Questions: Dating

So I have kind of like a boyfriend.. it feels like he’s going to be my life partner..

he has blue eyes. He has a daughter, she also has blue eyes..

before I met them I’ve always worn contacts purple, green, grayish green (not blue)

my natural eyes are brown.

Now I feel rather stupid or absurd putting them on because they have natural colored eyes.. I never felt bad about putting them on because it was part of my getting ready routine and it did make me look a little extra more put together like part of my makeup. I don’t really wear any makeup and the contacts makes the entire look come together..

but I can’t help but feel so “wannabe”ish now …

I never saw it that way at all.. and now somehow I feel like I’ll be judged.. in a bad way..

I have a lot of hair for example, and very long, and when girls who wear long extensions ask me about my hair and I reveal it’s all my natural hair, I can feel it in their face expression and mannerisms they feel uncomfortable now that theirs is fake.. they don’t say it but I see it and feel it, and I can’t help and feel the way they look upon finding out they’re fakes in front of that they’re trying to copy..

so my question is.. if I’m with them , should I stop wearing them?

Any guys here with colored eyes? If you found a girl and became your girlfriend an thought about life and family with her, if you notice she’s wearing contacts not for seeing but just to change her color eyes, would that make you feel like she’s a fake wanna be type of impression?

as of now he’s never seen me with contacts at all. I always show myself natural because I feel that is weird.. but if we actually stay together it means I won’t be able to war my pretty contacts again? Without looking all fake? :/

what’s you advice on This?

Let’s start by saying my ex boyfriend came to Europe with me for my birthday after I told him i would go alone.. Our first day I got a bit jealous of two women he met through a group at a bar who are just friends and accused him of dating one of them and he said he’s not dating anyone. Then night time came and we got drunk, we spoke about one of his siblings dating (note: I am close to his cousin that’s how we met) since i was drunk I spilled the beans about this sibling and then he made a sly comment and then said he “dated” a “Russian “ girl who met his parents last year bc of his sister (she tried to get me to meet his parents after 3 dates ). I was blindsided since I never met his parents. I blew up and had a breakdown and left the hotel to go dancing and he text me while I was out alone he only went on a few dates with this girl and his sister tried to hype this person up. This is where it gets interesting (He’s never had a girlfriend and the one he counts as an ex he only saw 7 times and was long distance) Anyway, I come back to the hotel crying, of course, and he says to me, “Let me explain “ as he got up from the bed “I only said I went on dates with this girl since you kept using the word dating but i never dated her and she wasn’t Russian. I only saw her three times at the same bar my sister goes to and i deleted her number and don’t even remember her name. My sister was drunk and invited this girl to meet my parents when they were in town but i only had meetings with her at the bar & got drinks i never took her out to dinner or a proper date she was a random girl and i only saw her 3 times in the four weeks.“ I then i asked if she was introduced as a girlfriend or date and he said “my sister got excited and wanted to hype this girl up to my parents for me but didn’t go well bc they didn’t even like her. “ I haven’t spoken to her in months and it was last May”

For me, emotional intelligence isn’t optional… it’s something I need to even think about building something with someone.

Not perfection but the ability to understand emotions, communicate, and handle situations with some level of awareness.

So I’m curious…

would you still pursue something with someone who struggles in that area, or is that a dealbreaker for you?