Do you think being single in your 40’s is harder or easier to meet someone?

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When I was single in my younger years , I didn’t have any problem talking to girls’ and getting them interested in me and going on dates with me. But Now that I am older , I don’t feel as good as I once was lol. I still mingle with girls’ but I rather them ask me out than me asking them out. Have you experienced this when you got older? At times I feel like I am my own worst enemy , so I tend to keep my mouth shut when it comes to asking her out on a date , I just wait to see if she asks me out instead. For whatever reason I lost some confidence in myself, I blame age lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hmm, a way I seem to do and get result to ask me out is that I'm patient and not result-seeking as an average man does.

But I can keep my calm as I don't really expect much.
Assuming you can keep your calm, then it is you initiating in the beginning just merely maintaining the interaction for some while.
If you still have sexual tension and attraction, then think of it as in just enjoying this sexual tension-building period.. even if it remains at same level.

Whenever she slides the smallest hint of love or attraction, just simply respond back in same level of flirting. Whether quite immediate or later.. timing can be flexible as long as your response is clear that you're loghtly pushing and testing.

This way few girls have took steps towards me and I push then again.
I don't know if older women are like so, or maybe you still see younger women.

I still know women at some point like you to be clear in your boundaries. You don't ask on a date, but let conversations and relation flow smoothly and get personal and deep enough where you like her presence and thoughts.

Then simply mention how you like your conversations, her thoughts, personality etc.
If she's okay, simply tell her that meeting in person truly shows care and better feel others. And you feel it is natural for you to do so.. and ask if she feels the same.

Asking if she feels the same is quite a way whenever you want to make a bold move yet want to stay considerate.

If you see them in person, ask how do they spend their time.. and try to compliment and express how you like her company and go from there.

If online, then keep at ask if she feels same. As if she only enjoys the talk, she at least will reject but in a friendly yet clear manner. You get your answer, and you didn't bother her, and she is fine as well.

All the best mate. Hope it helps.

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

It’s a different world nowadays & it’s a world where people seem to keep to themselves & it’s a world where it’s easy for people to get lost in technology as well. As for love some say it can kick you in the ass when you least expect it & others say they have better luck of getting hit by lightning on a submarine versus finding that special wonderful someone. As for you my friend there may be times where you think you are over the hill but just remember you are under the mountain. As for age it’s just a number & like wine some people get better with age. As for meeting people if you want to meet people you have to get out & greet people. In life if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all.

Get out in the world bro & if someone catches your attention go introduce yourself.

You’re in your 40’s dude & you are still alive so grow a set & start chasing puss again.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I second that. Way way harder. For me aa a woman I think men want younger women. So men around my age still want women in 30's. And men in 30's don't want an older woman for a relationship. So it's easy to get younger men for sex not for love.

And then... am I supposed to go older? But just as people prejudice me cos of my age I too prejudice against men older than me. I can't see men in their 50's matching my energy and youthful vibrancy. Plus a lot of men seem to not care about their appearance and look really bad. Even from over 35 .. the skin is worn, balding, untrimmed scraggy beards. No sense of style. And a bad attitude towards women to boot. I'm open to a guy around my age if I'm attracted and we match but so far nothing and nobody. Closest I got was a 37 year old but he wasn't no top looker and had a criminal record and showed signs of being abusive. So that didn't last long.

littlekat · Accepted Answer

I m almost there (39 now) and I ve been single since my divorce 8 years ago. the first 4-5 years don't really count because I wasn't interested in meeting anyone, I was healing. the years after though, I knew what I was looking for and haven't found it yet. The pool of decent straight single men aroun my age or a little bit older is very small to start with and then where do you find them? It s not like in your 20s or early 30s where you could find them in bars or clubs. So yes , my expectations are bigger and the pool is smaller, it is like looking for a unicorn! lol

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I experienced just the opposite. When I was older and single, I was more confident than when I was younger, and internet dating sites made it easy to meet single women near my age. Dating was much easier when I was in my fifties than when i was in my twenties.

Communicationisking · Answer

Interesting. I found it easier to meet women as I got older but I didn't chase girls I just liked to party and I met many girls of various ages 21-47 that just wanted to have fun. I did make it clear to all that relationships are not possible for me in my life at the time and was just open and honest about the situation I was in.

Purpleronnie · Answer

It definitely gets harder , but I think more so for women if I’m honest. I moved around a fair bit to different cities , so i became good at getting out there and meeting people. I had to do that or pretty much just work eat sleep. I think you got to change things up , break out and branch out to meet as many new people as possible and widen that circle.

That made it easier for me !

scott04sa22 · Answer

Its much harder nowadays, the women consider me as 100% undateable since I don't drive and I have no control over it. I been rejected over 1,000 times at least. Some people think I'm gonna find the right person but perhaps in the afterlife. People who suffer years from finding the right person their well deserve to be with the right person. Everybody is getting disconnected over technology now and Everybody thinks that social media is their mother / father and Everybody believes from what social media says. Dating is getting more brutal now. For myself I don't understand how my younger brother was able to find his long-term wife more quickly then others but me I have to be the one who just can't find any suitable Partners on my level. It just sucks sometimes. Make you feel all the good potential partners are all taken and leaves you with very limited options now.

fartingspinster · Answer

Let's be honest... its hard to meet anyone of significance in this day and age. But to meat someone consistently? Maybe harder than it was in your 20s but lots of 40s are becoming single or changing up their life so you may be able to starts a romance.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I feel harder becuase most people that age have settled down unless your looking for a younger girl I mean I used to date men in there 30s ans 40s when I was single

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Easier.  Well, easier to meet the women I wish for, because I'm much more aware of which kind of profiles I'll blend well with.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Probably depends on your circle, your hotness and how realistic are your standards.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Daha önce 45 yaşında bir adama aşık olmuştum. İyi tarafı bana değer vermesi ve bana hediyeler almasıydı ama kötü tarafı ilişki için her zaman çaba sarf etmem gerekiyordu, pek fazla adım atmıyordu ve 40'lı yaşlardaki insanlar daha çocuksu oluyor, benden ilgi bekliyordu, sonuç olarak ilişki yürümedi çünkü hayatında evleneceği bir kadın istemiyordu, bekar kalmak istiyordu ve sadece yanında kız arkadaşı olmamı istiyordu.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

The woman my ex cheated with is in her mid 40s now, she saw him as a prize worth fighting over…. It must be very hard dating at that age in order for her to be that desperate.

Lynnzee · Answer

I think it's hard meeting quality people in general now. It seems like most of the people I would be interested in are married and living their best life

Anonymous · Answer

Generally harder.
When you're young, you are more on a level footing and used to being pushed together in groups.
In middle age, most people have their own lives which may be very different to others in the circles they move, their expectations and status and commitments, and are less focused around other people.

msg321 · Answer

It depends on who you want to meet. If you want to meet girls who are in their 20s harder if you want to meet women who are in their 30s or 40s easier.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Based on my experiences in my early 30s, I would assume it gets a lot harder in your 40s.

molonski2 · Answer

I must say for myself , I peaked absolutely at 38+ - Around 50s ( low ) .. Had a plethora more opportunity , part of that was a divorce and career change.

Lottydotty · Answer

Think its hard and hard in different ways for many people at anytime of life

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

If you're a dude with money, easier;if not or you're a woman after about 40, MUCH harder.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I found it super easy to meet women when I divorced at 50.

Anonymous · Answer

Easier. The amount of quality women on the market are just significantly less.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'll go back to this question in few years... if I happen to be single, still...

monkeynutts · Answer

I think it's a natural process in life, should not beat yourself up over it, maybe set some personal goals, like ask one girl out to a movie or an event every two weeks.

RedThread · Answer

There's less opportunities than when I was younger for sure. I'm 37 and haven't crossed into the 40s threshold yet though.

Anonymous · Answer

Plenty of 40 year old guys have found their way to me to make their pitch.

Anonymous · Answer

its harder because you want to date someone at least 10 years younger. Realize most people 10 years younger than you aren't interested in you.

Canadiangal9 · Answer

yes it difficult to date in your 40s. i dont know where to meet a good guy that looking for a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

It is way harder to meet someone in your 40's.

Anonymous · Answer

It's much harder I think.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Easier.

Beachbummama84 · Answer

It’s 10,000x harder

bgnakey · Answer

Harder probably

jimmy2 · Answer

Harder

jled44 · Answer

Definitely harder

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