Can a guy be trusted when he says he's not like all the other guys out there?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't care about saying that because you could be a genuinely good person, but others might just hate you just because they do. Be yourself, don't prove to her you're not like other guys prove it with your actions. If she still thinks you're putting on an act, say, "ok think whatever you want" and move on. I think when guys don't get matches on apps or get approaches or find a girl who likes him he's tough on himself and thinks he's unworthy. Truth is, maybe the "picking" are a bunch of bad apples and he has to find the right one to be with. Just like girls and women complain all guys and men are bad or suck. I don't think women or girls get a free pass if she has bad behaviour or unrealistic expectations.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

It's easy to say things. Only time can tell if what they say is true. But generally, you can tell what kind of person someone is relatively soon after meeting them and get a feel for whether they're genuine or not.

A lot of guys will say what they need to, to get in your pants though.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

I don't trust them, no. I mean if you're a nice guy and different from others, you don't need to say it. How you behave, how you treat me will reveal whether you're nice and different or not. If you're saying that, it means you're trying to convince me. I don't like that.

Gwendoline · Accepted Answer

Whenever a guy says that its a red flag

DishLady · Answer

A lot of guys SAY a lot of things, but talk is cheap. Be patient enough to see if his actions match his words.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I never accept someone’s self assessment. They almost always hit high or low.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well nobody’s like everyone else but when people say that it’s a red flag for me

DangerouslyCute · Answer

lmfao most guys say it :D technically, every man is different... :D but...

alli-112 · Answer

lmao no, that's like the definition of a pick me. 90% chance of being fairly toxic.

And even if the dude doesn't mean it like that, the whole "I'm special and other people aren't" mentality is immature at best.

sage2021 · Answer

I used to believe that but until recently he turned out to be even worse than all the other guys!!
So I wouldn't ever believe a guy who says he's different than all the other guys because he might be worse!

BCRanger10 · Answer

If he asked my opinion and advice, I'd ask him what all these so-called "other guys" are like and what makes him sp certain that he's different from them. And more importantly,  if these differences are good.

new-person · Answer

I find in this age, it is better to be careful and not let your walls down to easily, with that let people earn your trust fully step by step. Not full trust after one little thing, no. Let them earn it little by little slowly, if it turns them off it probably means they did not like you for you and was out for some unethical reason. But if they stik around earning your trust it means they really do care and like you, and after a true positive relationship.

slatyb · Answer

A guy who says that is like all the other guys out there. A guy who really isn't like all the other guys won't tell you. He just will be himself and let you form your own conclusion. Guys who tell you they are really smart aren't. Guys who tell you they are nice aren't. Guys who are smart and nice just do it and let you decide.

Vneila21 · Answer

Well, that's a promise and promises are easily broken. I wouldn't be surprised if he disappointed me. After all, 90% of us share some genomes scientifically.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Probably. Sadly, way too many guys that have said that just to get some pussy fucked it up for all the rest of us that actually ARE not like all the rest!!

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Not something I would ever breathe just as I wouldn’t apply the phrase “nice guy” either. Over used buzz phrases. No, I just leave it for them to figure out. If they really want to know they will stick around and learn for themselves. If not, trying to plead or cajole them otherwise is a waste of time and breath. Don’t do it.

SotiCoto · Answer

Can he be? Yes.
SHOULD he be? Varies, obviously. Some guys are exceptionally good. Some guys are exceptionally bad. Some guys are exceptionally bad and pretend they're exceptionally good.
On the whole "not like all the other guys" doesn't mean much. One can be more than two standard distributions from the average in either direction on any number of factors.

lyrem04 · Answer

Nope cuz why do u have to announce if you’re not ur actions will speak for you…

wynning · Answer

Whenever anyone says that, it just makes them look like a tryhard.

avery58 · Answer

When a guy says that it usually means he's worse

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys say that.  Actions matter. Words rarely do.

exitseven · Answer

If it is me you can take it to the bank. There is only one Exitseven.

molonski2 · Answer

Of course not  But what a solid line to get into the pants of the unsuspecting.. Trust me , I'm not like the others , I have empathy.. Bang bang bang bang.

TheoreticallyGreat · Answer

Actions speak louder than words with everyone, guys or girls. "You shall know them by their fruits"

Shark_61695 · Answer

Of course...  We're all individuals (I'm not!) (For the Monty Python fans in the audience).

berrytired · Answer

Ahhaha. Usually that person isn't all that self aware. If it's like self praise and not just "I feel different because I've been treated different and I feel lonely because of it"

Babygirl_S · Answer

No! Most of them can fap to blood curdling stuff that can give any good woman goosebumps.

In_Trance · Answer

That's code for " he's exactly like the other guys out there"

Pohjolan · Answer

Probably if he didn't define  how  he is different.

bddddd · Answer

Trust is built through common values, kindness and unconditional positive regard, not by one-line self adulation. Value what they do instead, is my advice.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Trust is earned, kind of like when a woman says she is not the same as others. You have to prove it, and time will tell.

spartan55 · Answer

That's a terrible card to pull, for either gender. It's definitely not in my bag.

NoDecision · Answer

No, because he could be worse and only better in his own mind.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I don’t trust that guy based on his hat alone. Looks like his favorite band is Smashmouth

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Partly - perhaps he means that he's like all the other guys... IN! ... there?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

notadumblonde · Answer

Actions speaker louder than words

Twalli · Answer

Actual good people know they're not the only ones out there. So only people who are not good and are pretending to be good would make that claim.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's just a weird thing to say... lol

purplepoppy · Answer

Nope, we all fall in some box or other.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My female friends tell me that means, "I'm just like the other guys out there."

Wiredone · Answer

If the guy is honest like me, yes he can be trusted.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on a guy, not all the guys are "the same".

Anonymous · Answer

Does it matter if the woman is using her head?

SamWinchester058 · Answer

Trust what he does. Not what he says.

Anonymous · Answer

If a guy or woman says that and you believe it then i got a golden bridge to sell you out in California

thegreenyogi · Answer

50/50. Lol!

chrissykerdock · Answer

how do you know he doesn't mean that

serious · Answer

Yes of course.

loveyouoak · Answer

No!!

Dongie · Answer

I doubt it.

Chocolatetwopointtwo · Answer

nope

Nick1978 · Answer

Nope. No man can.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

No!..

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