Would you quit a Job that is actually nearly perfect but there is just one work colleague that you don't get along with?

[melanieeeB]

I have a new job for a month and so far it is really great!
I do not plan to stay there my whole life but still the next 2 to max. 5 years.
My only problem? This one colleague. I hate her, I hate how she acts, I hate her immaturity as an 25 years old, I hate that she is over the top "nice" so others like her and give her validation and I have strictly stayed away from people like that but now I have to sit with her every day...
I am not going to quit the job, I am paid too well for that, but I have seriously considered it.

Would that be a reason for you to quit? What is your pain threshold?

[Fuentes]

I dealt with weirdos and delusional people, i once was this guy's partner and had to have his back but I could not talk to him about anything. Because he told me NAS was just a ryhmer and a poet and that the stuff some old school rappers rapped about wasn't real it was just poetry. I wanted to fight him for saying that and then he told he was Mr see to believe lol dog you can see these hands in your face hahaha.

I had to limit conversation with him and he was my partner for two years lol weird thing is we actually became friends cause we had a silent unspoken bond. But what he said still gets to me hahaha.

But I think the worse co worker I ever had was a gay dude, who was my manager at an old job years ago who was sexually harassing me in a way.

Talking about how he loves black men especially the lighter skinned tones and how he wants a big black thing in his mouth? He even use to text me and act like it was a group chain text... and I would ask others, aye did so-so text you and they be like naaah, so I made sure not to ever respond! ... it felt like a horror story. But he was only my manager for a few weeks, but thay was annoying af & I'm glad I don't work regular jobs anymore hahaha

[Wish4UrB00ty]

I think I would try to hang on to it and work through dealing with this person. But I also can’t stand desk jobs so if the job is just sitting at a desk next to one another I would quite!! 😂

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Thank you friend! 😊

[DizzyDesii]

I quit my 4 year job for many reasons but one thing that also made me want to was one of the girls on my team. We mainly worked from home but went to the office for team meetings. She was something like a team lead and talked to us like a dog. And no one even stood up to her. I couldnt believe it. I told my mom about her one day and turns out, she was a classmate of my mom who tried to bully my mom but my mom stood up to her. Lmao look... I know what i can/can't handle. I dont think I’m built to physically fight that lady (just as i would never try to physically fight my mom). I’ve seen what they can do. But my mom was so ready to whoop that ladys ass again 😂 I had to stop her. Another bad part about the job was going onsite to train new people. I recall telling y'all about one who wanted to fight me but was surprised I challenged her. And another trainee who wanted to set the entire building on fire and kept flicking a lighter next to me. Man im so glad to be free from that job

[melanieeeB]

Daamn what a small world! 😳 That woman probably always got what she wanted and probably was one of those crying and screaming kids and the parents giving in quickly lol

Mostly it's good to leave a stupid workplace cause you will find better than the bad one haha

[DizzyDesii]

Yea she was so awful. She had the nerve to try to become my friend closer to when i was getting ready to leave. I didn't trust her at all

[melanieeeB]

Nahh she was probably just trying to hold you there haha

[desidoll]

No, I have dealt with some colleagues like this in the past and I survived for almost 10 years. You need to distract yourself from her and focus on your task. It is not gonna be easy but once you manage to take full control over the situation, you’d feel like she doesn’t even exist there. Plus if other colleagues are all getting along with you well, it shouldn’t be much an issue. Quitting is pointless because if you have experienced working in multiple places, parasite like this is everywhere. In fact, you’d never know if the new place would be a lot worse.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah you're right! I'm gonna stay, I really like the other two and also thanks for your advice with the distraction and focusing on only my stuff!

[desidoll]

You’re welcome. You got this ❤️

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO.

[ArrowheadSW]

Can you be re-seated further away from her? Just a thought.

[melanieeeB]

No the accounting team sits on a table for four people in one room and she sits across of me

[exitseven]

@melanieeeB. If she sits across from you maybe get in the habit of eating a Rae onion for breakfast.

[melanieeeB]

Hahaha I might do so

[Account]

No, I would not consider quitting a job for one terrible person. What I would be doing is confront her about her behavior with proof and evidence - like I have already done so in the past with colleagues whom I wasn't getting along with- or I would consider changing my work hours on my schedule in order not to have her around in my environment.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah, when she is trying to get her way and take my tasks cause she doesn't wanna do her own or when she is bad talking me with a smile, I immediately call her out in a professional way

[Sirenboobzilla]

Absolutely not. There's someone here that loathe completely (it's mutual) and I've made it clear to my superiors that, unless it's necessary for work, she is not to be in my office. Not gonna risk my ability to pay my bills because of a measly coworker

[Sorrento-Sun]

It's a difficult dilemma because it's awful having to tolerate and spend all day around someone you dislike. But on the flip side you could leave, and find another job only to discover there's more like her there. Or even worse than her.

I try to adapt my personality around other people's personality. That's always helped to when I've been around toxic work colleagues.

Someone else has suggested to request being re-seated elsewhere. That could be one option for you.

[cjtron]

I had similar experience in my job , and not once but twice with the same dude, at one point he even told me he'd beat me and was brandishing a knife at me lol, I'm like. w. e talk is cheap, later on he collapsed in an alley trying to take out trash,,,

We found him passed out and went to hospital, I was like -karma bitch- he's in his 60s, sadly, he's still there, sigh, seems to be nicer now , thank god...

he doesn't try to boss my anymore, I sticked it out and its better now, we really got into a heated screaming fight that one time, and never again. DOn't take sht from people, Karma will get em, its a thing

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I did once, and I regretted it because I let a person get their way and exclude me from a place I loved.

At least it sounds like your colleague is not actively malicious, so just ignore her and interact with her only when strictly necessary.

[ShiftingMonke]

It would not be, but when dealing with coworkers I don't particularly care for, I remind myself that employers in America are equal-opportunity companies, and as such this particular employee was hired to fill a diversity quota. As such, I must tolerate them.

[Alex8736]

my job is the same way where everyone works as a team but there is one guy in his 50's that tries kissing the bosses ass and minds everyone else's business instead focusing on his own tasks and on a side note lives with his mother but professionally speaking if i were to do his performance review i would add a comment stating "Does Not Play Well With Others".

[whirled_up_girl]

No and had a job where there were several co- workers I didn’t like or get along with. I refuse to let other peoples actions determine what I do though. They can obnoxious and bitchy all they want, I’ll just ignore them.

[Changiis07]

I would not quit because of someone, I would not let her affect me or get in my mind. You're putting all your energy on her and that's affecting you. She's young and immature and we have all been there

[Leopard23]

No. I'm there to make money and I know how to look after myself in the workplace. Plenty of people I don't like, even one or two enemies but I leave it all at the door on my way home.

[Haha456]

If she isn't going out of her way to try to hurt you, you can ignore her. This is like saying you're quitting a job because someones voice annoys you. Its quite immature

[BeMuse]

You sound like the problem. You're there to do a job and get paid for it. It's not a social club. People aren't hired to entertain you. People are hired for their experience and set of skills to so that productive work can be completed. Everyone has to be a team player and work with people they don't like. You're letting your emotions get in the way of your performance.

[Venera314]

In an ideal world maybe, but real workplaces aren't like that. It actually IS a social club most of the time, because it isn't what you know that matters, but who.

[BeMuse]

@Venera314 People like you and Melanie are why many in management complain often that potential employees lack "people skills" these days. You have to learn suck it up and work with whoever is in your team regardless of how you feel about them. Compromise is important. People come and go all the time. Companies aren't a static set of people. Eventually you will run into people you don't like. Being petty over someone "being too nice" is a problem. It can lead to in fighting and bad company moral. When petty little feuds start and bad moral influences company culture, there's no real choice but to purge everyone in a department. You have to fire everyone regardless of how good they are because of one person like you or Melanie that stirs the pot and fucks it up for everyone else.

[Venera314]

A person like me? What is that supposed to mean? I was simply correcting your totally erroneous understanding of how the modern workplace actually works! You seem to have this naive idea that everyone who works for a company was hired because of what they know, their skills and qualifications, but that's almost never true.

[BeMuse]

@Venera314 Yeah like you a crony that has no people skills or actual skills. You don't know how to do anything useful and you can't work well with others. You just leach money and poison the well. You're like cancer. You bring companies to their knees, but being on your knees is probably where you are comfortable.

[BeMuse]

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[Venera314]

Why are you being such an asshole? You don't know a damn thing about me. The fact is that you're an idiot to believe that workplaces are organised the way you think they should be run. I can't believe that someone as old as you are (33) still thinks like a five year old who believes that the world is so simple and straightforward.
I work really well with others, but I'm pretty sure you don't. With a disgusting attitude like yours, your inability to handle those who don't agree with you, I'm pretty sure you must be unemployed.

[Venera314]

Why should I click on your virus-infested link?

[BeMuse]

@Venera314 No body care what you do. Your opinions and actions are worthless. Like I said, you're cancer.

[Anonymous]

The only situation I would quit is if that person was my manager. There's no way I could advance in the company with them still around, and they might even try to get me fired if they disliked me. Happened in my last job.

[NathanDavis]

nope... I just ignore them

as long as they do not make my work impossible... I would have it easy to just ignore the annoyance

[exitseven]

No, if I could not get her fired somehow i certainly would not quit. I would keep telling myself that I will outlast her and will be there to watch her walk out the door.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a dumb reason ever hear of the power of disengagement and co existence… I get that fake nice can be annoying but there is a lot worse out there, all you have to do is respond candidly or seem uninteresting and that will most likely limit any communication that isn’t strictly work, it may take persistency but she will most likely get it. Don’t be so easily annoyed your letting someone have way to much power over you.

[ThomasDavid1989]

There's a couple coworkers, I'm not fond of. I also am starting to really not like what I'm doing, but because I haven't found another job yet, and I make decent money already, I'm going to stay

[Fireguy17]

Just suck it up and figure out how to deal with it.
You might not be eveyone's favorite person at work either, yet the tolerate you.

[midnightmoon05]

No, they are not important to me.

you can't stop people from talking shit.