Well your last three worries contradict.
You could try to kiss in private, not public, but the odds of things 'trying to go too far' are much higher in private.
Don't worry about doing it wrong. Guys don't care much how you kiss, just how enthusiastic you are.
If you pulled away from a kiss, I probably wouldn't ask you out a second time (were I single, etc).
I hate to tell you, but by second or third date they'd be trying more then kissing when you get over this hurdle.
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err maybe you can talk about it to them? like if someone tries to kiss you and you shy away then you should explain it afterward that it's too fast for you so they don't misunderstand. As for dancing if you still feel like dancing with him then you can go to the dance floor and start dancing around him.
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Girl, I'm in the same boat. Sort of. I just turned 30 and I'm finally dating a guy, and might possibly get my first boyfriend. I'm excited. He wants to kiss me but is really nervous, but I came out and told him that I don't have a lot of experience kissing. I mean, I've had a guy kiss me during sex, but it was sort of forced on me. I tried kissing him back but lost confidence after like three long seconds.
So, I told this guy I'm seeing that "I don't have a lot of experience kissing, but you can kiss me. If I don't kiss you back, don't assume I don't like it, since it's pretty much new to me. Eventually I'll warm up to kissing you back, so I hope you don't mind." And he took it really well and understood. :D Maybe be honest with him about that, that way he doesn't think you're rejecting him?
And I completely understand where you're coming from about showing affection in public. I'm the same way. I can hold hands, hug in public, but not kiss. It's embarassing for sure, and frankly, I don't think it's anyone's business or not. Besides, you know how judgy strangers can be, right? They might laugh, snap a photo or video and you might feel even worse about yourself. Hence why I avoid stuff like that, but it's always a good idea to be honest with your partner about this so he knows not to do that in public with you.
But, back to the kissing part. I'm not into french kisses. No sloppy dog kisses. A peck on the lips is fine, or a bit of lip lock is fine, but like I said, I'll let him kiss me so much that it just becomes natural to me and then surprise him when I kiss back. I've done it before to a past partner after I got used to it, but with someone new, I always get shy and nervous.Hey, don’t hate on yourself. Being shy is not a crime 🙂If you are interested in a guy, but you are worried you might give the wrong impression. How about just telling him: “Hey, just to let you know I tend to get super shy.” Noway he can misinterpret you then 🙂
I'm 25 and I didn't have my first kiss until about a month ago. My girlfriend was in the same boat as me, and she is 21. Granted, it took a lot for us to get over the initial shyness, but all it took was plenty of communication about the matter. Talk to the guy and explain. If he's worth your time, he will understand and take it at your pace.
if you have never kissed at your age, it is much worse if you are a guy
Drink some alcohol and ease into it that way when your sober it will be easier to do.
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