Am I messed up for being jealous of my girlfriend’s friend?

[Anonymous]

So for some reason, I keep thinking my girlfriend is bi. But I know it’s all in my head because she told me she’s straight. However, I think it stems from her not being affectionate towards me. I literally had to stop holding her hand because she got mad at me. It lead me to not ever wanting to try affection towards her until she does so. And she doesn’t even try. She says because it’s her upbringing. And she needs therapy. And I’ve been jealous of her friend because she loves to hangout with her friend so much. She recently became single. And they were each other’s “valentines date.” It made me sad because she took a picture of her and sent to me. She never takes pictures. She only has like a few pictures of me. And she always talks to me about her. And why she loves my girlfriend’s humor.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... it sounds like you might very well have reason. First, withholding affection until she gets more affectionate is a terrible move. Where do you imagine that ending?

It does sound like she's spending all kinds of time with this other girl, and might be in a relationship with this other girl.

How in the fuck. Did your girlfriend end up someone else's Valentine's date.

So I'd say yea... that sounds like you might have had reason to be.

But... how happy is this relationship? (I don't know... obviously. Just saying... something to consider).

The problem is: there's no good way to go about this. You accuse her... and she denies it's romantic/sexual. You bring up examples, she makes them look like your overreacting. You insist that your girlfriend not see this other girl or anything like that, and you're not going to win that one either.

You have one hope the way I'd see it. You tell her how you've been feeling, and break up with her unless she stops you from doing so, or argues that she'll actually do things differently.

Ask yourself if you see a road to this improving for you. If not, if it were me... I'd be ending things. What your describing doesn't sound like a great relationship for you. You might be happier with somebody else.

[denzooo9]

this is hardd dude🫶. i love that she’s so close to her friend, but I’d feel left out with how she is acting. maybe try to talk to herr about how you feel? wish you all the besttt🫶

[Fury_storm]

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