Why are you single?

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Why are you single?

serious · Accepted Answer

Well, there are plenty of reasons for the same. I will mention a few of them in brief:

1. I am not a person who likes to take responsibilities as a person and being in love, exclusive relationships means taking additional responsibilities

2. Love, romance and exclusive relationships are risky. By risky I mean, one has to be open minded, flexible and should be able to put their trust in the other person. It also means to be vulnerable. As a person I am rigid and closed minded and highly resistant to changes (major changes) and for me protecting myself is more important than taking risks.

3. I have strict standards, criteria both in terms of physical looks and personality. I give importance to both.

4. I have very low tolerance levels and there are many things I will never tolerate for eg anyone who plays manipulative mind games. I will not put up with any drama and jealousy mind games that women tend to play with men. The moment I notice anything like that, the woman will be out of my life. There will be no explanations, no forgiveness and no second chances given. I will never accept and tolerate any type of bad behavior.

5. In many movies I have seen that women like men who are funny, jovial and can make them laugh and smile. I am the complete opposite of it. I am always serious, honest and straightforward which I suppose is not what women find attractive.

There are many other reasons but these are some of the important ones. The fact that I have low tolerance and my standards are strict, it means the woman will always be under pressure to be her best as the margin of error would be marginal (minimal)

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

I have yet to find a lady who can deal long term with my eccentricities, like spending ten hours working on music and being oblivious to everything else.

Vampirelover_12 · Accepted Answer

Men are hard to date, you can't even flirt with them anymore. Like I'm sorry, but if you didn't want me to look at your chest, then you should've worn a turtleneck.

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

Because I had to leave my ex lol after 14 years too 😅  I'm content with being single right now though.

ohsheeT · Answer

I just spent the last 4 years taking care of someone. And while doing this I felt was thevwrong time to get involved with anyone because I would be able to do the things I would like to do

And I felt that there was many times where I would have to make a choice probably. And that just wouldn't it turned out good

And by taking of of someone the last 18 months of there life I wasn't able to work at all I burnt through savings acc. Checking. Another savings account and
After everything I was in the hole big time I morevir less in the last past 7 months git cought up but I need to get ahead because I like to do what I want to do when I want to do it

I have had a couple Opportunities but I passed even tho my body. Was going to kick my ass. Lol

I am just about at the place where I would almost be comfortable dating again.
I mean, it's. Time. But now just to wait and see

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I'm single because, I don't have my shit together.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@simslover92 life circumstances. Time got away from me. My 20s just flew by. Covid took off 2 years due to the lockdowns/not wanting to get the virus or spread the virus. Again, lifestyle reasons. And here I'm now at 31 and it's just how it all appeared as fate lol 😆 after all, I'm still overdue my circumcision - I'm hopeful I'll finally get the procedure this year - that's public health systems for you all worldwide, always, leaving, a lot, to be, desired :( yet that's for free lol 🆓 so no surprises there 🏥

genericname85 · Answer

cause being single, you're free to do whatever you like every single second of your day. no need to care about what somebody else wants. no obligations. no drag on your creativity and your time. nobody judges you if you wanna play videogames all day. nobody complains cause you wanna eat out at a specific restaurant, cause they're not in the mood for that one. no lost sleep cause someone else wanted to get up early. no sudden drama out of nothing cause someone else just can't stay happy and they always need to be angry or sad about something to feel alive.

Anonymous · Answer

No one will have me. I'm apparently a good friend but not good enough according to the pattern. Woman like me, they'll talk to me, hell I've had multiple woman bear their soul to me and listened to them weep for hours a day for months but apparently that's just not enough on it's own. I'm average looking and have no money or job so I'm a "Good guy" but not worth dating. Never mind the fact every time this has happened the person they ran to used them then dumped them when they were bored. Woman don't want good guys they want successful guys and think them being good is a bonus.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Because I want to be at the moment. I spent decades being the support mechanism for everyone around me, family, friends, work. I've been taking a break the last 9 years. It has been fantastic. I come and go as I please. Eat what I want where I want. Do what I want when I want. And I don't have anyone demanding my time constantly. Oh I date and get laid when I want to. I just never let it develop into anything permanent.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Looking back at how my life is set, I'm single when I'm sentimentally unavailable. Which is automatic after a breakup, then recovery phase, which (so far) may last for a year. After that, it's unlikely I'll be single, there is always someone to talk to and then... C'est la vie

strateguy632 · Answer

Now, because women want "firework sparkle excitement " all the time, and similar unrealistic expectations but don't appreciate a sweet guy,

or they *hav bad attitudes about men being dead weight or a waste etc, just look at the wording gals wrote here! That is why average men are single!

glennos89 · Answer

Probably because i'm screwed financially because of a crime I did during the corona time and for me as a man I don't feel that I have anything to offer right now other then myself as a person. I'm pretty traditional so the financial part makes me doubt wether I'm can provide enough for my family. I know I'm not going to be happy about it so thats holding me back

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Up until fairly recently, I was drowned in law school and career stuff. I didn't have the emotional bandwidth for a real relationship. Now days I'm whipping my butt into shape, so I'm much more emotionally available.

I don't know. I think a certain amount of my singleness comes from the fact that I'm not the kind of guy to give constant emotional reinforcement. I'm trying to get better about that.

DJB72 · Answer

I'm a 53 year old single dad to a 6 year old son who is trying to deal with my wife dying unexpectedly six months ago. Not totally sure I'm ready to try dating again...

Oiaus · Answer

Because female’s expectations for a guy are astronomical - unreal. I have so so much going I’m tall handsome, too profession, nice guy, rich family and still it’s not enough for women. I’ve tried dating apps and had a lot of likes but women ghost or do not reply to me.
Women are basically saying they don’t value me. So is there any point in trying?

WonderingManII · Answer

Because I don't have what it takes to be a relationship. When I was in school I got bullied like crazy. Next I was in a Church that fell apart. After that I end up in a lonely job working bad hours. Now I'm unemployed. All the people I've been around are not solid friends with me. I always had to wonder when they were going to flip on me, and start treating me like dirt.

sage2021 · Answer

Because my boyfriend who was living together with me died 18 months ago. RIP Patrick John 🧸💔

Altheavas · Answer

I don’t have time to feel anymore.
I am tired, and I am retired.
I don’t feel like I can handle anyone’s emotional (surely positive) baggages. I’ll take care of mine.
I have a vision to do better for myself, and I don’t see a man in it.

NoDecision · Answer

My business makes it hard for me to really date. I can put in 14 hour days more often than not. So who has time to date? 😞

schmukky · Answer

Whenever I am asked this, my standard response is “because I choose to be”. By default I am single — and that only changes when I know I am worthy, and when I’ve truly met a lovely human being that I want to be with and who doesn’t engage in asshole relationship tactics (i. e. manipulation, especially if emasculating in nature).

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not that social and I'm not that outgoing enough and I've never really had a large Social Circle of Friends it's always been a very small network of friends and it doesn't help that I have autism and I know me personally I've always resented the gender role that guys have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

Because I'm married and she's on her period.  ... So what are you doing tonight?

YourExLover69 · Answer

I'm single available looking, want active, genuine girl who can put equal efforts in relationship, open minded, clingy, talkative and willing to explore things and do some adventures with me together.

zoe2187 · Answer

Dating is draining. I like me time. I don’t have a need to divide my time between my kids and waste my emotions on a guy. I’m working towards making myself mentally healthy before I date again.

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 I am divorced, and after a few relationships, I have not remarried a have no immediate plans to get married again.

TDDMS · Answer

I've been invisible to women since my teen years. These days the only women who do show interest in me, they are all married. I tell them I don't mess w/ married women.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I always have bad luck that the girls I want, don't want me. Or vice versa. And I'm extremely picky and I want to built comfort and trust with the person first

alice55 · Answer

I never go out from my house except to go grocery shopping so it don't help to meet people.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have only been single for maybe 2 months in total since the age of 12, but I know when it happened, it sucked.

kaucky1 · Answer

I like girls, hermaphrodites, and vesties also if I got not problems down there other than they wanna neuter me, but others pretended to be me so that's not even right or good. Rest of existence might have to be in deep hibernation before I could even do anything

Sal_Monella · Answer

She passed away and I'm running out of time for a productive relationship. I don't want to give anyone sorrow.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I like the all ( super hot and handsome) or nothing approach. I imagine crying after sleeping with a subliminal guy.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Just trying to get my life together really..

zagor · Answer

Why not? I don't meet many women anymore and I gave up on the online thing a couple years ago.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because i haven't found the one yet and if i did than there's always a reason which makes it impossible for us to be with each other...

Jerre · Answer

Because I want to be single, enabling me to date and have sex with more women and not have to worry about cheating on someone.

QuestionObsession · Answer

A very peculiar reason - I am strictly interracial and there aren't any women of any other race around here.

Eempriyanka · Answer

I'm single because my crush hasn't gotten over his ex and i have the need to feel special in a relationship, I wanna be the centre of attention

DrPepper12 · Answer

Good question if I was. Ik I couldn't live with me!!

ravagesavage · Answer

Felt like taking a break for a bit. Finally have some time to myself

David_beckham · Answer

Not intended, but well, I do really want to study and get a great job so that I can stand on my own two legs.

Twalli · Answer

When I was it was a combination of my extreme social awkwardness, shyness, and not exactly looking that attractive.

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely shit luck when it comes to romance and i live in an area where women mainly go after certain stereotypes.

Anonymous · Answer

Dumped my girlfriend. Now only dating men exclusively.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know where to meet women, they don't seem to like being approached by men, and I refuse to use dating apps.

Yohenis · Answer

Single by choice relationship doesn't mean much in 2025 especially when people fool around.

msc545 · Answer

I am capable of learning from experience - and I did.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

I'm a introvert have mild autism anxiety find it hard to meet people

Darkest-Knight · Answer

Because I can't find a woman desperate enough to date me. ;p

Shanom12309 · Answer

I don't really like myself, so it's hard to believe anyone else would

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

A lot of reasons... social skills, being ugly, no money etc.

Anonymous · Answer

i dont see any rational reason. men feel like dead weight

smahala1991 · Answer

Probably because no one wants to date me

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Because I'm so ugly when I walk through the burn ward of a hospital the patients say dear God at least I'm not that guy.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Scared to get involved with dudes..

AnonAndrew · Answer

I'm not single.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause I refuse to settle for less than I'm worth

MikkiM · Answer

Im waiting for the right guy and right time

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I’m not.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I'm not. I've been married since 2019.

elizamichale1 · Answer

i m very happily married

eagle1951 · Answer

my wife died in 2018

Professor-college · Answer

Because most women don't like a man who can give her a baby or who used to be a stripper before his career started... They can't let certain things go

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