Is blocking someone a good way to move on from someone you have feelings for?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I still have some feelings for a guy I dated for 2 months but I don’t think it’s gonna work out between us because he’s an immature guy. I blocked him on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn to stop myself from checking on him. Good idea?

[Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over]

It is a way to insulate yourself from someone you have feelings for but need to stay away from. Is it good? If it helps you more than hurts, then it is a good way. I dated a nice but bland man for 6 months and finally had to block him. I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt thinking he’d somehow turn into his better, real self, but it felt like he only contacted me when he needed something. He just kept making me feel sorry for him. I liked him as a friend but I dated him out of pity, I guess. I didn’t have the heart to say no, so I blocked him for a while. It was good for me. But as soon as I felt bad and unblocked him, he told me he had prostate cancer and I’m the only one he’s told. He’s going through Christmas bearing this alone. Now I feel sorry for him again and don’t know what to do, see him as a friend or be mean and block him.
So if you need to block someone for your own self-care, do it

[Cynicaldreamer]

Absolutely. I've done that in the past to several exes or guys I wanted to get over and yes, it does help. It's like a mental barrier to keep them from reaching out to you, or you being tempted to check on him to see what he's doing or does he still have feelings for you.

Even though they can still view your account in some instances, they can no longer message or talk to you. Which yes, for some of us does help us move on or get over someone.

You have to do what's best for you and if that means blocking them, then you do it! It's like the old saying, "Out of sight, out of mind..."

[rjroy3]

I'm of the opinion that blocking for anything other than longterm direct harassment is putting too much energy into it and is in it's own way holding onto the invested emotions you have towards them. Unfriending or unfollowing as the bare minimum I think is a fair method for your own sanity. At the end of the day if you want to look them up you'll unblock them in order to do it. Same with unfollowing or any variety of methods.

All blocking really serves is a means to stop them from getting in touch with you and if it's to that point it isn't you who I'd having the issue moving on

[Asker]

Yeah I see what you are saying but I got triggered to do it because I noticed he blocked me on Facebook randomly although I didn’t contact him in over a year. I was like ok game begins!

[rjroy3]

Perfect example of over investing emotionally lol. If I saw an ex blocked me after a year. I wouldn't think "game on". I'd think, clearly they were thinking of me. So much so they felt the need to block me. Then move on about my business because you can't control that. You're not completely over that ex

[EmbraceThePain]

Well, you say he’s immature but wouldn’t you consider blocking him from everywhere also be immature? I think blocking him can work or it can not. Personally, it may be better to not block him but resist the urge to check on him because if you’re really curious or wanting to check on him then you’ll just unblock him quickly to see what’s up with him, so blocking him doesn’t seem like an good fix to prevent you from checking on him. Also, what if he wants to contact you for something that you may want hear?

[ElissaDido]

When i blocked him it made things worse for me honestly.
So I unblocked him and acted casual about it, and now I'm moving on.

[Black-a-knese]

First off, you blocked him on LinkedIn? Wow, I didn't even know you could add people like that on it.
Secondly, the thing is this if you feel he isn't "man" enough for you. You should tell or Express why you done what you did (even though you probably said it kml like 20 times). Then leave him on if you really want to be with me, you need to start (choose what works best, just tryingto generalize it here)
A) acting your age
B) stop playing excessive video games
C) pranks
That way if he cleans his act up, you get what you've been longing for. If he doesn't, then you must of not been that important to him.

[Asker]

no we never added each other on linkedin. but he checked out my profile several times

[Black-a-knese]

Ahhh alright, I see now just keep an eye on you. Never thought LinkedIn and immature would be used in the same sentence.

[Annarae]

The first step to getting over someone is to admit that you still have feelings for them. The second is to give them a break. There are many ways to do so and blocking does work. It all depends on the type of person you are. Constantly checking on the person will do no good and it will only make you miss them.
You don't have to be hateful to him though, just try to adjust to yourself again and have fun being alone. Before you know it you'll fall in love with yourself and forget him. Blocking is the first step.
You can't heal your wound if you always touch it. It will just reopen again.

[MissDawn7961]

blocking him is a good idea unless he knows where you live , has your phone number or can contact you in other personal ways ! if he knows you have blocked him and he has a strong desire to get with you then he may do whatever it takes to get to you ! Thanks

[Embarrassing123]

Whenever i Block someone I try to convince myself that it’s for the Best and that it will help me get over him. Sometimes i realize that I just want him to notice that I’m hurt and maybe also hoping that he will beg me to unblock him. So I don’t really know if that’s the best move to make for me personally. May work for u

[BurtoE72]

If he's Immature and you dumped him for that then It's because you know what you want and don't you think that the feelings you had could maybe have been of a sexual nature we all love sex and can be attracted to a lot of different people so feelings of a caring, loving nature cane be confused for lustful feelings

[hellacray]

Well if I block someone it's not because I still have feelings for that person. It's because she's really active on social media and I don't want to see all her crap.

Especially if I'm over her. I mean it's kinda hard to be over someone when you constantly see her crap.

[Curlybrunette111]

It helps of course. You don’t see their posts and kinda forget it. When I see posts of people I had feelings for, it kinda brings those memories back. But I didn’t block them, as I felt like it’s good for them to see what they missed😂

[alvincasey]

Yes. It’s a good idea. It means making the decision to move on. This way if late at night one night you have a moment if weakness you won’t reopen that door

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think it's a good idea. I mean if you don't want anything further to do with a person and they're not providing anything productive for you... there's no point to keep any sort of contact.

[Imabetamale]

If you wanna be sad forever go ahead,
If he’s the type you can get over, no problem,
But there’s some people who you can never get over and wil always think about, in that case, blocking him will jus make you miss him,

I don’t know what to suggest, donwhat yiu want

[Ndt98]

Nope.. Blocking will not do much..
If you want to move on.. Then you will have to try acting normal and happy even seeing him on social media..
You dont necessarily have to talk to him or be friends on social media..
Just dont block him
Blocking him will still make you drag your past experience..

[DianaWest]

i get what you're saying. i was led on by a guy who has a girl, and it hurt so damn much after i found out. he never cared to elaborate on this small detail until 2 months after flirting with me. he's still a great guy, but i try to act normally around him and just be happy and move on. i've realized that there are plenty of other guys around, and it just wasn't meant to be.

[vintagegirl90]

I don’t think it’s a good idea to block him because technically he hasn’t done anything against you. Just remove him from your social media if you’re so bothered.

[Connor-RK800]

Blocking things out of your life. They invented psychologists just for that. Now it would be funny if everytime I block someone a psychologist appears and keeps asking me what am I trying to hide in my life, what am I running from.

[francesco_g]

The best thing is to just stay away from the computer or cellphone and get a break. Blocking people isn't really useful since you have the power to unblock and may become tempted or curious later on.

[genericname85]

I guess that's different for everyone but I prefer cutting people that don't reciprocate my feelings out of my life cause otherwise I won't be able to get over it and constantly hurt around them.

[thelittlemermaid333]

Blocking never works for me... the person still comes to my mind... also I wouldn’t wanna be blocked by someone I have a history with

[WetMoansASMR]

Yup, sever the connection then there will be no feelings going to your heart.

[Anonymous]

It is a good idea but in some ways you could always be tempted to unblock him and then go and check out his profiles again

[Asker]

I think I will try not to unblock unless he was begging me somehow. Also fb doesn’t let you block right away so that discourages me from unblocking too

[Opinion Owner]

With all the changes on Facebook I'm surprised they still have the 24 hour wait period for blocking again

[soleil2666]

You are the one that's immature there, and you don't want to deal with that.
But many people are, and consider it is ok to be that way.

[RichW7]

There is such a thing as familiarity, if you constantly see him on social media it's more likely to hurt you more in the long run, cutting ties is quick and easy just like pulling off a band-aid

[yeolsb]

Yes. It’s working if you aren’t checking them out the affection is going down

[Clayaya]

It’s never really helped me. I always become curious and unblock them. The only time I didn’t was when a year had passed & truly didn't care anymore.

[Zautori]

I think it's best. I remember when I blocked my ex crush to move on and it worked. Sometimes it's best to stop talking to someone/ not letting them talk to you in order to finally move on.

[Hassaniscool]

At explain the reason before blocking

[Zautori]

@Hassaniscool He was playing with my feelings for 2 years, it was time to move on or else I was gonna stay latched to him.

[Hassaniscool]

How was he playing

[Zautori]

@Hassaniscool He said he wanted to date me, yet he wouldn't commit. He kept saying let's have a friends with benefits instead and see where it goes. Anytime I said no to sex, he would get butthurt and stop talking to me.

[Anonymous]

Well this hurts me that you had feelings for that guy. Thanks a lot. In all the years I known you for I've never once had feelings for any other woman. God you're a jerk

[Opinion Owner]

You cheated on me so many times over the years I can't even keep track anymore. God you're a complete scumbag

[Opinion Owner]

you really hurt me with this post you know you really did especially after all the times you dated different guys continuously. i never did anything like this to you just remember that

[DiscomfortZone]

Excellent idea for those with the self-control of a toddler.

[red324]

Only of the person is manipulative can't take no for an answer etc.

[Vincedaprince]

Seems like you already made a decision, you're better off sticking with it or you'll keep asking yourself later. Did I make the right choice?

[JayLiche]

Blocking isn’t really getting over somebody
it’s getting rid of them

cutting off contact

[Anonymous]

That depends on whether or not it's actually bringing you the mental peace you're seeking, especially if this person was toxic to your mental health or something soong those lines.
There's no point if you still end up thinking about him.

[wyrmhero1]

You should tell him, it hurts a lot to lose someone without knowing why

[Asker]

Oh he is the one who blocked me on fb at the first place, so I'm just returning the dislike

[wyrmhero1]

Oh ok sorry

[BCRanger10]

It's a start at least.

[Nikki1989]

Sometimes it is the best move to make.

[LovelyFlower]

Yeah
If you need to

[legalboxers]

cut ties.. move on.. zero feelings

[Nahid1707]

It can help moving on

[CuriousMufuxka]

Why not just close all of those accounts as well?

[IHateBeingaMan]

reminds me of ghosting

[biancalovexo]

Yes it’s a good way.

[Jamiealan]

Yes... it brings that sense of finality

[Cherokeehp]

It probably helps.

[RowdyRathore_]

No, it hurts you more

[Anonymous]

Sure. Do what works best for you.

[Anonymous]

I also give some self satisfaction

[Aiasis]

Yes.

[Countrywildmangirl]

No it not

[Danny_dan92]

Yep.

[Dragonqueen03]

Nawwww lol

[McKellar]

I would.