Do women see their ex as he was, or as the man he became later?

[Anonymous]

That their ex years later may have become the man they really wanted them to be? Or do they view them always how they left the relationship.

Girls understand he may have likely changed and improved a lot

Girls always view them the same way they ended the relationship

Other

[jennifer_bloom]

I was not planning anything specific when I dated the guy I was previously with in 2018, I saw somebody that I thought could make me feel romantically interested, and I saw somebody who might be able to add a new dimension of purpose and importance to every day events in my life. My life had a lot of purpose before that relationship, but I thought a relationship could add a higher depth of purpose beyond whatI already felt. It was a failed relationship, but I do not regret it, because it helped me learn more about myself and about how to deal with other people in a romantic commitment.

[Chazmatazz269]

Women always see men in comparison to their ideal male. Their exes are typically viewed in terms of their failures compared to the perfect beau. Meanwhile their hopefuls are expected to meet every demand set by their predecessors and impossible expectations delivered by men of fantasy.

[Calyptomaniac]

Odds are, we won't know much of anything about what happens to him years later. Since we're not together anymore, it's not relevant. He was what he was when the relationship was going on and that's all we know.

[Asker]

What if he has built a name for himself

[Calyptomaniac]

Just hearing something about him doesn't make much difference. I wouldn't know him as he is now, just how he was when I knew him and it ended for a reason and I'm personally not one for getting back together with someone after it ended so I don't see any reason to think about it anymore.

[Asker]

It doesn’t have to mean you want to get back but recognise he’s a whole different person

[Anonymous]

It probably depends on whether he leveled up and got a better partner.

[DryGermanGuy]

Stop posting this.