GAGers! how to convince my parents to let me work night shift?

[zombiebabe]

so i am a student and i would really want to look for a night shift job because i have classes everyday... but the problem is... my parents don't seem to agree with me...>:( .. any suggestions to convince them?

[oldanddecrepid]

Ummm... as far as I know a 21 year old so that means you are the ultimate decision maker?

Regardless, I know some parents would say, while you are going to school and living under our roof (not sure if this is the case)... Anyway, I would present it to them as a trial-case, as long as you can maintain your grades, you should be allowed to try it?

I would also present it as being... it is not like your going out at night to mess around, you are trying to be an adult and help pay for things, so it is a mature decision!

[zombiebabe]

i know its a good decision but they're kinda overprotective

[Zorax]

Well, you would have higher salary in night shifts, you should tell them that fact, maybe they will change their mind ;)

[zombiebabe]

i know right

[Zorax]

Thanks for the MHO :D

[zombiebabe]

welcomed

[LittleSally]

I say show them with your actions how responsible and capable you are. Make sure you tell them how important that would be for you - then they will surely understand. But when you're telling them your reasons, make sure you're calm, relaxed and factual - not easily angered or impulsive if you see doubt in their eyes from the start. Stay positive.
Also resonate their reasoning for not letting you do it - so they know you understand them as well... that you're not only looking out for yourself. ;)

[zombiebabe]

oh.. ;)

[LittleSally]

Thank you! =)

[zombiebabe]

welcomed

[electromagnetic]

Oh man. Unless your parents have 100% faith and trust in you, it may not be easy. Especially considering you're a student. They'll say you won't have time for assignments, might actually not be at work... those things.

But let them know that unless they'll willing to help you financially all the time, that you're going to need a job. & since you're in school in the day time, the only other option is night. Ask them to let you try it and see how it works out after a week.

[zombiebabe]

hmm yea

[XRabbitHeartX]

You are 21. You are old enough to make your own decisions. Explain to them you also want independence and that it will benefit them and not just you. Plus for some people the busier they are, the more time they actually have. I'm like that. The more I have to do, the better I thrive. I'm at my laziest when I have nothing to do and have too much time to my use. I'm more productive busy.

[zombiebabe]

i hear you!.. but they don't agree tho

[XRabbitHeartX]

But you don't really need their OK though considering you are a adult.

[zombiebabe]

i know what you mean :/

[luvstoned4him]

You can talk about how good the job experience would be for you

And the pay... if its really good

If you know any girls/guys around your age who works there as well, point that out.

Ask your parents to come pick you up when your shift is over, that way they would know that you would be safe

[zombiebabe]

i've been working before but since i became a student.. am not working.. they're stubborn af when i try to talk to them about it

[luvstoned4him]

I know but just me, they are just being cautious and over protective. Good Parents tend to not want their daughter out late at night

[zombiebabe]

i know :'(

[luvstoned4him]

I remembered I was gonna get a job that paid $1,400 and it ran till Midnight and then I had to be back on the job at 6.00am. My parents didn't approve

[zombiebabe]

how long did you worked? and also were you finally able to convince them to let you do it? if so... HOW you convinced them? (sorry that's a lot of question i know :/ )

[luvstoned4him]

Ok, well I convinced them at first to let me give it a try. There was a van that always picked me up and then dropped me home around 1. am or so. I worked for a few days then I realised that it was too much for me at that age. I mean the pay for really good but the hours were killers. So I send in a letter of resignation. I think I made the right decision. Can you picture having to walk out of your home @4. am and travel to the main road just catch a ride and get to work at 6. am?

[zombiebabe]

i guess... o. o''

[luvstoned4him]

loool seeing is believing and that said I will settle for a good old 8-5 job unless I absolutely must work in the night. Transportation is a killer. :(

[zombiebabe]

oh man :(

[poopedmypantsagain]

Well I can in a way see their point of view and maybe you can as well.. they are looking out for you as most parents do for their children.. lots of women have been.. taken, mugged. attacked, and even worse working night shift jobs.. but if there are going to be some people near by you trust you may get them to side your way, good luck to and I hope all works out for you

[zombiebabe]

yea i understand that point of view its the reason why they're against it -_-'

[ak666]

Maybe present it from the angle of wanting practical experience, earning an income, that will help establish your independence and get more out of your education, being able to weigh its utility in the context of a practical and not-so-ideal working environment, giving you motivation to work harder.

[ak666]

... work harder in school (study harder), that is.

[zombiebabe]

they don't agree tho

[ak666]

It's tough -- I think this is one of the most convincing arguments though, because it's hard to appreciate your education until you've worked in the field a bit, and see the value in studying harder to improve your income, lifestyle, etc. So I think any argument that ties this desire to getting more out of your studies tends to be a strong argument, though maybe even the strongest arguments might fail for the toughest critics.

[zombiebabe]

:( :( :(

[ak666]

This is like a normal night shift job, right, not like exotic dancing in a nude bar? What kind of reasons do your parents give for disapproving?

[zombiebabe]

a normal one of course like waitress or something like that... my parents are kinda overprotective

[ak666]

That's not so bad -- tough crowd though! I suppose that suggestion is the best I can come up with, but a persuasive argument can't win them all.

[zombiebabe]

hmm yea..

[AzureGirl]

Maybe you could figure out what they don't like about it and go from there? So that way you can pinpoint the things you can make (or at least make seem) better so they will be more inclined to letting you work there at night.

[zombiebabe]

hmmm hard to do

[Cmasterson]

Honestly just tell them to give you money that you'd be making in the night shift or let you work lol.

[zombiebabe]

lol! tried but failed

[akadatank44]

Have a plan. Dont just say that you want to. Explain why and how you'll sleep and do your homework

[zombiebabe]

hmm yea

[TheAngryBanana]

well you are 21 right? your an adult you need to make your own life choices

[zombiebabe]

i kno banana but my family is kinda conservative

[ronRon23]

show your responsile and that you can handle school and a job

[zombiebabe]

they already know am responsible but its the only seem they don't seem to accept tho

[HandsomeRaj]

And when do you plan to sleep?

[zombiebabe]

when ill be home

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for the like young zombie :) :)

How do you plan to divide that time you are home between your study and sleep?

[zombiebabe]

ill find a way

[HandsomeRaj]

This is not somewhere and something where you make it up as you go young lady :) This is where and what will show what type of an employee, manager etc will you be in the future. NOW tell me how do you plan to divide that time at home between your study, sleep & social activities :)

[Georgia_Georgiou]

I don't know just dont show them this pic

[zombiebabe]

why not?

[nohomobrah]

You're 21 lol do what you want.

[zombiebabe]

well its not as easy as it seems

[Dandeus]

You're 21. It's not up to them.

[zombiebabe]

i know but i still live with my fam

[Dandeus]

And they're free to voice their disapproval, but they can't legally stop you from getting a job.

[zombiebabe]

yea...