Bowling for a first date?

[Anonymous]

OK so I'm going on a date this Friday...we are going bowling and then out for food. So my question is, how do I make bowling fun/flirty? Liven it up so she has a good time so I get a second date and more ;)

[ThatMikaylaThing]

Ahh I love you! Bowling is the absolute perfect first date for me! ha ha just like put your hands on her hips while she's waiting for the ball to come back, be silly! To me, being silly is the most important thing to keep it fun and not awkward. If you get a strike or something, do a stupid little dance to make her laugh. This is what I always do when I go bowling to make it fun.. Game 1) regular bowling Game 2) Use your opposite hand Game 3) Do the granny roll (where you turn around and shoot the ball down the lane between your legs)

These are just fun little games I play to make it fun :) Good luck!

[uluvshrainey]

all great suggestions

[Asker]

For one of them should I get them to put up the bumpers so we can see how many times we can bounce it back and forth? ha ha I always did that with my sis when I was young :P But thanks for your ideas, they're perfect! Also, I have only known her for a week so is putting my hands on her hips moving too fast? it's a great idea but I don't want to come off too eager ha ha but if she let me put my hands on her hips I could prob hold hands and kiss at the end also so maybe it would be good to try!

[ThatMikaylaThing]

Yess! Do the bumpers! Me and my big bro did that until 1) we broke it one time lol and 2) They told us we were too old hahah

but definitely hold hands and kiss if she seems into it, if you put your hands on her hips and she kind of gets stiff then back off a little and just have fun from a little distance lol

[Asker]

hey I just wanted to let you know it went well (I think). It was obvious it was a date from the beginning. It last about 3 hours and ended with her offering a big hug and saying thanks. There were no awkward pauses at all. My only problem is that after it was over I texted her saying I had a ton of fun but she didn't respond :( I don't know what to do...if she doesn't respond do I just give up and move on or what? If she didn't like me why would it have lasted 3 hrs and why would she have offere

[ThatMikaylaThing]

Do you go to school with her or anything? Why don't you just wait till you see her and not mention the text but maybe ask if she'd like to get something to eat this time. If she kinda does the 'uhh I have plans', then that's when you should give up. But not yet! It sounds like it went well!

[Asker]

I don't see her at college ever. I just randomly started a convo with her one day. And we did go out to eat also :) My text had two parts...the first was something funny about my roommate(we talked about him on the date) and the second part was the "i had a ton of fun. She ended up responding, but only laughed at the first part. Wouldn't you think she should have said something about the second part also? That's why I'm confused :/

[Asker]

Oh and after she responded I waited a while and said "I bet you're already asleep but have a goodnight :)" and she didn't respond. I really do think she was asleep, but would you respond to that in the morning after you woke up? or would that be weird to respond then?

[ThatMikaylaThing]

When someone says that to me, I don't usually respond in the morning. Was this last night?

[Asker]

yea it was last night. But now thinking about it, I'm not sure if I really want a second date. She was really nice, but I can't see myself being with her for more than a hook up. I'll try to stay friends but as for more than that, I don't really think that would happen but I won't rule it out for sure

[Asker]

And another thing, if I just wait and don't try for a second date, I will be able to see how she reacts. I'm not desperate for the second date but if she tries contacting me for it, I might consider it because she would clearly like me and I'm not wasting my time. And if I don't contact her, she would be thinking that I'm not calling her because she wasn't responding to my texts well because from what I said t her she should be thinking I'm going for a second date

[ThatMikaylaThing]

Yeah that's a good idea. If you're not really like looking to go another date but will if she asks, then by all means just wait and see what happens. If she really wants to see you again she'll make it happen don't worry :)

[Catie101]

make the competition stronger. challenge her and say the loser has to (whatever you guys decide). be flirty about things. offer to pay for her meal. make silly comments about her bowing abilities, your bowling abilities or lack there of on either party (but keep in mind silly not mean). do shot backwards through your legs, do eyes closed shots, joke about how fantastic you are when you get a gutter ball :P

[ButterflyXkisses]

Make up a cheer for her! =P And if she sucks, help her, or tell her to granny roll. And every gutter ball she makes clap anyways lol. Try to be competitive, and if you win, pretend like you lost anyways aha.

[PoeticNinja]

If he wins, why does he have to pretend that he lost?

[ButterflyXkisses]

Well because you know how they tell you to let the girl win? Well that's just cheating, and no fun, but at least he can pretend to make her feel better. =)

[moaterboat]

This could totally backfire, so I don't take responsibility if it doesn't work. But I think it is hilarious when you sneak up behind someone when they are going up to bowl, and as they swing the ball back, grab onto it and take it from them. But it all depends on the person really.

Also make jokes about having a contest where the loser has to walk home, enter her name as something silly, just have fun and be pleasant.

[BCRanger10]

Playful banter and inside jokes. Offer to buy her food if she wants any. Celebrate bad shots (on your part).

[rachel05]

yep

[rachel05]

oh man it's easy with bowling all you gotta do is be silly about your shots.. try to play around with her on her shots.. make jokes.. tease her.. you really can't go wrong with bowling.. just be outgoing and crack jokes and play around w/her :)

[PoeticNinja]

If you have to think about how to make it fun/flirty while bowling then I suggest you find something else to do with your date.