Would it be wrong if I didn't text him back??

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So me and this guy have been talking for about 2 weeks. He tends to reply late, and usually doesn't have anything interesting to say... Last night he texted me "What you're doing?" I replied, and he didn't even write back to me... So this morning he texted me "Good morning" like he does every morning... I didn't reply because I feel like this isn't going to go anywhere, I like him... but he seems so plain. So, would it  be wrong to not reply to him?

Frostie · Accepted Answer

Its not wrong to not text someone back. It might be rude, but it isn't 'wrong'. Nothing is 'right' or 'wrong'. However, there are always considerations to be had. If you want that consideration to be given towards you,or the lack there of, then act as such.

From my experiences, I've lost a lot of interest in certain women merely because they don't talk, or don't even try to keep the conversation going. They give me a blank look and stare. I have to say, that is probably one of the biggest peeves I've come across. Sure I'm no lexicon on celebs or sports, but ffs there is always something to talk about,whether it is interesting or not, depends on each person. If someone were to talk to me about cars, and such, I could keep the conversation going but it wouldn't interest me at all,now that isn't a bad thing,I understand people are different, and I wouldn't stop talking to them because of that. If they have other characteristics that are great and over shine the indifferences, then there is nothing to avoid.

Idk if you realize this, but from the crowd of guys I know.. waking up to text someone 'good morning' is a bit of a chore. If a guy can give you a minute of his morning, that says something.

Although, some guys may enjoy texting, I don't do text conversations, unless its with someone in another state who I can't call. Other wise, its merely a tool to create an arrangement. I rather talk on the phone or in person.

As for him not texting back..well.. I fall asleep sometimes.. yeah its my fault that I NEED sleep.I wouldn't be so demanding of him merely because of that. If you want to talk, then meet up and do something interesting. Texting gets pretty boring,but that is my opinion.

If you don't feel anything is coming out of it, then that's your choice to make. Personally I don't trust my feelings to often. If I THINK or KNOW, it isn't heading anywhere, I'll avoid it.

You could feel something is going some where with a guy who is a complete loser. No job, no education,nothing that can sustain life. But he makes you 'feel' great, makes you laugh etc. But realistically speaking, he could be using you to get in your pants, or anything along those lines.

I prefer the bigger picture outside the momentary happiness,which doesn't really mean squat.

osarha · Accepted Answer

I think if he texts you every morning to say Good morning ; he is interested , but maybe he doesn't know what to talk about like he can't keep a conversation, try asking questions that he can answer back easily , like others said maybe he's not the texty type :D but after meeting him you will know if he's the calm and shy type ( poor comm. skills ) or not( just want to talk to anyone in the morning ) ; Good Luck ;-)

CrystalMinds · Accepted Answer

I think texting is a pain in the ass, lol, sorry. Have you seen this guy in person? Maybe he's shy, maybe he's not the textytype? Wait till you see him in person or maybe message him on Facebook or something? Try to text more stuff, like maybe a question or what has he been up to today, ... stuff he can work with too. Maybe you already do that, we don't know. But give him another chance yea :) Don't write him off immediately.

blufrenzy93 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't blame you if you didn't text back. Some people aren't interesting enough to text or are bad texters. However, it's only been two weeks. Give him a chance by going out on a date with him since the reason for getting someone's number is to make plans and what-not. So see how the date goes and make your final decision then.

Skittles_lover · Accepted Answer

I'd say give him one more chance. He might not be a texting type of person? Try calling him on the phone or meeting him in person, if he doesn't have much to say then, then you should let him go.

sfauo · Answer

Wrong? Not at all. He's taking it very casually and so can you.

It seems like..

a) he's not particularly good at text conversations, some guys don't like texting because it can get routine & boring while others just can't find what to say to make it fun & interesting,

or b) he's not that interested. He does sound like he is though since he sends you a 'good morning' text everyday. I know if I was interested in a girl, I wouldn't ask her what/how she's doing and then not bother replying. The whole point of asking is to start a convo. Life is busy though, he may have things occupying his time as well which would explain why he responds late or not at all.

Raiden · Answer

No its not wrong, it creates value for you (if he does it then you do it too, but chances are he ran out of phone credit) but he needs to try a bit harder, but don;t take the piss, reply at the same pace. But still you call the shots at this stage cos you've just been talking.

Nyways, you just sit there and look as pretty as a picture and equality says he has to do/have everything else lol. But still its your choice, you can get rid of him cos I don;t think a girl who looks like you has a problem getting another guy (guys can only see better they can think).

HeroOfVillains · Answer

Text him back and tease him that he is borring you and that he better entertain you or you will just ignore him. He will either try harder or just not try at all like a loser.

Levin · Answer

Might not necessarily be that he's plain, but that you don't have anything in common, or don't have a rapport (can't think of that bloody word).

No one need take it personally.

It's unhealthy to force anything. If it doesn't seem right, leave it be.

DanteSparda · Answer

i think he's not interested as you think he is because I think, if you like someone then you will like to keep the conversation somewhat long with them,you know.. or other possibility is that he's playing hard to get. either way I suggest you not to text him back,if he likes you then he'll cave in otherwise his loss... hope I helped :)

prettymuscle · Answer

He plain point blank.. he might just want sex.. move on

FlaggLives · Answer

Nope. He sounds like a plain jane, and if he can't come up with halfway original content for a conversation, then I would guess that you're in for a very boring time.

semifastrunner · Answer

It is hard for some guys to make conversation. Are you giving him detailed responses that he could reply with something related?

Raiden · Answer

You are going to give him what he wants? wow I wanna be a player too lol

gaggleii · Answer

Good question. Can I ask what he could do to make his messages more interesting?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you would be being a bitch. How about you just address the issue instead of being passive aggresive?

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