatank44]

I would talk to her first and speak whats on your mind. Blocking her won't solve the problem. The problem is your upset that she never apologized to you. Say that to her

[Asker]

Of course I did.. She insisted on her opinion and refused to apologize and when I stopped talking to her she said "okay whatever.. Sorry" she's not really sorry and she don't even understand! She only said it so we move on and get back to be friends (and she didn't even said her fake apology in a polite way)

[akadatank44]

Alright than I'd block her.

[GreatnessRevamped]

No.
If someone's presence and interaction is disturbing your peace, in life or whatever, then block them.

[Asker]

Yes exactly! What if they're disturbing my peace and getting on my nerves! I'm not sensitive and I am a very patient person (it's been more than 6 months!!) and she won't let me fucking alone guys!
@orphan @hi2712

[Nomad69]

Not sure I think its necessary sometimes so people understand you are 'done with them" or they aren't interested in you anymore.

[sixnineanon]

No but I wish I could block people in real life too. That would help me a lot. Some people just don't know when to stop and it's best to block them.

[Anonymous]

Block her. She is the immature one, you have every right to cut ties with her.

[orphan]

Unless they're spamming you.. yes

people usually block because they're sensitive and easily affected.

[orphan]

also, often people will block as an offensive measure.

[IncelGod]

Don't block her. Just ignore her unless you still like her. If you still like her, then you should just talk with her.

[Asker]

She's my friend! I don't have those kind of feelings for her. Although when I was in high school she had a crush on me.. But I told her no we can be friends and we've been since then, she even turned to be a lesbian and I know all about her relationships so?

[Keiran1995]

Just un friend her dude

[bcromartie]

It is neither mature nor immature.

[Anonymous]

Blocking helps get rid of drama

[Nomad69]

Yep that's for sure, do you ever unblock people?

[Opinion Owner]

@Nomad69 no

[Anonymous]

What was the fight about?

[Asker]

I was talking to her about something bothering me so much ( I was very sad and I needed a friend) and every time I talk serious she makes jokes about the situation and laughes! I ignored her weird behavior and I noticed the next time we talked the same behavior!! She don't take me seriously and laugh every time I need her! The last time I was so pissed and I even was about to cry and she ignored me and showed me a stupid funny video! And I left the place.. I kept ignoring her a month later when I told her what bothered me she denied everything and refused to apologize!

[Asker]

I'm not mad at the situation as much as I am mad about her reaction About it!
I would gladly forgive her if she said "sorry" and meant it! But she never did she even told me I was making a big deal
It's just disrespectful specially that I was always there when she needed me
Even after the fight she still comes to complain about her life and I still listen.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry 😞
At first I would've said maybe she was just trying to joke around to cheer you up.. But then you said she denied it so I don't think that anymore. That really is weird behavior. Maybe she just didn't think what you said was as bad to her as it was to you. If you guys are good friends though, she shouldn't be acting that way.
It's up to you if you want to block her or not. You could just not talk to her and if she talks to you, just keep your answers short. She'll get the hint after awhile.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I've been doing for more than 6 months.. Short answers and i never talk to her unless replying her texts (sometimes I ignore her text) but she still haven't got the hint😑
I just to be the one who ends the friendship even tho she is the one who pushed me to do it.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Anonymous]

ye it gay

[Asker]

Excuse me?