Have you ever had to deal with a "nice" guy/girl wanting to date you before?

Question

You know the type. The "pick me" personality that acts like they are nice and sweet, one of the good ones who can never find love, but in reality, they are just trying to get laid or have a bad/controlling personality.

This ever happened to you?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Oh yes, plenty of times , I want to believe them and hope they are being honest with me , but it’s always a 50/50 chance if they are or not. Why I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ , I rather her and I be friends’ with benefits with some strings attached before committing to each other 100 percent , mainly for this reason , After having my heart shot on by lying selfish girls’ it’s sadly harder for me to fully trust girls’ these days. So FWB’s with some strings attached kind of eliminates that from happening , because it gives her and I time to really get
To know each other before making
The big decision to commit to each other , the more you get to know someone the more you will see
Their true colors of who they truly are , if they turn out to be liars , oh well , see ya , thanks for a good time but not a long time , if they are honest , then that’s someone I will highly consider being on a committed relationship with. Most people jump onto relationships without looking at the big picture and then they wonder how come they can’t last in a relationship and end up having their heart broken , So FWB’s with some strings attached eliminates the both of you from having your heart broken , if you both are on the same page with things. You should only get into a FWB’s with some strings attached with someone that is on the same page as
You and someone that is being honest with you the same way you are honest with them because that will more than likely lead the both of you being fully committed to each other

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

The real issue is people who are disingenuous with their intentions. They are acting nice not because they really are nice but because they have other intentions but are too cowardly to just say what they really are wanting as well as don’t want to be rejected.

It’s much different then someone who genuinely has a good heart. Some people think that they’re entitled to get laid such as men who think if they fulfill a entire checklist they can bed a woman. Women who have more to offer then sex see right through it and just don’t waste their time women who are wanting sex would rather find someone to jump into bed with. So they either get women who are bottom of the barrel unless they have something they can use then they can be manipulated by sex.

The same for women who act all nice and sweet even if they really aren’t to a man. Maybe to get into his pants but also if someone has money or social status. They may be after something like that as well so they start acting like a pick me. They may pretend to hold beliefs either religiously or politically they do not genuinely hold. Things of that nature.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I know three guy a that pretended to be nice guy a to date me and when I rejected them, they either gossiped about me, or harassed me through email or phone calls. One guy called my house 13 time a day after I rejected him. I tried to get him jailed as punishment. I think the police investigated him but I’m not sure if he ever went to prison.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

There are too many people like that. They use it to get whatever they want, not just dates.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I've dated nice girls before. In fact I think they were all nice. I think this is something more apt to happen to women. (guys are more likely to be the ones who pull this).

It sounds like someone who is simply being manipulative. He is trying to present himself as a different kind of guy than he really is; with different motives than he really has. He says he's looking for love, but is just trying to get laid (or get a girl to control).

To me, guys like that are firmly put in the category of "asshole guys."

All you can do is look for what you might have missed, so you can figure out a guy one of this type next time. Keep in mind, that this is a guy faking that he's a type of guy who DOES EXIST.

There really are guys who are nice and sweet and "one of the good ones." Just make sure you don't mistake the guys who are genuinely good guys, with this fake version with malicious intent.

BadApple69 · Answer

Of course it never happened to me but I do know the type. I had a friend that to girls he was mister nice guy. Dated several at a time but even to me he would try to convince me that he loved them all. They all were special….. the truth was he just wanted to bang them. I don’t think he would admit that truth even to himself.

Sunrising · Answer

I'm nice and sweet, pick me, one of the best guys 😃 but I've never found love 😕 How can you tell us good guys, from the bad guys, without including us with the rotten apples like now?

IslaTheWitch · Answer

nope... I take my time... and people I let closer were exactly people I wanted to let closer :D

NicholasRedone · Answer

@ez-bri-z_v2 i think many ladies have and they've usually eventually found some other new guy to latch onto or shrug, I made myself oblivious to them and luckily they eventually lost interest in me 🤭😊🤩

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Oh yeah... that's happened to me several times. Right up until I got good at identifying who those ladies are before they do their little switch up.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I learned to spot it though  Unfortunately people with an actual backbone aren’t easy to come by  So we dance with the ones who brought us in hopes of one day dancing with the ones we want…

lucas262 · Answer

I used to be ,, nice,, I even used to be good. Now I just don't give a damn. I freely admit I'm an asshole. I like to say one mans asshole is another man's Saint. Can't really say iv had a , nice, person come on to me like that

exitseven · Answer

I mostly dated girls that would be considered wholesome and nice. A couple of them were not what I thought they were.

Mark987 · Answer

A few times lol. I met a girl like that in Spring Break in Florida a WHILE BACK. She played the sweet innocent type, but just wanted to let loose, and party.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, never, no girl ever wanted to date me :(

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

Nice guys FINISH last My dad's not a "bad/mean guy". he's been married 39+, happily, with children

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I only date bad girls. I don't like those nice chick's they are too fake and only want sex. Too agreeable and boring.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No! I did come across a douchebag who said “I can’t cuddle with you unless we get naked”

fish5505_87 · Answer

Hmmm, I have had a couple stalkers, they weren't evil though, just a little twisted.

Wayneg89 · Answer

Yup been there. They are a lot of fun but too much maintenance for me.

Despina6 · Answer

Yea once she was toxic. Tried to tell me who I can hang out with or not. I dump her first date.

oldpigg · Answer

No, the women who had crushes on me in high school thought I was a good man, but I'm actually self-centered and unempathetic.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, I like them a little raw though

masterSir · Answer

Yes and married her

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

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