Is it normal to have a crisis over the fact that my looks are fading?

[Anonymous]

My mom says if I lose weight I will look better but I am not so sure about that.

[SnowedIn]

Crisis? Being honest, that sounds extreme. Can it matter to you? Of course. And that's valid. Our looks and bodies change dramatically as we age. And, yes, sometimes weight can change our looks. Here's the thing: some of the changes you can control and some of it you can't. Therefore, if the looks are important to you (and that's okay) then apply time and resources to what you can control/change/maintain and learn to accept what you can't.

[SnowedIn]

Thanks for mho!

[Jitternation]

Why do you care so much about looks? Don’t be lazy, set goals, and achieve them. I swear reaching a milestone gives you more validation than a 1,000 horny humans can.

[Asker]

It has nothing to do with being lazy. Being beautiful makes me feel special.

[Asker]

Success is over-rated and very lonely

[Jitternation]

Majority of the time if you are fat you are lazy unless you have a medical condition. That means you are eating more calories and not moving enough. Get your fat ass off the couch and do something about it. You have such a loser’s mentality.

[Asker]

Are you a dumbass?

Who said I was fat I said my LOOKS go read the question again

[Asker]

My mom said that being skinny will help enhance my looks. I am more concerned about my LOOKs not my weight

[Jitternation]

Why else would you care about your looks other than validation from other losers? It reminds me of when women say they wear make up for themselves not others but you never see them wear make up and dress up alone at home, they do it when others are around. If people don’t find you attractive it’s not the end of the world.

[Asker]

Sexist pig right here.

[Jitternation]

Calling me names won’t make you attractive. Now go seek validation from others you loser.

[Asker]

Sexist pigs are the biggest losers.

[Jitternation]

More like people like you that want validation 24/7. Don’t worry one day you will cope with the fact that there are people in this world that find you ugly.

[Asker]

I've never been called ugly in my entire life.

[Jitternation]

That doesn’t negate the fact that there are many people that will think you’re ugly. Just like everyone in the world. You’re not special and have been coddled by societal messaging telling you that you’re beautiful no matter what. That’s not true and you will have to learn to cope with the fact that not everyone will find you attractive. Seeking validation from other people for looks is bitch behavior.

[Asker]

Sexist pig.

[Asker]

I'm not fat :)

[Asker]

And I'm anything but a loser.

[D-Pad_Chad]

It's normal. I have two questions.
1. How old are you?
2. What's your weight?

[Asker]

29

I don’t know but I’m overweight

[D-Pad_Chad]

1. 32-35 is the start of the wall.
2. Buy a scale and lose weight. As to how much, this site has a chart that will give you a target. Set milestones to strive for, it doesn't happen overnight, but it's possible. Regardless of your looks its also about being healthy.
fitnessvigil.com/ideal-weight-for-women-by-age-height

[Asker]

Can I message you? I'd like to ask you a question

[Anonymous]

I agree, do not listen to your mother. I doubt your looks are fading.

[leighbee]

Ignore her, that's how my eating disorder started!