Do you think my coworkers were right for me needing to back off a bit from our students?

[Anonymous]

We work with autistic children so we have a total of 10 students. Ages 5-7.
Anyways there’s this little boy that I absolutely adore. I don’t know there’s someone about him that I adore. Don’t get me wrong I adore them all but he’s my favorite. He didn’t know how to hold a pencil or do anything for himself (accept he can put his backpack, lunch and all that himself. He is improving so far. Let’s face it, teachers have favorites. Two of my coworkers things I’m too obsessive and too quick to jump in when either one calls him out or redirects him. I don’t do that. Yesterday when we were going to dismissal, one of the teachers said ‘Here I’ll take him.” Or they purposely keeping me from helping him. Today he did not like me at all. I help other kids too. He pushed me away when I said good morning to him and hugged two of the other staff. He wouldn’t even look at me. Anyways he pushed my hand away when we went to specials today when I tried to hold his hand. I didn’t want him wandering off. The teacher said, “Let him follow the other students or do it himself.” After the students left when schools out, the other assistant was having a talk with me, “Look I know you care and adore the kids, especially (his name) but I think you need to back off a bit.” I was confused. Then the teacher said, “I think you’re over his shoulders all the time, we’ll sometimes, you keep trying to grab his hand and he needs to be around other teachers. That’s why we purposely take him take him other than you taking him. Either her or I will work with him for not on until you back off. You’re too pushy and not helping him at all. That’s why he keeps you pushing you away. Back off and give him space. Let other teachers work with him.” Do you think I’m being pushy and obsessive? I don’t think I am.
He never looks at me but other teachers. That kind of hurts. One of the teachers said, “Aww (his name) likes her (Leas teacher) looks like he’s going to be her boy.”
He’s MY BOY!

[AI Opinion]

It seems your concerns come from a place of genuine affection. However, it's important to balance your enthusiasm with giving students the space they need to develop independence and form relationships with others. I’ve seen many teachers who, though well-intentioned, might unintentionally hinder a child's growth by being overly involved. Reflect on your coworkers’ feedback, as their perspective might help you adjust your approach. Allowing him to interact with others can broaden his experiences and enhance his comfort in various social settings. It's about fostering his development while showing care.

[WindAtMyBack]

I think you should listen to your coworkers. They know a lot more about it than we do. From your description I don't understand what you might be doing wrong, but your coworkers seem to think you are. I'd listen to them.

[Asker]

I see what you’re saying but they don’t have to “purposefully” take him to prove a point to me. That’s rude. I don’t think I’m obsessive over him. That’s being a control freak. Of course he needs to be around other teachers. I think it’s very rude that they tell me to BACK OFF.
My sister said, “Well it sounds like they make a good point. If you keep hovering over him and whatever, he’s going to be annoyed with you and he won’t like you. He may be your favorite but don’t be too disappointed if he prefers other teachers over you. He can be his favorite too you know. It does look like you need to back off and let other teachers take him or work with him. I think they take him on purposely to prove a point. Instead of grabbing his hand, ask first. If he pulls away a from you, leave him alone! Give him space. If he doesn’t like you then I’m not surprised.”
Wow…. seriously

[Asker]

I meant to say he can be other teacher’s favorites and she told me if show jealousy then I’m just immature and should not be working with children. I’d he wants to sit with other teachers, let him, if he prefers other teachers over me then that is that. I won't be everyone’s cup of tea. BACK OFF.