This is complex and it depends on the person. I was viciously bullied in grade school and somewhat in middle school and less so in HS. I got into sports particularly wrestling to toughen myself up. I actually was an exceptional athlete and I later competed in MMA. I help train people today.
On one end I probably would never gotten involved with combat sports if it’s wasn’t for the bullying. I was happy being a video game nerd as a kid. I could of cared less about physical exertion and I was chubby. Maybe when I hit puberty that would of changed.
However this left me with some deep mental scars and I would be lying if I didn’t say it fucked me up socially and in relationships. In the 5th grade I was the second youngest in the class, I had undiagnosed ADHD, very controlling/domineering parents and I was physically very weak. I couldn’t even do a pull up. I didn’t have problems with just 1-2 kids at least half the fucking class was against me. I got into to fights that year. One I won and the other i lost.
Anyway grade school was so horrible for me I literally voided it out of my mind. Only recently I have been secretly getting therapy on dealing with some things that happened. I suffered abuse both at school and at home.
From my observations there are 3 types of bullied: insecure bullies, sociopathic bullied and last but not least psychopaths.
Insecure bullies are the most common. They usually have someone else giving them shit (older sibling, parent, another “higher up” bully, past bullying, etc). They bully out of insecurity.
These types are usually easy to spot. They are “clumsy” about their bullying and often unpredictable. They can act conflicted. I myself was guilty of doing this on a few rare occasions (not proud of it at all). But they usually grow up and few remorse. They need help themselves and I can forgive them.
The there are sociopathic bullies. These types are usually sneaky snd very clever. They see life as chess board and every action they take is for their own benefit. They often can be charming and are usually funny. They can even seem like a “friend” at times. They can deceive many. However they don’t make friends or out of selfless empathy. They also bully when (most often verbally) when they know it will improve their social standing. However if they realize that might do the opposite they will go back to being a fake friendly again. They are chameleon like.
Sociopathic bullies are often very popular and even liked by school administrators/adults who see them on the surface. Sociopathic boys are often players with girls (especially if they are attractive). Sociopathic girls are often “queen bees”.
However everything they do in their entire life revolves around them. Telltale signs is watching out for how good they are at gaslighting or playing victim at the right time. Their apologies are never genuine. They are good actors.
Then there are psychopaths. This is genetic condition that can influenced by upbringing. They are by far the worst kind of bullies and they are usually violent. They enjoy the very act of seeing someone else in pain (emotionally or physically). They feel no remorse or empathy. Harming others usually calms them down.
Psychopathic bullies are to be avoided at all costs. Although they are violent they can be more clever than the insecure bully on when to attack. However they usually get in serious trouble with school (suspensión or expulsión). They are also much more likely to get in trouble with the law (often repeat offenders.). However if they were raised with a very good upbringing they can excel in certain occupations (soldiers, surgeons, CEOs, politicians lol).
The actual violence no, but for the boys who will one day face much worse, a school yard bulleye has it's purpose. Gone are the days when kids learn how to safely settle scores on the school playground.
Now that bulleyes have been curtailed, we have almost two gentations of sissiefied men, who never learned how to really stand up for themselves. Now when they face these kinds of situations all throughout life they don't understand how to deal, and they compensate by grabbing a weapon and seriously hurting and or killing people that they feel hurt them.
That's why people back in the 1950's and before could buy a gun at a hardware store like a tool, and now after years of dumb views to protect kids from everything, we now expect laws to save us from everyone else.
A kid who can learn how to fight for themselves as a kid will be a stronger and more capable adult. Once we let those opportunities be banned, we instead let all the other bulleyes they will come across either control them or cause violence to a level we keep seeing get worse and worse before they young people start building ordances that can kill hundreds to thousands to exact revenge.
I started to get bullied in middle school and it was the worst. I ignore the bully whenever they were trying to bullying me. One of my childhood friends got involve with my bully and started to bully me too. Then a bunch of girls I was close friends with since childhood. I eventually told my parents about it because I just couldn't take it anymore. They ended up telling their parents and some parents don't accept their child being a bully. I also got bullied from an ex best friend. She spread rumors about me being a slut and I get around which was not true. I was a virgin throughout high school and just a lot of guys liked me which of course made girls jealous. Then later in life the bullies started to be nice to me and I just let it go and forget them.
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Have you ever hear a song about a guy named Sue?
A boy named Sue, by Johnny Cash, the story of a waisted life in persuit of answers to questions that had no rational explanation. Some people are trash, and misery enjoys company, so human trash bullies unsuspecting victims in an effort to recruit them to the human trash department. Bullies don't perform a public service by doing what they do, and no one of them their gratitude for shoving their head down the toilet. I know none of my bullies would have to go to come up to me now and point out how much better my life is because they toughened me up because they didn't toughen me up. I was born with an inability to be intimidated or coerced into doing things that were demeaning to me, not because of any sense of pride or self-worth, or because I had high self-esteem. Something in me just refused to allow myself to become someone's b****.
I probably lost as many fights as I won, but there's not a single fight I've ever been in my life where I didn't give almost as good as I got, and no matter how bad I got broken up sometimes the guys that did it to me did his share of time in the hospital as well for his efforts. If he got in my face after that and tried to push me around, I'd ask him what part of his anatomy I should break first, because he knew from past experiences, that this wasn't going to be a one sided fight.
Bullies don't like messing with kids who hit back.
Do bullies serve a purpose? If used as examples in a cautionary tale of what happens to a kid when society gives up on him, sure. That is the purpose they can serve, if people care enough to learn from that unfortunate example of a cautionary tale.
Unfortunately, people don't give a💩.
Being bullied is both a curse and a blessing, I believe that being bullied is important as it makes you realise your instinctive response which to flee or fight, this process moves on since I was bullied as a child I got my revenge now. School shootings aren't caused by bullying but by societal oppression, ideals are forced into innocent minds that they do not want to relate with. Being bullied and being a bully is necessary to desensitize yourself to fighting back and if you aren't able to do then it's better to take revenge, whether it may even be a school shooting or just a battle of words. Seeing even the political atmosphere you see that the right wing is extremely bullied and they are ones that get true oppression and extremely biased judgements. While the left, bullies via their sheer numbers the right wing has lone heroes like Kyle Rittenhouse who alone have no comparison to a 10,000 rioters. Bullying shows that real society is still prevalent and some people resist oppression whether it be black people in the 60s or white people now. Bullying is necessary for society to function.
If it didn’t serve a purpose it wouldn’t happen.
For something to have a purpose it doesn’t have to be positive or nice.
I’m a short dude, and I’m naturally introverted. I moved schools a lot. I was always the new kid, I was quiet, and I was seen as an easy target.
It can destroy some people. Some people it will toughen them up. It all depends on how you look at it and the way you’re taught to think.
My Dad drilled it into me that I should never allow anybody to intimidate me and that I should always stand up for myself. I learned how to box, and would just give them a nosebleed then it would never happen again.
As an adult obviously I’m not going around punching everybody I don’t like in the face, I’m not retarded. I’ll avoid a violent confrontation if I can, but if I can’t I’m not afraid to throw down, which means that I’m not afraid to be assertive.
But then also people become victims because of the way they think, because it shows through in the way they carry themselves. A bully will choose a victim based on how they look, does this person look like they’ll be easily intimidated? Or will they give me a hard time? This is why people who get victimised often get bullied over and over again.
The way I see it then, for me at least, the purpose was that it taught me to be more confident.
I really think that the problem for a lot of people is the way they’re taught to think about it. It’s almost like they’re “supposed” to be afraid, traumatised, to seek sympathy. They’re not “supposed” to be toughened up by it. Bullies are “supposed” to stop bullying. But the truth is that assholes have always and will always exist, and that’s a childish demand.
Short answer: No, not a good purpose.
Growing from the pain is a choice. And while some people are able to grow from the pain that bullies caused them, other people can stay really broken for the rest of their lives. They can even turn into bullies, or just toxic in general as a coping mechanism, or self-destructive.
So the net impact of bullying is negative. It's notaking the world à better place, and it does change a percentage of people for the worst.
We need to support eachother in becoming our best sleves, fostering mutual growth and synergy. That's only possible through kindness, compassion, and good communication.
Don't be the cause of anyone's self-doubt or self-hatred. there's already enough other challenges in life as is
Sadly it does. I HATE bullying and was bullied severely as a child (as in almost killed several time. What I experienced went beyond bullying). However, kids need to learn that not everyone is going to treat them right. Kids need to learn to build their own confidence and not rely on others. Kids also need to learn that the authority figures in life are often useless and make the situation worse and therefore they need to handle issues themselves. Being bullied and learning how to overcome it is a part of life, whether we like it or not.
There is no purpose in deliberately hurting or harassing others for your own amusement.
I don't care of getting bullied makes you stronger. A part of your life you'll never get back was still time wasted. My bullied made 7th grade miserable for me. That was an important year I wanted to make new friends, the year I became a teenager for the first time, where I wanted to know what's it like getting invited to parties, join a conversation about teen stuff, what's it like talking to guys more, etc. It was the year of puberty. Instead I had to spend an entire miserable year listening to their name callings and watching then make a disgusted face, etc.
u Everything humans do serve a purpose. For some, bullying could be a form of letting off steam or feeling superior to others as a result of constantly feeling inferior. Bullying someone as a group can also tighten the social structure of the group and the ones that bully the most gain more social standing.
Purpose is there but that doesn't make it right or moral. Just like killing someone might feel purposeful to someone but in the end it will only harm themselves in the end and only fill a specific need for a short moment.
It's an attempt to force conformity. That is it's purpose. Let me tell you something I was a punk rock kid from Las Vegas when I moved to Utah in the late 80s. I had weird hair, dressed in ripped jeans and had "target" written on my forehead. Only problem, I had also fought semi professionally in Vegas at 16. I started in martial arts when I was 8, I kicked every major jocks ass in that school, my attitude "leave me and my friends alone, and I'll leave you alone." What did they accomplish? Nothing, nothing at all. What did I accomplish... nothing. It was sure stupidity, a bunch of needless violence and unnecessary property damage. All because I was "different"
I was bullied in every way possible as a child. And today I am top of my class, top of my sports team, a social butterfly etc...
Bullying can go both ways but it's definitely a much more powerful teacher than the one that teaches you logarithmic.
I am not saying people should be bullies on purpose but I am saying that being too hard on bullying and pampering kids leads to a weak generation that might cry after being mildly insulted in life.
I say let kids be kids bullying is part of childhood and should remain that way
The only purpose it does serve is to prove that you are a low life person. I was bullied when I was in school. Skinny with glasses and didn't want to fight so I was a prime target. I believe that it would and dose cause the victim to want to get even or to make it stop. When that happens they find an equalizer of one type or another. Now days if I see anyone getting bullied I will step in. I am now 6'1 and 200 lbs and fairly fit with a voice when raised hurts thier ears and pisses me off even more. I have never struck any one. But they believe that I will. I am normally a calm and quiet person except when that happens.
Bullying is never going to end. Hatred NEVER dies... The existence of neo nazis is proof of that.
What we should be doing is toughening our children and teaching them how to take care of themselves. But instead, we're trying to do something that will never be done.
I feel like yes, bullying can increase resiliency and motivation, but there are other ways to do it than that. Overall, the negative consequences almost entirely rule out the positive ones. It is not good to use the stories of celebrities as the general idea of what happens to individuals who are bullied because I think that they are obviously like one in a million and probably one of the best outcomes.
For a victim of bullying, i think it only serves the purpose of depriving him of his confidence and giving him an inferiority complex, which may lead to poor social skills and loneliness.
Many children are naturally compassionate as they grow up, while some are naturally less compassionate (can also be influenced by what they are exposed to) and bully the weaklings to make themselves feel empowered. In the case of the latter, any complaint has to be taken seriously and strict disciplinary actions have to be taken by the school or college against them whenever necessary. This way they can be tamed and molded.
Bullying is a monstrosity that's unacceptable.
It's a defense mechanism - when scared, attack so no weakness is exposed)
It relies on the victim then being too scared to find a bully when they are weak.
If you do, things start to seem REALLY different/new/amazing. (You don't have to act on it, just find them with their pants down, so to speak, and we all go on the loo naked and have to sleep).
Grouped bullies (they usually group or rely on group-think) you can deform/disassemble psychologically (and that does it, the group falls apart and they end up... not sure I want to go there)
fck no!!!
I lost my self confidence and I am 30 and still choke if I want to speak to a new person or attend a meeting or presentation.
If I return back as a devil , I will haunt the shit out of all those bully bastds who did wrong to me when I was young in school.
Adverity makes some people thrive and some crumble. I don't think it's possible to stop bullying but they should crack down just to limit its occorance. Life is tough and we'll all meet mean people so we should get used to it but perhaps give children a safe fun space before they're thrown into the real world. That's the idea I think.
Being bullied has not helped me grow. It’s helped me be bullied while I’m alive. It hurts and there’s no laws for this and the bully disguised himself very well and it’s his daily agenda to hunt and hurt but never pounce. It hurts a lot and no one can stop it except for the one being bullied, if they kill them self.
Rest In Peace; to those that are no longer suffering.
Live In Peace; to those that are still suffering.
No and it is some serious things that can lead to suicide, for example, in people who are harassed. Harassment must not find any legitimacy
No I just got traumatized from being bullied in high school. I think the positive things I learned from being bullied, like being more resilient, I would've learned anyways in life without the trauma it caused.
I think it does force you to grow up faster, but that's not a good thing, since it gets accompanied by trauma.
I've never taken kindly to bullies and usually try to be understanding and talk things through with them because people don't treat others that way unless there's something very wrong in their world but I've gotten in trouble for what I do when reasoning doesn't work but after a while, at least while I was there, nobody was bullied. I don't think you should ever intentionally harm another person unless you are trying to stop them from hurting themselves, you, or others.
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