Do you believe in the 333 rule in dating?

[Anonymous]

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For the record that’s clearly a Google search. I didn’t come up with this, I saw it on TIKTOK. My lord

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Personally, I don’t believe in dating rules. However, without looking at a timeline on purpose, I naturally do figure if I’m attracted to someone by the 2-3 week marks. After about 1 month of things are going well, I want to be heading towards a relationship. I have a history of rushing into relationships too fast, so I think 3 months is a good time span if a relationship has been going well

[OlderAndWiser]

Like you, I never followed "rules" for timelines in relationships. I especially never followed the 3-date rule. As I have gotten older, I have developed a well-defined understanding of what I want in a partner and a few dates is enough to know if a woman meets the basic criteria: intelligent, kind, not high-maintenance.

Attraction is something which was either instantly present or never going to develop when I was younger. As I got older, attraction sometimes developed as I got to know a woman, so I never rushed to make that decision.

Within a few months, I knew whether a woman was a good possibility for a long term relationship. It is still possible to discover dealbreakers after six months, but most of those things would reveal themselves within that time.

[Zack-Bann]

I don’t think you can put rules much less timers on how peoples perceive dating and social decisions in general.


This is even harmful for some people.


Because someone who’s easily swayed by trendy tik toks might turn down a potential good match just because they decided to follow a stupid rule that has absolutely no scientific basis whatsoever.


So no.


Just date and let your feelings and better judgment decide for you.


It might sound harsh: but those who constantly pick the wrong partners only have themselves to blame. It’s called natural selection

[DishLady]

Tbh, I've never tried it, However I do believe that a three-month marker is significant. You've given the fellow enough time to get to know you and to get to know the guy. If you are continuing to date a person beyond that you're possibly heading into (at least short-term) exclusivity and commitment. The next are the 6 month and 12 month markers.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree! I don’t necessarily think of rules when I date, but I do think about the pacing of things with who I’m dating and if it aligns with what I want at the moment. This is something I think falls somewhat subconsciously. Around the 3 month mark if I have been consistently dating the same person, I normally what us to go ahead and seal the deal on commitment

[DishLady]

Yeah, sounds fair. :)

[DishLady]

Thanks! ☺️

[Daniela1982]

What happened to the other #3 rule. Sex by the 3rd date or GTFO?

[AviatorTom]

I've never used such random rules, but I've dated a few women who have.

[Shiprex]

It's only a guide I would imagine and not a hard fast rule. 3 dates is not enough though. There are a lot of red flags that can be hidden in that time. 3 months perhaps then you can do a range of things and THEN find out what boxes are ticked and which you can leave unticked until the future.

The idea that there are MUST haves is off putting as that is arbitrary and perhaps something to work on and as soon as there are physical traits expected that's a NOPE unless it's something that can be worked on TOGETHER.

[Tittealicious]

Wow, I did not even know this was a thing until just now reading this. Honestly, never heard of it, or even used it. It honestly seems quite a bit off. Thinking about it now, and looking back I see how my guy may have used this with me. Thankfully he is my boyfriend now, and all seems to be well. I Love him, and he Loves me.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Whenever I see rules and item lists in the areas of love, psychology and sexuality, I can only conclude that this talks about only one person:

The one writing it.

Probably because they needed to write it? Or because they thought or wanted to see a pattern, which then became universal, for them, in how they project their lives onto the world.

[Asker]

I’m not sure who came up with this, but I had been seeing so much about it, it made me wonder what people outside of social media like TikTok thought about it. Some rules I believe fall sort of natural to the subconscious and I sort of felt like this was one of them that a lot of people blindly follow even if the timing isn’t exactly right

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It could be followed, it's not my place to tell if it is or not, also because it may look US-centered to me, in how it's organized and rationalized

[ChicoFromThe305]

How does this work, that means you have two have only three dates within 3 full months of seeing someone, the only good that does is good for the mans wallet, besides that I don't see how that helps a relationship thrive, there's no way you can detect a lifetime relationship in three months, just the baby y'all have would be in the womb longer than that

[Asker]

No it’s saying that it takes 3 dates to decide if you are attracted to the person inside and out, so you can have more within 3 months. The man doesn’t have to pay for all dates unless that’s what is agreed on. My guy and I take turns or meet each other halfway.
So it’s not about detecting a longtime together, but deciding how long it takes to fully commit to each other and avoid a situationship and confusion in where you both stand for extended periods

[ChicoFromThe305]

You can avoid a situationship by making it obvious you want commitment but whatever works for you anon 😆

[Asker]

Agreed lol but some folks fake it!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea but why limit yourself to the time, just take all the time you need to read them lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lots of people walk around misunderstood ha

[Asker]

I think it’s absolutely necessary if one person isn’t communicating. Sometimes you meet someone that doesn't open up about their intentions so I think this is needed for those types of people. Not everyone though

[ChicoFromThe305]

Whatever makes things easier I suppose

[Itried2help]

A women's attraction is built out of what you're feeling right now. You found a king lol. Keep a decent attitude and maybe you'll wind up married.

[incorrected]

No, I believe in learning to read people and figuring them out properly. Some people I can figure out within minutes or hours, others are more complex to figure out. If you want a lasting relationship, you need to first know yourself. What are you looking for, what are your expectations and so on. Until you know what you want and how it should work in practice you're basically lost.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I subscribe to the 3 years as friends, then if best friends form from it, it moves on to 3 months dating, then if that goes well, 3 months living together, then if that goes well, 3 months engaged, and if that goes well, sex for the first time, and right after sex I marry her. So its more like 333311.

[Anonymous]

How about she does t sleep w him for an X amount of months like some women do cause they want to k or if he’s serious about a relationship or not. While she holds out on sex, he doesn’t pay for her meals (dates) for X amount of months as well to make sure she’s fully invested as well.

[Lliam]

That sounds generally logical. But I don't have rules. I'm not that anal. I just do what feel right.

[lorenzomichael]

No, but I believe in the three N’s (1) No (2) Never, and (3) Never again.

[Asker]

Real

[Itried2help]

I call you structured women. You'll be single or have the biggest losers in your life because and I'm not the highest quality but id totally bounce you back to limbo lol. Just act like a women and leave it to the man or have it fall apart by a boy. Do you like boys or men?

[Asker]

Okay

[Itried2help]

Good attitude and make up/losing weight is about all. Love is a game so if someone is being super nice in hopes that niceness will make you gush he's wrong. Bounce the nice dude and get hit on by chads by doing the above. That's it. Women do not go far by initiating contact, but by being approachable enough during first contact. After first contact the women chases the man until the relationship ends. One she stops chasing it's over.

[ProbablyClueless]

This is the first I've heard of it. It certainly makes more sense than the shotgun approach a lot of people use these days.

[Purpleronnie]

Absolute horseshit , Date for as long as you want to or need to before knowing what’s right for you or what you want.
Nobody should need generic nonsense rules like this

[zagor]

I don't believe in dating rules, but those sound like reasonable rough guidelines.

[Drumlin2001]

Not sure everyone needs 3 dates. Can usually size people up quote well from one coffee

[Phoenix98]

I don't do that kind of stuff I'll just date a woman if I feel a spark and chemistry then I'll continue if I don't feel anything I'll cut her loose.

[molonski2]

I think its a good process , can't say I've used it , but I do believe yes , thanks for making me aware of that.

[Massageman]

I use the "333" rule only in survival of the human body - 3 minutes without air, 3 days without water, 3 weeks without food, 3 months without human contact.

[LiamJHayden]

No, I don't. I know within two dates if I am going to pursue something more or move on.

[BarryLiverstone]

No I don’t believe in the rule but do like that it covers 3 months and things aren’t in a hurry

[slayxme]

no, we make up our own dating rulebook we live by. This does not apply to everyone.

[PeachyPie93]

3 months is good to know if you like a person and want to date.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not at all. I believe in the "be clear in communication and intent and take as much time as you need"

[NicholasRedone]

The 666 rule is much more devilishly-delightful for me and my Woman ♀️ 👀 😈 😈 smiles

[HungTexan]

This is nonsense. There’s no rule for dating.

[RingOfFire]

Don't feel bad, TikTok is the main source of news for most of the people in your generation.

God help us!

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe there is a select window of time to make that decision, though for those that struggle… Might help them honestly.

[exitseven]

I always thought that relationships had no timetables.

[Vegasrunner]

Corny and designed to make women believe they can ignore their emotions

[Asker]

Nothing wrong with us ignoring our emotions if that brings the logic out. It’s not for everyone though

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker agreed except for the fact that women aren't able to do that.

[Asker]

Some statistics would say differently

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker Interesting which ones?

[GlowUpGirly5]

You gals get more and more brainless everyday. The shit y'all come up with

[Asker]

I didn’t come up with it? I saw it on tiktok

[GlowUpGirly5]

@asker you're 25-30 years old. Grow up!!

[Asker]

Lol you’re way to pissy about this, you need to relax

[Smegskull]

If you are using rules you're doing it wrong.
This is like the "nice guy" thing of "I followed all the rules I was told of what women want, why won't they date me?"

[Crazzyyworld]

If you love someone because you hate yourself, then it won’t work

[Asker]

I am confusion on this statement

[beefcakebradybatson]

. Threethreethree. I think there's an MLB Hall Of Famer with that career batting average.

[Ryan_BC]

I dont agree! just a waste of time... why i have to spend 3 months if it doesn't click on first date?

[Nikki1989]

There are NO rules.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of that rule, but it looks acceptable.

[jshm2]

LOL, seems like gatekeeping bullshit, tbh.

[Sevenpointfive]

i don't date. dating leads to relationships

[Staximus]

Rules are for fools.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I most certainly do.

[ABC1x1x]

I don't believe in rules.

[In_Trance]

The rules should be more like 2,2,12

[GlowUpGirly5]

🤣🤣 I choked

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 the stuff you women come up with.☕️

[Kathryn2003]

Yes also with new tv shows.

[Dina2000]

I do very much.

[jahaims]

Moronic