Men, what are the top reasons why you would not date a single mom? And if you have, can you share whether it was good or bad?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all this is far from being insecure or immature as one responder replied. That’s like me saying women are insecure for not dating a broke man. It’s called a preference just the same as women who want a man who is over a certain height or makes a certain amount of money or a number of other things women want in a man. Nothing insecure or immature about I. Plus men just want their own kids. They want their bloodline to continue. The women who try to shame men by gaslighting them are women who know men don’t want them. Even if there is a man who wants her it’s usually not the man she wants.
In response to your question. I tried dating a couple single moms. Not worth it if I’m being honest. First of all you always have to make plans around her kids. Even when you’re able to make plans things could happen, like the child gets sick or hurt. Then you have to deal w kids who despise you cause they feel as though you’re taking their mother from them. I’ve had this issue. I was w a girl for 2 years. Son, a teenager was lazy as hell. Didn’t want to help around the house. Didn’t want to clean up his dog’s shit which was more like a mountain in the backyard. All he wanted to do was play video games. You can’t discipline them cause most single mom’s won’t let you even though you’ve been together a while. So there’s arguments there between both adults. In my case it was in regards to the son about not helping out, taking care of his room, his dog, emptying the trash. The daughter was fine, but like her mother she had a lot of emotional problems as well. Eventually she broke it off w me cause she didn’t like me trying to bring some order to a chaotic household. So not only did I lose the girl I was w, but I also lost that relationship w her daughter. Come to find out son got in an argument w his mom finally over his behavior. He left to live w dad, now she’s single. A lot of mom’s say they’re not looking for a dad for their kids, but you sure as hell have the responsibility of I’m ring their dad that’s for sure. You have to not only provide as far as food for your girl, but the kids as well. No girl is going to be happy w you showing up w food just for the two of you. You're expected to put your life on the line for not only her but her kids as well. Then you have to deal w a shitty father sometimes. I know I did. There’s way too much to deal w as far as a single mother. Plus she’s more than likely got emotional problems, financial issues. A lot of times she’s looking for a financial partner, not so much an actual partner.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I actually liked dating single moms because I had kids...

In single moms have their children is priority and their children should always come first even before the boyfriend

So if a single mom can do all the above provide for her children teach her children and has all these responsibilities that she's taking care of and she probably a good person it probably means that she doesn't get to go out a lot

Which is cool but every once in a while but that's showing me how responsible that she is and how strong of a person that she is so I always liked going out with the single moms cuz they have priority they have things that need to be taken care of and they do it. And then juggling a job and a boyfriend it even puts more on her so it shows how tough single moms

But then. Single moms that just have chaos going in their life your kids are running amok she's angry at her ex-husband nothing is going right in her life. Those are the single moms that get a bad name just because of the position that to put in. And life is hard for them because they have so many things going on

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Insecurity and immaturity are the main two reasons some men would rather not date a single mom. Just listen to how they talk.

Summeroflove · Answer

If you’re not ready for kids or don’t want them. Every single moms situation is different then the other so don’t get me wrong…. Some women are trash and I feel bad for their kids. Others have different circumstances.

If it’s a divorce. Widowed. She made bad choices but is doing the best she can and taking responsibility. Rape…. The list goes on.

SixFootSexy · Answer

She could have locked someone down  *before*  having children, or kept someone around  *after*  but she failed to do either and you should know exactly why before pursuing a relationship. Also, her kids will always be her first priority,  not you . She'll be more entitled than the woman with no kids. She'll want more and provide you with less. Now if you're a single mom or a White Knight, you'll probably say,  "now hold on a minute! Dads are deadbeat and they wouldn't commit."  No offense, that's your own fault for not doing a better job vetting someone to procreate with. Also that's what kids do, they are resource drains. Single moms, are also raising the next generation of criminals. Sure you could step in an be a daddy, but I wouldn't wish that on any of my single, male friends unless she's a virtuous widow. Which is probably.0002% of single moms. Have some standards, don't date single moms or OF girls.

molonski2 · Answer

I reckon it greatly depends on your age , so for a dude in his 20s , he may be taking on a lot , I dated heap's of them in 20s before I married , mid 30s , 40s , and of course at my age , there is probably something wrong with them if they haven't had kids..

Mostly I found it great , Why? Well , I was a father at 28 also for one ,

Single mums are generally organised , they have commitment to the kids , they are ecstatic to see you , they are happy to go out pretty much anywhere , over time you can become a bit of a star by looking after the kids , giving her some Solo time , and she will appreciate that so much , throw in a trip to the Zoo , or the beach with all of you and you know for the most part they will much prefer that to a niteclub , sexually I found everyone absolutely awesome , had to make sure I was in serious form . There are a plethora of positives , I really enjoyed this , particularly in my 30s. Overall very positive ,

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

My kids are older and out of the house but I dated a few single moms. One was competing with her ex in spoiling the kids and the kids were brats because of it. Another arranged for the baby daddy to look after the kid when we went out but when he found out she was dating he would cancel at the last second. A few times the kids would constantly text their mom and the dates went nowhere. Dating with no kids you can be more spontaneous, go out or on vacations without any interruptions and there's no baby daddy drama

Zack-Bann · Answer

My top reason is that I want my kid to have my genes and be related to me by blood.
I don’t think that’s asking too much.

Also jumping into parenthood on the deep end is far too daunting.

I would rather ease into it.
Read all the BS books during the pregnancy and start from day 0 with an infant

Avcfhcic · Answer

For me it would be the responsibility if things went well to come into a child's life and accept them as yours.
That's mainly because I've never dated anyone, so to go from that to dating a mum and children is a huge step I don't think I could handle right away

Anonymous · Answer

One woman I know who's a single mom has an ehh looking face not an eww but an ehh whatever face but her 10 year old son is a little bastard arrogant and slight anger issues slight bad temper. If the kid had a better disposition a better attitude then the mom might be ok but she's a piece of work herself a real doozy. She complains to me how she's losing her apartment in March but gets her kid a ps5 for Christmas a $500 dollar gaming console and she just took an expensive trip to Dallas to see her family. She complains how she doesn't have a car because it got totalled complains to me how she's behind on her rent how she has to work long hours and how she still owes money on her totalled car. I would never date her because of that

oldpigg · Answer

Because they are generally women who were pumped and dumped by a Chad.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I started to, and it was difficult. She would only have free time every other weekend, dating really wasn't her priority.
If i were ever single, as a single father, my kids would always come first. I understand that. Someone who's single has more freedom to be spontaneous. Let alone complications of ex's and juggling kids. Easy to see why someone who was single without dependants would rather someone in same position

RHK36 · Answer

Most act entitled with no self awareness as to why they are single moms. They tend to stay wanting the same type of man that got them into their situation while wanting chump men cater to them. Also add in the fact that no one wants a constant reminder of their ex walking in front of them. What's equally bad is someone older that's has no kids or never wanted kids. I think there's a happy medium in there somewhere for older people.

genericname85 · Answer

well obviously the fact that she's a mom xD meaning she has 2 children, that come with lots of obligations and resposibilities which sooner or later whill be shared with me if i wanna be together with her. plus she won't have much time to date me to begin with. there's really no upside that i can think of at all.

godfatherfan · Answer

I am 56. I have raised my kids. I have no desire to raise more kids. If she has kids, they have to be over 16, where they can take care of themselves and we are never staying home "because of the kids".

exitseven · Answer

If she has very small kids they take up a lot of time and attention. Also If she has an ex husband there is bound to be drama. And I am not interested in raising somebody else;s kid.

CheeseMonster · Answer

1. I don't want a partner. 2. I don't like women.

Red_Arrow · Answer

I did date a single mother long ago. She was beautiful, very pleasant, and it was very good.

Bricealan · Answer

@glowupgirly5 Have done so many times and don't know why it would be a problem.

NicholasRedone · Answer

The stock photo works for itself above you posted

Pohjolan · Answer

Its not that I necessarily wouldn't date one but I am more reluctant to date one as there is a extra hurdle included involving both her kids and her X.

nawtee_me · Answer

As a single father I salute single mothers for the work they do. Yes I would date one, in fact I married one…. We are no longer together but yes….

FunkyMonkee · Answer

About the only one I can think of is that I possibly wouldn't wanna be an instant daddy.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Depends but open to that idea... by the way you have kids? 🤔

CVNT5 · Answer

Because she is the problem. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

debtfree_oneyear · Answer

I did briefly date a MILF. I ultimately wasn't ready to be a dad so we broke it off.

najekim · Answer

The Mrs. was a single mom when we met. That was 30 years ago. So I guess it has went well. ;)

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I have dated 2 single moms and the experience was rlly good

zombiewoof · Answer

I dated some, just learn to do things with kids, you never know where you will find your soulmate

Anonymous · Answer

men simply want to have their own kids

dannyboy00 · Answer

I absolutely would date a single mom.

jahaims · Answer

They make poor choices

CubaPirate · Answer

I don't have any tbh

Elrinn · Answer

Her pasrenting skills, #1 reason to walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

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