Would you feel rejected if your partner did not enjoy any forms of PDA?

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Holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I would be concerned as to why she doesn’t like any of it , and talk to her about it privately, I understand some people just don’t like it whatsoever , so if she gave me a valid reason as to why? then I would understand , and not hold it against her , if she didn’t give me a valid reason, and just gave me lame excuses , then i probably would hold it against her and realize she isn’t the girl for me. It’s easy to assume things , but without communication you really don’t have an answer , why communication is important before assuming things. I dated girls’ before that didn’t like it whatsoever, and once I talked to them and understood why they didn’t like it , i appreciated her honesty , and knew not to do any of it in public anymore , but , if she was refusing me in privacy , then that’s a problem lol , i do prefer a girl that loves it , but you can’t always get what ya want lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A little bit yea. Frankly I kind of want a certain degree of PDA. It might sound a little weird but if we hit that point in the relationship, I'd probably feel proud of her and kind of want to show her off in public. It's kind of like when your kid does something really good and your proud, so you show him to all your friends and tell them how great they are.

It's also kind of a minor "marking your territory" kind of thing which can feel kind of steamy as long as you draw the line at an appropriate place. Going too far with that becomes possessive and controlling but I like the idea of having an SO that wants to do the same to me. I kind of like clingy girls and it makes me feel wanted if they're a little bit possessive as long as it's not too much.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

It’s not great but I’d accept they feel uncomfortable. I am the last person that wants to push boundaries. If they had issues with -affection period- not bc it’s in public, we won’t match. Physical affection and intellectual connection are the only reasons I’d bother being in a relationship— Without half, nope.

if they need _time_… to adjust… That is différent. totally different. It is very much worth waiting for a person. That’s fine. 😌

DishLady · Accepted Answer

It depends what the PDA entails. Handholding is pretty standard. If they're not into hand/arm holding there's a red flag right there. Kissing and hugging within reason. Don't hit "get a room" mode just bc you want to have some warped "sex in the city" moment in front of all your friends, an ex, etc. Keep PDA simple and appropriate.

MrOracle · Answer

Yes. I don't need to have public make-out sessions, but if she wouldn't hold my hand or hug me in public, that would be a deal-breaker for me.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I couldn't feel rejected because I'm not the target, unless providing a context for this imaginary partners reactions, then I'd believe that social settings are the target, not me. What I need is intimacy in private, I like it, in moderation, in public because it feels natural to me, but it's just optional. It's not something that would my perception of her or our relationship.

Abbi_T · Answer

My boyfriend is funny. He is very affectionate when we are indoors, even if there are other people present. Once he steps outside his lizard brain kicks in, even holding hands is a challenge! I like to tease him and go over the top with PDA so he agrees to holding hands. Result!!

Anonymous · Answer

A bit yeah. My current boyfriend is not even into hand holding in public so I do feel rejected sometimes. I’m definitely not pushing for anything inappropriate like a full on make out session or groping or too much touching, just some hand holding that’s all. He’s not really the physically affectionate type so I understand but weirdly enough he’s super touchy and completely fine with  private  display of affections.

worldscolide · Answer

Yes. I love hugs when they come from my wife. Even in public. It's literally the only affection I'm willing to have in my life. I'm strictly hands off with literally everyone else in my life. I don't generally like being touched, save for by one single solitary person, my wife.

Screenwriter · Answer

I wouldn't feel rejected, Some people don't want to do what they consider "personal" in public. I don't.

I'm not an exhibitionist and would be repulsed by someone wanting to do such displays in public. What are they, a showoff? Want to lay a public "claim" on me? So everyone knows they're mine?

That's a real ugh. Though I wouldn't mind hand holding, butt grabbing, and other than kisses on the cheek are not my cup of tea.

aceleon · Answer

Yes, only love language that get's me is physical so no touch means no love.

And especially during outings like, i have many other things at home to spent the time with but we are outside specificly because we want to spent time together why keep it in the friendly range? We are not friends right?

OneViewpoint · Answer

I'm not a PDA kinda guy. But I try to be self aware and situationally aware. I always hope others are the same. For instance, if a woman is huggy or likes a kiss on the cheek in front of her friends, OK, I'll do that for her. Tongue down my throat? She likes me to grab her ass and run my hand down her thigh in a group setting? No, I'm not doing that. Wait until we're alone. If she reads that as rejection, we're likely not on the same page. So be it.

EmmaMary · Answer

Yes... I most definitely would feel some upset and reject... However, I would have already been asking him what his problem was before it became too much to put up with.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Not necessarily.
Im not shy about these things but I would respect my partner’s boundaries if she’s uncomfortable with it in public

It’s only when she’s uncomfortable with Private Displays of Affection that we begin to have a problem

Sudheerk · Answer

No, may be my partner feeling nervous or she may be have any problem, or may be she is shy, or cultural problem etc. , so I will try to understand her problem first, and try to find solution on it, if we both don't enjoy it, then it's not real love, but if she didn't like me i wil stay away from her, you can not force someone to love. It should be happen naturally.

molonski2 · Answer

Extremely , life is far more than just penetration , nothing is better than those incredibly personal exchanges , passionate kissing , holding hands. intense embrace , its so very important.

strateguy632 · Answer

I wouldn't. The distinction "public" in p. d. a. means the issue is "others see", so it is not rejected and so shouldn't be misconstrued as rejected.

rybukakes · Answer

I kinda understand it if someone doesn't like to do some of those things. But if I can't hold hands with her, then I would feel rejected in the sense that she doesn't want people to know about us being together.

Anonymous · Answer

What do people get out of shoving their tongues down each other’s throats in public?

Honestly? This is kind of a dumb/non-issue for me. Lady in the streets, that’s what I want. Like, I don’t care how hot you are, just be normal.

godfatherfan · Answer

During my marriage I absolutely did. My ex-wife didn't like PDA. I love it a lot. I don't want to get freaky, but hand holding, kisses, and hugs should not be an issue.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not rejected but lacking for sure. That is one thing I really enjoy. My ex didn’t do it so it was like I was missing out on something that I enjoyed.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

That would be a shitty feeling, I already love kissing and licking, if I miss out on those, I don't want a relationship.

PrincessC16 · Answer

Yes I would take it personally. I have already been through this. And I'll never let it happen to me again.

alice55 · Answer

I would and I would leave them, it's very weird like behavior

Rimaisme · Answer

I'd question if he's even human at that point

bddddd · Answer

People are different. If he is treating you well in private then you are probably on a good thing.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Feel rejected?  No, not at all.

AnonAndrew · Answer

I wouldn't feel rejected if that's just her personality, but I wouldn't like it.

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

Like I tell my wife, "Get off of me, I'm trying to look single for all the chicks!"

Emmytexrex · Answer

Some people are just not comfortable with PDA is if you notice your partner is such then you respect that but if you know that's not want you want you cut loose and go for what you want

Shiprex · Answer

Yes and no. I'm not that bothered about it although prefer to if she's into it.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Not necessarily rejected but wouldn't like it

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. I wouldn’t. Maybe they’re just a very shy private person.

genericname85 · Answer

no. i'd feel happy that my partner understands how to properly behave in a public social setting.

dragoblack · Answer

Intimacy is one of my love languages, i can understand not full-on making out, but holding hands, cuddling, and simple kisses is minimum

mrkdvsn · Answer

Not at all. I've never engaged in any PDA's with any partners, and they've never wanted or insisted upon it. I've always believed that affection should be a private thing

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Absolutely. Physical contact is a huge part of expressing intimacy in relationships

red324 · Answer

kind of. You should be proud of the person you're with

Staximus · Answer

I can understand not wanting to make out in public. If somebody is afraid to be seen hugging you or holding your hand, there is a problem

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. It's not comfy for some people. IDGAF but some people aren't wired that way.

TDDMS · Answer

Yes and then afterwards I would quickly introduce her to my new girlfriend.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I like women who cling hug.  I don't wanna make out in public though.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

No, as long as she had a good reason why she doesn't. "I don't want to" isn't really a good answer

Katalina04 · Answer

I'm okay with kissing when SOs meet at the airport a week apart, and I'm fine with holding hands.

Twalli · Answer

They'd have to make it up by being extremely affectionate in private.

K8tie2001 · Answer

Kissing fine as long it doesn’t go over board.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

No. Don't really care. It's the private affection I want anyway

Diaper1966 · Answer

That's why I'm on here trying to see if there are women out there that can give some hints on how I can change her mind

CubaPirate · Answer

Absolutely but I'm only talking about holding hands and quick kisses 💋

Anonymous · Answer

No. Only if she showed no forms of affection at all anytime.

philatto · Answer

Groping is one thing. Brushing up against one another is a good sign of compatibility.

Panthero · Answer

No, I don't find PDA classy, except holding hands.

Account · Answer

Honestly, yes.

Simslover92 · Answer

Nope

slatyb · Answer

Yes. We wouldn't be compatible.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes.. that would be very concerning

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Just means she’s classy

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not rejected but disappointed perhaps

jahaims · Answer

I'm okay with no pda.

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn't.

Credentialmayhem · Answer

No because they are just shy

805Girlbruhhhh · Answer

Yeah depends on the atmosphere

MemeSupreme · Answer

no bc i get it

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Not necessarily.

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