My experience getting paid to talk to men

[Anonymous]

So, last week I decided to experiement in doing non-nude webcamming, not my more proud moment, but not the worst. I'm glad I did it actually. I met a lot of very interesting characters and didn't even get on camera (I know that doesn't qualify as "camming")

Here's the twist, these guys PAID to talk to me. I've heard of guys having online girlfriends, but not paying for them. So I decided to have a try at it. It was actually extremely easy. So for those of you that answered my previous question with doubt, I proved you wrong.

So, to be successful you have to meet people. These guy were eager to meet beautiful women, so finding guys to talk to wasn't hard. Finding paying customers was a different challenge. There are so many things for free online that guys can access. Pretty much anything they want. So why did these guys pay to talk to ME? Someone that was not going to get on cam, do anything erotic or watch them do something erotic.

Simple, because guys don't very often meet intelligent, sweet and beautiful women all in one package, which I was convinced I had all of those traits. So to begin with my journey, I schmoozed these men, which they gladly accepted. I learned that men want to hear nice things about themselves, just like women. So by making them feel secure with themselves talking to me, instead of however they felt talking to these other women, gave me a running start. Within days I had a group of regulars that would sign on just to talk to me.

Now the way I learned this is I read "Memiors of a Geisha" (yes you read that correctly I READ it, not watch the movie) and these BEAUTIFUL japanese women would be lavished with gifts and money to have tea with these wealthy men wanting to be entertained by their favorite geisha. So I figured that if I could accuire some of these skills that I read up on, I'd be okay. And it was true.

So that made me a triple threat kind of girl. Attractive (not for everone I get it, to each his own) Smart and nice. The guys were thrilled by this, and paid me generously for spending my time with them. Why would they spend their money on me instead of the girls selling their nudes?

This one is for the ladies to read, guys are NOT all about sex! For most men, intimacy is better than sex. So someone that they know and care about and are all around attracted to are sexier than any porn star or model. These men wanted intimacy and a connection that they were lacking in real life. I was so happy I could give that to them and they were actually mostly very sweet and polite men.

Sure, there were a few assholes (I can probably count on one hand) that only wanted to see nudes, which is fine, I just had to tell them no and that was that. I like to think I connected well wth these men and would love for women to know that thats all they really want. Guys want to be complimented, even flattered every once in a while, give them an ego boost! Don't agree with everything they say, because you have your own opinions and personality (and they like the challenge) Also, make yourself approachable and fun to talk to, it really makes them come out of their shell and you find out how interesting and delightful they are.

Also, when they want to spoil you, LET THEM. I've made this mistake hundreds of times, not knowing that they actually WANTED to spoil me, I thought they felt obligated. Let them be a man!

[Roostah]

I wonder if you the idea from reading my take

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1713180-what-do-you-think-about-these-guys-giving-cam-girls-ridiculous

A lot of guys these days have given up on real relationship and now are content with fake relationship with camgirls who fake being nice to them for money.

[Roostah]

When your dealing with

https://youtu.be/DmP1ier3R30

All the time. Eventually you say Fuck it. I'll just pay someone to be nice to me.

[Roostah]

@Coffinspire Look up a movie called Surfer Girl. it was about a Brazilian woman who got into prostitution ring and then wrote a best selling novel about her life. At one point in the film she said a lot of men came to prostitutes to vent about the frustrations of their life or be complimented on. She even boosted her clients egos by creating a blog and scoring them out of 5, while writing nice reviews about their sexual performance.

[Roostah]

*Little Surfer Girl

[atheistaredumb]

this is reality women are trash

they are only good for one thing
and it's their own fault

[imnotcrearive]

Jesus christ... You're so full of yourself it's disgusting.

Tl:Dr: I'm the shit, I'm the perfect package. I found a bunch of really lonely guys online to pay me to give them fake compliments. Also in case you didn't catch it the first time, I'm the shit.

[myTake Owner]

Def didn't say that, but they paid me based on my picture and what I said. Even if it was fake it boosts their confidence. Hate me if you want, but it changes nothing. I feel better about what I did cd what the other girls did.

[imnotcrearive]

All right miss "full package". Keep up the great work!

[myTake Owner]

This is coming from someone with a shirtless pic as their profile pic lol it's not my fault that I don't view myself as some pos. There is nothing wrong with that if ur mad about something don't take it out on me. I had to make myself easy to talk to and I did my job

[imnotcrearive]

LOL you wanna talk profile pics? Full make-up, camera tilt, posing, black and white filter meanwhile there's a big ass mess on the couch behind you. At least my body is something I had to work for and isn't skewed in any way. So if you're reaching for calling me superficial, reach a different way. And yes... you did your job. You found an easy way to get money and went for it. I didn't bash on you for that. But don't act like you're some kind of saint for taking people's money to "boost their confidence" with fake compliments.

[myTake Owner]

I almost believed what u said until u said couch lol u dont think I work for my shit? These guys wanted female attention and I needed money. Nothing wrong there.

[Vasiliy]

You said were you smart and nice.
I can find a lot of people who'll say you aren't smart, because it's opinionated as fuck.
I would never say I'm smart, but I'm more thoughtful than most people I know, because they just don't think about stuff, that's a real thing you can say, but saying you're intelligent isn't something you can really prove or substantiate.

[myTake Owner]

@Vasiliy Why is it okay that I'm okay with myself? Can someone please tell me this? Yes I am smart, I know a little about a lot. I don't have to prove it to you or anyone else, because quite frankly, you'll never know, or want to know.

[imnotcrearive]

Nobody has a problem with you being smart or wants you to prove it. Nor do they have a problem with you being okay with yourself. A lot of us are. But we don't go off announcing it publicly every chance we get. It's cocky and if screams insecurity.

[myTake Owner]

I don't do that every chance I get, I was explaining what kind of girl I portrayed myself to be on the site.

[Hentaimami]

She isn't full of herself she's confident and independent you're just threatened by empowered women and that's pathetic

[Hentaimami]

I don't know how old this post is but seriously that guy was pathetic you're smart and beautiful there's nothing wrong with saying it don't ever let some loser with a shirtless mirror pic bring you down

[cykasenpai]

How do you know she isn't smart, attractive and nice? I'd say the post is well-written, she has an empathetic outlook on these men (nice) and the fact men wanted to pay to speak to her indicates she probably IS attractive. So the limited circumstantial evidence we have points to what she's saying being true. What's up with the cancer attitude?

[VampireEmpress]

I disagree with everyone. I don't think you're using the men at all... they're paying you for a service and you're giving it. how could you be using them, if they're giving you money?

[takumii]

Sounds like a defence to prostitution..

Selling is legal, fucking is legal, why is selling fucking illegal?

[VampireEmpress]

@takumii people just pretend it's illegal... but I don't think that definition applies to OP.

[myTake Owner]

Well I'm in no way a prostitute...

[VampireEmpress]

nope you aren't one at all. the guys are just jealous lol

[springocelot]

a few years ago i was told that men want sex but need attraction as the latter is so rare and fleeting. guess she was right.

[myTake Owner]

They def want the interaction that comes with it. I was shocked really I didn't think any of them would want to talk. I wish more women knew that

[springocelot]

me too. i learned from personal experience how true the statement was.
i guess what you did is no different from hostessing clubs in japan where men pay a lot just to talk to some women

[myTake Owner]

I guess ur the only one that understood lol

[Scrambledagain]

Damn you girls can be stupid. Talk about coming to the wrong conclusion. Those men also want sex, just as much as men who want sex want to talk. If I want to fuck a girl, I would like to know her and have fun with her. I don't not want to talk or anything. May as well get a prozzie. The reason why those men paid to talk was because they are your "nice guys". They assumed that by being nice (not asking for naked shit, or even letting on that they were on other websites) that you would like them. That's how nice guys think. That's why nice guys don't get laid, they don't go for it.

That said, girl you are friggin gorgeous, and all that crap you studied and read about, well you didn't need to do it. It's very simple: be hot and whisper sweet nothings into a guys ear. It's too easy. I feel sorry for these guys though. Hence my take 😊
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a23515-10-brilliant-reasons-why-men-should-not-be-ashamed-to-use-prostitutes

[Anonymous]

I think you missed a lot of nuance about the male perspective in this and it's sprinkled with a little arrogance. But I think you at least got a basic message across that men actually appreciate intimacy and feeling valued. There are plenty of men who go to prostitutes primarily to find that intimacy, there's also quite a few that will say they don't want the sex and just want to spend time with girl.

They aren't coming to you because you're this amazing rare woman. *They* can't find that intimacy among other women. You can be reasonably attractive and capable of having a nice conversation but it's a need within them that over-inflates your value. Your willingness to talk to them and be positive f̶o̶r̶ ̶a̶ ̶r̶e̶a̶s̶o̶n̶a̶b̶l̶e̶ ̶f̶e̶e is what makes the experience rare and thus valuable, which is utterly fkn depressing when you think about it. Contrary to what you might think, like most guys they can't just simply go out and find a girlfriend, that's why they are starved for affection. If they could get it without paying for it they would.

I relate this to sex work, which is fine. If guys want to spend their money like that then whatever. Although I don't have a big problem with sex work in principle, I do think that you're dealing with a certain type of guy that can spend money in that way without having the experience ruined. I personally would be too aware of the lack of genuine interest that comes with having to pay for it to enjoy myself. Point being that the whole 'let them spoil you' thing should be taken with a grain of salt - if not discarded. Furthermore, it allows for your previous question and your 'camming' experience to not contradict each other.

Again, I'm not against sex work in principle but that there's a need for it, a market for it... that sucks; it's a tragedy. I'd like to see all those nice guys out there getting the emotional and sexual satisfaction they crave without having to pay for anything or jump through hoops.

[myTake Owner]

I agree with what you're saying, it's just hard to describe their joy talking to me (NOT JUST ME I"M NOT THE ONLY ONE ON THERE!) I just found it rather interesting.

[mistixs]

"On there"... on where? I'm curious about how to do it

[FakeName123]

"I learned that men want to hear nice things about themselves"

"Guys want to be complimented, even flattered every once in a while, give them an ego boost!"

Did you really have to learn that? What did you think before? That guys love it when you treat them like shit?

Honestly - I am shocked how low opinions some women have about men. What kind of men did you grow up with? Or are you still stuck at the image of horny teenagers around you that you can't differentiate that it is a part of puberty?
Believe it or not - most men are decent guys who want decent things, who want to love and be loved, to be nice and treated nicely.

Disclaimer to all women out there who are shocked at the revelations of this mytake: Maybe for once talk to guys openly about what they want, like, etc. - and not talking to DoucheyMcJock, but to a normal guy. Put the same effort into trying to understand men that you want to have put into being understood.

[Roostah]

DoucheyMcJock checking in.

cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...a-ac87-b429f719977e.jpg

[myTake Owner]

I don't know why you're getting offended. First of all, I had no male role models in my life, so everything I learn about men is shocking to me fyi. Also, I didn't think men wanted/needed compliments in the same way that women do. I do put a lot of effort in trying to understand men, hence a mytake about MEN.

[myTake Owner]

@Roostah Also, you can't tell if someone is a douche by the way they look. That's reading a book by it's cover.

[Roostah]

@myTake Owner I was playing along with his description. Why so serious?

[myTake Owner]

@Roostah Because he pissed me off a little bit lol

[Unit1]

I would almost second that... But it doesn't necessarily mean that just because you didn't know anything about the opposite sex and had to resort to such revelations that you have interacted only with DoucheyMcAlpa or miss crazy Bitch. In my case i haven't interacted with women much. It's almost like I've been to a male planet only.

[RolandCuthbert]

Wow, that sounds absolutely,

horrible.

But you are really hurting the feelings of a lot of guys here on GaG. Unfortunately, I know a lot of guys who are in that same boat of being okay with paying for attention. It is one of the reasons why I came here. I just talked to a guy last week on linkedin.

He uses the exact same kind of site. The dude is in his 50s! And his "girlfund" is about 31 or so. And I tried to get the guy to meet some honest women. A lot women, I know are in their 40s. Some are younger. I was trying to help him out and he absolutely refused. He would rather have his fantasy. I really do believe he thinks they will be together someday.

Its just crazy!!!

I can't think about it for too long. It makes my head hurt.

[Spawnface]

I'm kinda divided here. I want to say STOP! PLEASE STOP! because your meddling with the fine mechanisms in place to weed out the undesirables from the gene pool... Then again you aren't. By enlightening moronic women that would hold such a retarded belief that men only care about sex your are making the disyinction between the undesirables and desirables less distinct. Then again by servicing these louts who are in need of special attention like that you are also aiding in their self destruction. Sooo... I don't know, it would be nice if girls were better, but thats a pipe dream. Better keep the junkies in the rut.

[DariusAlexa]

So what was the point of this? There was this giant tone shift near the end whenever you said that you were talking to women and it confused me. At first you kept going on like you just created some master plan by setting yourself up to appear a certain way but then you talk about having fun connecting with people.

It seemed like making people pay you by being intelligent and manipulating them through social tactics was what got you off but then you go on about how connecting with these guys was the fun part. I thought that you didn't actually care about the men, you just wanted to see if you could get them to pay you, but you said you were happy giving them intimacy. You also talk about getting paid a lot but it seems like a side benefit, not really the end goal.

So was it manipulating people by doing something that sounds difficult, connecting with these mostly very sweet and polite men, or money? And what was the point of the Carl Jung quote?

[Watermelonoma]

Interesting. There is a lot of social isolation these days, and so despite there being an abundance of free material out there for guys to satisfy their needs, there are still guys out there willing to pay a premium to have girls talk and respond to them. That market will probably always exist, but its not for everyone. A person doing this will have to be someone that a guy would want to be qualified by... which will largely come down to how objectively attractive you are, and then your communicative abilities second. But yeah, i'm glad its working out for ya so far Coffinspire :)

[myTake Owner]

I actually stopped I just thought I would tell of my experience

[Watermelonoma]

what made you stop?

[myTake Owner]

The hubby was getting jealous. It was fun though I'm glad I did it

[Watermelonoma]

ah gotcha, hah

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Of course males are not all about sex, we are human, but compared to women males tend to need sex as a bodily function while for women it is more of a mental thing. This is kind of crazy though that you bring this up... i just watched this documentary not 25 minutes ago...
cdn.ebaumsworld.com/.../84827018.jpg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU

[myTake Owner]

I've seen that documentary before I loved it. It really give us an insight about how men feel, because most men keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves (as they're taught men should do)

[Vasiliy]

I think 90% of it is that she totally didn't look like a man at all either.

[bamesjond0069]

Another girl with a big ass head. So loser men like you and that makes you what? Awesome for losers? Confident men who have their shit together wouldn't touch a girl who does shit like this, well except maybe for an hour with their cock.

There are two types of girls, wifeys and hos. You are a ho. And tbh once you get into ho behavior you will never make a good relationship girl. The more you do it the harder it is to break it. Oh well once you get old and nobody finds you sexually attractive anymore then you will wake up, they all wake up once its too late.

[UncleRayRay]

This is very common in Japan. They have bars called hostess bars where you go there and have a girl basically attend you kind of as your "date".

They basically pamper you... pour your drinks, sing karaoke with you and just keep conversation and try to keep you entertained. It's really quite nice because there is no pretense or pressure to get the other person to like you.

[QooLipBite]

If I paid a girl to talk to me and have a deep connection with... I'd feel pretty pathetic 😂

I mean, well that's just according to me standards and principles.

I just don't think the intimacy would be natural from it's roots. It would just be professionally forced but well sugar coated into something real (if you paid).

Unlike if you had a close friend or a girlfriend where it could be sincere. I wouldn't go too deep into artificial stuff 😅😒

[M_A_X]

I don't think I can agree with someone doing a job that anyone could do like that. I don't like camming as it comes off dangerously close to prostitution or escorts.

You're right about the fact that most men are also people and just want to feel intimacy. I wouldn't agree with you continuing beyond the point of this experiment, but it's your life.

[Dandeus]

"Also, when they want to spoil you, LET THEM. I've made this mistake hundreds of times, not knowing that they actually WANTED to spoil me, I thought they felt obligated."

If a guy is genuinely into you, the look of surprise and delight on a girl's face when you surprise her with something unexpected is highly intoxicating.

[myTake Owner]

I honestly never knew lol I never got spoiled so it was a surprise to me

[nikiwho88]

What website did you use to talk to the guys?

[smg99]

Well smart intelligent women don’t ask questions where her secrets are out? Is that smart or stupid? Lol 😂 that’s your arsenal you could have used subtle inferences, to describe your activities but you bared your soul out no less than actually paying for nudes now right?

[Kingfrosty]

That horrible , Like the best out of a bad sitution i guess. I really feel bad for that they are willing 2 pay someone 2 talk 2. Really dont know what 2 say like i understand nude all that stuff they want 2 get off and thats just being horny i know the feeling but i can handle it... But 2 pay someone 2 talk, Like what ever floats there boat

[LovesTVDx]

You're exploiting vulnerable, lonely men. Do you want a medal?

[myTake Owner]

Exploiting how? That's literally what the site was for. I would never exploit them they were extremely polite and sweet like I said in mytake

[LovesTVDx]

If you really wanted to help them and talk to them you'd do it for free. You've saw a gap in the market and been savvy about it. You're exploiting a group of men for personal gain. I'm not saying you're a bad person but don't try and glorify what you're doing because it's certainly not honorable.

[myTake Owner]

Well I didn't exploit them we traded money for attention if they wanted a girlfriend for real they would get one. Some of them worked too much or couldn't even talk to these women. They pay for it because thats what they wanted

[LovesTVDx]

Yeah I get that and that's fair enough, I'm not knocking you for doing it. It's just you're talking like you're doing some good deed lol, you aren't a nurse or a firefighter. You phone men and get paid for it.

[ChocEyes]

I have to disagree on that. I don't see it as "exploiting". Unless, of course, you're willing to accept Dunkin Donuts/Mcdonalds/etc etc are exploting people when they are hungry, or Disney World is exploiting kids and families when they are depressed or craving for amusement. I mean, all of them could offer that for free too, right?

But I don't see people calling them exploiters, although they do exploit their own workers, unlike the MyTaker here, who does her own job, but I digress...

These guys were not lead to believe she was doing it just because she was interested in them. After ll they went to the website already knowing its intent. I think the point here is: how come all the rules change when it comes to intimacy, sex or even love? For example, how come marriage can't be seen as just another contract? How come prostitution can't be seen as another service? How come webcamming cannot be seen as an online service? Why all that aura aroud these things?

[Mekkalyn]

Definition of exploit: make full use of and derive benefit from (a resource).
In a sentence: "500 companies sprang up to exploit this new technology"
Synonyms: utilize, harness, use, make use of, turn/put to good use, make the most of, capitalize on, benefit from; informal cash in on

I would have to say that there is a bit of exploiting going on.

[mistixs]

"If you really wanted to help them you'd do it for free... you aren't a nurse"

By your logic, if nurses really wanted to help save lives, they'd do it for free

[Naughty-_rascal]

I disagree with all of you. Not all these men are only vulnerable guys, who can't get a women, some of these are probably married, have girlfriends. Some of them are looking for excitement, looking for a different just to talk with, maybe their partners are giving them attention. No one is taking advantage of anyone, or exploiting anyone, these men chose to pay for her attention, they are adults and everyone knows what they are doing.

[Naughty-_rascal]

Sorry maybe their partners are not giving them attention or sex. Maybe some men just like too pay for women's attention without the bullshit that comes with relationships. no offence to women. Maybe some people just don't want a relationship, that doesn't make them sad, or vulnerable lonely men. Quit judging people, because they doing something that you expect of how they should live their lives.

[Naughty-_rascal]

Also maybe these men feel comfortable around these girls, (paying) cause these girls allow these men to be themselves, were as the average girl on the street is always quick to judge someone.
Some of these men just want to let go of themselves go in front of these women, without being judged. Its very hard to be yourself in today's society, without being judge, and some people are scarred to do it.

[Anonymous]

I done it a few months back back and got my driving lessons and car paid for, I didn't see the problem, I was a student and the men really wanted to help once I told them why I was on it, I still text one off the men, he helped me a lot so we built a really good day friendship, i never went on cam, never sent pics and didn't even put photos up, and to this day the guy doesn't know what I look like? He'd lost his wife and just wanted to have a friend, I've no way got a good job And paying him back, Because I saw it as a loan, although he didn't and didn't want the money back? What website did to you use?

[mistixs]

What website did you use?

[Anonymous]

Yeah there are plenty of lonely men (and women) out there. Guys are more likely to spend money to try to address that though. Not sure why that is really.

Anyway, interesting take. I guess it's a step below phone sex, and couple below full on prostitution.

[myTake Owner]

Shit happens. I've seen worse.

[esotericstory]

You can think I am an asshole or not for having this opinion or not, but I find this mentality of 'giving guys compliments and making them feel secure as long as they give me what I want (usually money of gifts)' disgusting because it goes the opposite way around as well. Women coercing you and trying to break down your confidence because they can't get out of you want they want to get out of you.

[Anpu23]

Thank you for the insight. I'm glad you had a, mostly, positive experience.

[the_rake]

basically, you hawk eyed a bunch of lonely moneybags... I mean, men, and saw a nifty ole niche in the market to cash in for a month or two's rent. end result? profit.