What are your thoughts on women who Don't listen to their boyfriends?

[chris_987]

To me it's a major red flag. Especially considering women want men to be leaders. But they don't want to be followers.

[Finchie40]

Because there is a difference between a dominate guy and a controlling guy , a controlling guy pretty much demands her to do what he wants her to do basically controlling her to do whatever he says , what she can eat, what she can wear , who she can be friends’ with , what she needs to do in the house etc.. , A dominate guy let’s her be herself , he respects her the same way he wants to be respected in return , he wants a girl that is his team partner , A dominate guy will set boundaries with her , that they both agree upon together, hopefully before they even decided to be in a relationship together , so if she over steps those boundaries at any given time? , a dominate guy will make it clear to her what she is doing is wrong , he won’t force her to change , he will just make it clear to her that he will not tolerate her behavior , and if it doesn’t stop? he will be walking the other way. Some females’ are confused when it comes to dominate and controlling men and get the 2 of them mixed up Most females’ are naturally submissive to a man that takes lead in a relationship , she is drawn to his masculine energy that she doesn’t possess within herself , she will be submissive to him , if she feels respected and loved and valued and appreciated and heard by him , as well as feeling safe and protected by him , but not controlled by him. She will follow the boundaries the same way she expects him to follow them as well. If she doesn’t follow the boundaries and she doesn’t respect the relationship she is in with him , he is best to kick her ass to the curb where she belongs. A dominate girl thinks she is the lead of the relationship and thinks she is control of the relationship , Dominate girls’ need to find themselves a cuck or a simp , but not a dominate masculine man. So if you are a dominate male , I recommend you find yourself a submissive girl or you more than likely will not be happy in that relationship whatsoever , If you are a cuck or a simp , find yourself a dominate girl that takes lead in the relationship , if she takes lead and is controlling , and you listen to her , then you are a cuck or a simp by allowing her to take lead. I am a dominate male when it comes to relationships, I only date submissive girls’ that value me and appreciate me that stay loyal and faithful to me , that follows the boundaries her and I agreed upon together , if she follows those boundaries and makes me feel loved and wanted , I will stand by her side and protect her at all costs because she has a good heart and good morals and she has no problem being in my arms , and intimacy and affection isn’t an issue between us whatsoever , Dominate girls’ make it an issue , because she thinks her shit doesn’t stink. So if a girl doesn’t respect me , I will not respect her period , I will gladly show her the door and tell her good luck Go find yourself a simp or a cock because I am going to find me a girl that chooses me the same way I choose her , never let a girl walk over you , if you want a submissive girl

[Rosexøxø]

I was gonna read this and I had to just go with my internal voice from the past who kept me out of trouble with guys and say to you or anyone who thinks like you at the part where you mention:

A guy can be submissive but you go on to label him in a negative way

And then say you only take submissive girls and earlier on say kick her ass to the curb is wild.

If you can’t be submissive yourself and you see an issue with it- then you think of ladies as lesser than you, and that’s wrong.

If we’re to be submissive to anyone that someone has to be okay doing it too.

That’s called understanding and upholding respect.

Anyways I think everyone should lead their OWN lives

And collaborate.
Period.

Nobody was born to have some mother fucxing idiot which is merely another member of the same species to lead them.

Team work makes the dream work.

If humans go extinct I’ll be because they can’t fucxing get teamwork right

Or they murder those they don’t like see as lesser or disagree with.

And all the above is wrong.

So just learn respect collaboration or just lead your own life and let others fcxing do the same.

And you’d think someone your age would know the word is DOMINANT.

Peace. ✌️

[Finchie40]

You should of read my whole answer before assuming you knew what I was saying

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

My thoughts are that people, in general, do not really listen to people, in most interpersonal situations. We are strangers to each other, and most probably stranger to ourselves. That creates a lot of problems, way beyond the micro-event that is a relationship.

As for people wanting to lead or wanting to submit, I tend to stay away from them both, as I find them both uninteresting to relate to. As they are usually unable to listen to anything but a code they run inside them. And even then, I don't think they understand the code at all, I don't think they register the existence of the code.

[jojouzumaki]

It could be… some women might understand that when a man leads, it means they are in control and feel that her opinion matter less/nonexistent. Therefore, some don’t listen.


I, myself, believe that in a relationship, man should lead and woman submit. It’s a sign of her trust, appreciation, and respect for him. After all, feminine grace can bring out masculinity in a man. And their masculinity can make us feel woman.

[chris_987]

I think I get the idea of a women talking on the burdens of a family alone and raising shitty children should be enough evidence that they shouldn't be taking on that responsibility. Because I read a study that shows children of single mother tend to be taken advantage of more. And that's simple because the mother can't be a protector in the same way a man could be. And all that anxiety that she's feeling is definitely going to get in the way of what a child needs to feel safe.

But I guess they get what they deserve for not being logical.

[PeachyPie93]

Depends on the guy and what he is telling her to do.. like telling your girlfriend you don't like her going out to parties by herself is one thing. But if he is telling her you aren't allowed to go out at all, it's a big issue lol.

[chris_987]

. If your with a serial killer who wants you to stay in the house. Why not just leave the relationship

[PeachyPie93]

Some people are stupid.. but I don't have that issue..

[Subtle_Luminescence]

It's good to be on mutual agreement with terms. Man should be the leader and the woman should listen to her, provided that he's sane enough to take the decisions and doesn't want to abuse her.
That being said, if the girl still doesn't listen to her man and the man is displeased or disrespected with her behavior, I don't see any point in them continuing their relationship further.

[chris_987]

I would say that a woman who doesn't want to listen to her man is the insane one. Especially where it involves children. And because they're not more capable of protecting their children than the man is. So when stuff goes wrong and the children suffer she's not going to take accountability anyways.

[molonski2]

I mean it could be , but in context , so it depends if either of them are control freaks , thats a red flag , but really open dialogue on both sides is vital.

Not things like " Wear this green dress " , and she puts on the yellow one , of course that must be her choice , thats control.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I think it should be an open dialogue between the two parties. It shouldn't be him leading and her just following like a puppy dog. They make decisions together and enact their plans together.

[chris_987]

Ideally women like to believe that stuff. But in the grand scheme i think it doesn't make sense because in the courting process you believe that a man should ask you out pay the bill for the date, Show interest right? But all of a sudden now when you in the relationship you are things to be equal.

You can have that dynamic but ultimately it never works out.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I dont believe that at all. I will absolutely ask a guy if I want to go out with him, and whoever asks generally pays for the date, but I have 0 problem splitting the bill either.

My relationships work just fine with a shared and equal dynamic of good communication and working together to reach our goals.

[chris_987]

Yes, bring it back to you and let's not act like this is how the world normally works. Good tactic

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Other normal, healthy relationships do it that way too.

[Zack-Bann]

Blaming the supposed “follower” for not listening is a sign of a weak leader


A real leader doesn’t have this problem: he will find a way to get through to the other person and make them want to let go and fall back into his arms.

[Unit1]

Yup. Some (and I mean many) women don't listen. And then these same some women say men don't listen 🙄 Crazy.

[Billlewis]

Men aren't supposed to tell women what to do; women are supposed to tell us what to do.

[chris_987]

We should round up your kind and open fire

[Billlewis]

Yes, Sir. I'd like to rephrase that -- women should tell weak, celibate losers like me what to do, but real men like the author of this post should never submit to anyone.

[chris_987]

Women don't tell men what to do. They test you to see if you'll listen to them. So all you have to do is fail the test

[Ariesman81]

I agree. But here's my question. If a woman isn't submitting... is she testing for dominance or should she be left alone? The older I get the less energy I have for dealing with insubordination.

[Sonorous]

I think "why even be in the relationship?"

[Anonymous]

As dimly as I view management who choose company over employee. A dim view lol. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Opinion Owner]

A dim view. Oh well.

[andreasderjuengere]

We can always lead without having followers.
I see no problem.

[Anonymous]

I always listened to mine, but that’s me; if other women don't, that’s their choice.

[chris_987]

Especially considering women rarely take accountability so it doesn't even make sense that they don't listen to there man. Because when things go wrong they're going to blame him anyways.

[Opinion Owner]

Right.

[DtMe89]

Women dont want to be controlled. They like your opinion, but ultimately, they want to be able to control themselves.

[Anonymous]

I just hope their boyfriends can grow some backbone

[Crazzyyworld]

Men screw and women shit that’s how it works

[noohair]

See what happened when women got the vote... lol... lol...

[ihateTaylorSwift]

too many of those lol
and I was one of them

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Thas y, I dumped'er ---!

[KeithLane]

They are everywhere!