So does this comment mean that my boyfriend doesn’t understand me or believe in me?

[xJayleenx]

He texted me saying this”Working jobs you wanna work at aren't gonna be easy to come by because we more or less don't qualify for them so getting depressed about it isn't worth it ” I have been working in assembly because I thought that it was the only field that would hire me. 3 weeks ago I finally quit my assembly job of 6 months because I was so tired of doing the same thing over and over and I was thinking “is this really the best I could do?” So I quit for the first time in my life, I got tired of a job and I had never felt that way before. And right now I’m trying to get an online customer service job I’m not trying to get anything big I’d just like to work in a field that’s more related to my major (business administration) so that I could get some experience. I feel like my boyfriend is being too negative and doesn’t believe in me and I honestly regret telling him that I quit my job because I was depressed because now look at what he’s saying.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

He's not entirely wrong.

It's very hard to land your dream job, no matter what it is. And if you're fresh out of school with little experience, it is going to be harder to find a related job.

But it's not impossible.

Search for career counselors in your area, and resume help offices. Maybe your college has a career office you can visit.

With a proper cover letter, resume, and interview, you can definitely land jobs just a bit out of your qualifications range.

[xJayleenx]

Im not looking for a dream job im just looking for a start so that i could get some experience in my major

[xJayleenx]

Like customer service or something

[VIVANT]

So I know a job dem be depressing I think to keep in mind you were making money so it wasn’t pointless it just sucked. Holding onto the job till you get another is good bc you’ll still have money. I do think he misunderstood your aim but I don’t think necessarily doubts you if anything he just presumed wrong and this situation is not the worst it can be easily fixed 😊😊 communicate right him also you’ll find a new job ♥️

[xJayleenx]

Thank you I do have some money because I just got a refund check from college but im too afraid to spend anything lol

[VIVANT]

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[VIVANT]

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[VIVANT]

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[RealMarek]

I wouldn’t assume he doesn’t believe in you. He might not have much knowledge of the type of job you want. I think you have a good chance of working online or phone bank customer service if you want to. It’s a high-turnover profession because many people get frustrated dealing with angry customers. You might have to take an entry-level job but as you gain experience and credentials there is promotion potential if you stick with it.

[xJayleenx]

That’s what I want to do an entry level job or customer service

[RealMarek]

Have you gotten any interviews yet?

[xJayleenx]

Yes I just went to one today on zoom but the other ones didn’t answer at all not letting me meet them or anything

[RealMarek]

A lot of companies ghost applicants. Very bad behavior but common now. Congrats on getting an interview. That’s progress already!

[xJayleenx]

Thank you hopefully they’re not a scam

[RealMarek]

Have you tried the credit card companies and banks? They have huge customer service ops.

[xJayleenx]

Yes im trying a credit card company right now

[xJayleenx]

But im still hesitant because im not sure if it’s a scam

[RealMarek]

Did they contact you first? There are a lot of scams that work that way. Any major company should have its jobs posted on their official website.

[xJayleenx]

I was invited to a group meeting among 5 others and we video chatted through zoom with a lady interviewing us and now I have a contract emailed to me but I haven’t signed it yet because I don’t know if it’s a scam

[RealMarek]

Credit card companies are large. They will have a corporate office with an HR department that you can contact to verify the interview was actually their company. If it’s a company you’ve never heard of claiming to be in the credit card business, I would be highly skeptical. There are some smaller banks that offer customers credit cards. Again, if you contact their corporate office you should be able to find out if the interview is legitimate.

[tony_baloney]

It sounds like he's making the classic guy mistake of trying to help fix your problems rather than just listening to what they are and letting you vent.

In his mind, he's trying to help change your perspective on being in a job that you don't like by stating that achieving the opposite is often very difficult. Not that I think this is a smart move on his part, but I dont think it's malicious in the slightest

[xJayleenx]

He doesn’t believe in me. I’m not trying to get anything big like I said. I want to do maybe customer service or something but I do not want to be stuck in assembly my whole life.

[tony_baloney]

Just make sure he knows it's less about getting the perfect job right now than it is about getting a job that doesn't make you feel dead inside

[xJayleenx]

His comment made me sad like if he doesn’t believe in me

[tony_baloney]

While I completely understand why you would feel that way, I highly doubt that was his intention. It sounds to me like he was trying to help change your perspective of the situation, so you would see it differently and not feel depressed

[LazerBean]

He's just telling you to be smart when you're making decisions, and don't assume that things are going to fall in your lap just because you want them to. Honestly you should have waited till you knew you had another job lined up before quitting, so that's probably why he said it.

[xJayleenx]

I didn’t want to work another day at that job.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

To be honest with you , he is just responding back to you he is neither supporting your decission not he is critiscising it.

His just stating at this moment and at current skill sets and as of now this is what options you could get it's more like a opinion.

With the context you provided he is just responding to you as you were depressed like these are common things in life and job.

There was no comment about you working or not his just describing that these jobs are like this itself.

He is not saying that you won't or can't do anything else and even he has not told you to keep doing or leave the job.

It seems he is ok with with it as it's your choice but since you asked he has given his honest opinion.


Life lesson lol nobody will believe you untill you make it they might support you but the only person that needs to believe in you is yourself.

Lord helps the one who helps themselves !!!

[LovingLoverReturned]

Only he knows. Peoppe usuually read texts wrong because it lacks body langauge and tone of voice... still then try to assume the best. As long as he doesn't insult you, I'd not worry.

Do you have a LinkedIn? I suggest setting up one if not. Checklist: laptop, logic and some skills... being in America it makes it much more biased and easy to find work lol.

[NathanDavis]

go look for a job as an associate at Lowe's or Home Depot... or any other store of the type

you will never get stuck doing the same thing every day for months and months, and if you really put effort into it, you will get all kinds of promotions with enough time and experience

[Bklynbadboy12]

Honestly it doesn't matter if he believes in you or not. What matters is if you believe in yourself. If you don't like your situation then change it you did the right thing. Now get out there and prove to him that you can do whatever you want to do once you set you mind to it.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your got this! I believe in you and you should too😉

[Jamie05rhs]

He's right. You made an emotional decision, and I think it had nothing to do with the job. You just felt unfulfilled because you weren't gaining anything from it, because you have a hole in your pocket and don't know how to manage your money well.

Your boyfriend is smart, at least on this subject. You should listen to him.

[888theGreat]

Just means longer not getting married or living together in a house. That was your first job.

[xJayleenx]

That was my secone job

[888theGreat]

what was your first?

[xJayleenx]

Actually this was my fourth. First was babysitting, second was pool monitoring, 3rd was assembly at a different place, and 4th was assembly but with wires

[888theGreat]

pool? You were a safety guard? Wearing a bikini like on Baywatch

[saffoler]

Yes. Jobs are plentiful right now. Best to find one that suits you.

[Iron_Man]

Good luck with your boyfriend I’m out of here 👋

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He's having problems and is confused.

[Guy13]

He's confused