Are you a gamer?

[Dieudonné842]

😄 I'm a gamer!

[TenderFantasy]

I used to be more of a gamer when I was younger.

Then I thought I wanted to find "love" and start a family.

Maybe that was a mistake.

[Dieudonné842]

You made the right choice. You sacrificed your pleasure to give us wonderful members of society.

[TenderFantasy]

Sorry lol. I did not clarify. I LOOKED for love, but never found it. I'm not married nor have children. I hope though that it's not too late.

If it is, well...

[Dieudonné842]

No, it's too late. You can surrogate if you are unable to get pregnant yourself. But right now you need to be realistic.

There's the modamily app. It's for people that want to have kids. It's mostly platonic relationships, so it might not be romantic.

It's not too late to have kids right now. But you need to have them soon because you don't want to be 60 dealing with a teenager.

You might end up with a gay guy who just wants kids. You'll have to settle for that, but at least you'll have a family.

[TenderFantasy]

If you say it's "Too late" (or did I read that wrong?) then why did my aunt, who's 48, remarry to her second husband and had TWIN (boy and girl) at the age of 48? ! They used IVF though.

And I'll check out that app, but I don't usually like using apps. I'm more of a desktop type of person.

I am honestly going to be a little sad if I cannot reproduce. But so many people who shouldn't be having children have them! Lol. It's very strange and sad. Also, some people, it seems like they'll just have a baby with ANYBODY just to have a baby. I guess it's better than not having one (or two) at all? It's confusing! Not to mention biologically unfair if men can have children even at senior ages but women can't? I know though that sperm quality and quantity drop a lot as one ages, not to mention having sexual difficulties, so at least it evens out THAT way haha.

[TenderFantasy]

Let's just hope things like that don't happen to you.

It's tragic in a way.

[Dieudonné842]

It's typo. It's not too late.

[Dieudonné842]

I am using a crappy keypad that keeps changing stop for me. It's one of those grammar keyboards. It's really bad.

[TenderFantasy]

I honestly don't mind adopting for some reason, but I would hope it wasn't some "damaged" kid from the foster system, as they tend to have a lot of behavioral problems, deveopmental issues/mental issues, things like that. But then again, who's perfect lol.

I'll try IVF to be honest. With this new hotel job I just got, I may be able to save up for these types of expenses. Thanks for being kind and supportive. I truly appreciate it.

[Dieudonné842]

Foster care is not the same as adoption agencies. Adoptive parents only adopt kids that are 1-3 years of age. The foster is mostly older kids.

I mean think about co-parenting. You can have a kid with a gay couple or an and infertile couple. You'll be kind of like an aunt.

It's just I dont want you to be a single mom. But I understand. You can freeze eggs for later, but I dont know how long they last.

I don't want you to feel lonely in parenting journey. But you're welcome.

[Dieudonné842]

And foster parents and adoptive parents are different.

[Dieudonné842]

Foster is helping raise a poor persons kid. And adoptive is adopting a kid.

[La_isla_bonita23]

I am not. What do you play?

[Dieudonné842]

League of legends. I only play just to talk to my friends. We don't really pay attention to the game much anymore. It's just to talk and bond with each other.

[La_isla_bonita23]

I get it. I used to play L. O. L as well.

[Gummy_Cluster]

www.youtube.com/watch

I love the song, and I think you're clever for making it your username. Kudos.

Fellas, her name means "The Beautiful Island."

[Gummy_Cluster]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/k5c1Sm6bAdo

When I'm not playing this one, or wasting time on this site, I'm shooting zombies in Arizona. I had a really fun friend on another forum, and I asked her to help me get out of the cave. I was trapped in there for six months. You're allowed one partner, and I just couldn't get past the zombies. She couldn't afford the gizmo, so I just had to figure it out for myself. It took me six months to figure out that it wasn't about your choice of guns, or your marksmanship. It's all about mastering the art of reloading your gun, and making sure you acquire as many bullets as you can. You have to learn to reload at the speed of light, or you're dead. After I mastered that, I was the biggest bad-ass in the cave, and the zombies feared me. lol

It reminded me of this Psalm: “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall fear no evil... because I am the meanest motherfucker in the Valley.” lol

[SueShe]

No, I am certainly not a gamer because I do associate games with a rather negative view.

To me, gamers are people that spend the most part of their days (and/or nights) behind a monitor and forget that they have a life or a family. Their addiction takes precedence over anything else. Also, I view a gamer as a person that is violent by nature and that idolize those violent shooter games.

Of course, you have also the occasional gamer that is into other, perhaps more constructive games rather than those violent and destructive ones.

I do occasionally use one specific game but that is more in relation to training for proficiency in a professional activity.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everything you just said about gamers is incorrect.

[worldscolide]

Wow, Your view of gamers is the most incorrect, backward, and just all around ignorant view i have ever heard. you're entitled to it, but you're simply wrong. Gaming is what got me into the field of work i do. I work in IT, Specifically cyber security and counter cyber terrorism. If i had your attitude id never have gotten my job or met my wife. just wow.

[SueShe]

@worldscolide I still remember these cases in Korea where a gamer forgot to feed the baby he was in charge of a few years back and that died of dehydration...

[Dieudonné842]

It's only specific games that are addictive like that. The free-to-play online ones like Fortnite, and I can't think of any other popular ones now.

They collect data on people, so it's free to play. And they update the games so they never get boring, and the person becomes hooked on the game. They are spending money on loot boxes, etc.

But this also applies to social media. The website you work for does the same thing. Collect data analyze the data, and figure out ways to keep people returning to the site.

It's very similar in principle.

Lookup User Behavior by Michael Schulson. He wrote a good essay on social media and video game addiction.

[worldscolide]

ans less than 0.001% of gamers are like that.. thats like condemning all vehicle owners because a few are negligent with it.. its a logical fallacy at best, and outright idiotic at worst.

[Degenerate]

This is one of the dumbest opinions I've ever read

[SueShe]

@worldscolide Why even take the risk to become violent or addicted to anything, including gaming?

Isn't the best prevention a total abstention? Why don't you inject yourself with cocaine (I hope)? Because you know it is harmful to you, no?

Or why don't you spend all your hard earned cash in casinos while your family is starving? You don't do it because you know it is wrong. You don't do it because it is an addiction, just like gaming yet you find gaming innocent and drugs not.

But anyway, thanks for your opinion.

[worldscolide]

Because the benefits out weigh the possible negatives.

The most notable positive effects of gaming include:

Improved cognitive abilities
Improved problem-solving skills and logic
Increased hand-to-eye coordination
Greater multi-tasking ability
Faster and more accurate decision-making
Enhanced prosocial behaviors
Better eyesight (attention to detail)
More physical activity with games that promote physical activity (VR, mobile games)
And other benefits.

This is all from a peer reviewed scientific study. Quite simply you are wrong here, Very wrong.

www.sciencealert.com/gamers-have-more-grey-matter-and-better-brain-connectivity-study-suggests

gamequitters.com/positive-effects-of-video-games/

But its typical of someone like to to deny science.

[SueShe]

Right, those games are free to play but if you want to achieve harder levels and/or buy whatever it takes you to achieve those levels faster, you will start to invest money. Oh, in the beginning, only a $1 or so until those companies have you hooked and then you start investing more and more.

Tous ces jeux sont des attrape-nigauds.

[Red-Blaze]

I will say I am some what surprised to hear this from you
Every option I seen from you so far seem well research and knowlagble
But this feels like going back to when gaming started and people made it satan

Some "games" out there are terrible and try to pull players beyond, but its not so I think for most that are more loved
The story of the one in Korea is taking a story and making it all, also Korea has internet addiction health center or so I heard, so I think they got there issues there
And over all I think games are just an easy target for some even if there not at all the reason for a lot that may happen
Like putting out someone played GTA and went on a killing spree, they skip they also eat suger puffs, and had hot dogs, because that is not a story, and ignoring how popular GTA is for non violent people is really easy

Gaming I find it has a lot of positives, as it was from its start games are really social, there about talking to friends to get advise or talk about your experience in the last sessions
Starting in an arcade where all group up to see the best, moving on to console where you get tips from friends, or play together, maybe in turns or maybe with a friend shouting over your shoulder, and today with forms, conventions, huge MMOs where you get a group and work together at times even with a bigger community then what you may ever interact outside

Gaming is one thing pretty much anyone can do, mute, or deaf, blind or disabled, there is a game and a system for you to play with, and teabag your foe with a joy and laughter of both teams

It has its negatives, but everything dose
I mean life is the most dangers thing, in the end it has a 100% death rate 🤓

[SueShe]

@worldscolide You forgot the following

1. increase of body fat due to lack of movement.
2. unhealthy diet because of fizzy drinks, sandwiches and the like because gamers don't take the time to eat healthy.
3. high blood pressure because of nervousness caused by the need to beat others and be better than the competitors.
4. risk of increased coronary diseases due to high blood pressure

Your "scientific" statements may be valid today but will they hold in 20 years from now? Remember the days where "scientists" stated that spinach has a high content of iron or when "scientists stated that coffee intake is bad for you or when "scientists" stated that Nitrogen crop fertilizers are harmless for the health, or when 3M "scientists" bribed the EPA to hide the dangers of Teflon?

But this is typical of someone that does not want to see the backside of the medal.

[worldscolide]

@Red-Blaze She doesn't seem to understand that without games, you wouldn't have the advancements we have had with air craft, the space program or For gods sake the DaVinci surgery robot, or a number of other advancements in computer science, and AI, and Machine learning. Its the gamers that push these advances not normal people. If gamers didn't exist we would be stuck with computers that have black screen, green text, and nothing else. If we didn't have gamers, we wouldn't have flight simulators that teach pilots how to fly. If we didn't have gamers we wouldn't have something as simple as the joy stick to control machines, vehicles and other things. If we didn't have gamers we wouldn't have things like folding at home and seti at home which are necessary for curing diseases and exploring the cosmos. If we didn't have gamers we wouldn't have computer aided drafting, or the advancements in building buildings and other structures. Same goes for military, the reason we have less and less combat deaths, and are starting to use drones more and more are because of gamers. The interfaces with these machines are very much like an arcade machine.

Yeah there is some bad stuff, But the good FAR FAR out weighs the bad. I too am saddened by her kind of opinion, her normal opinions are always well researched and well reasoned. This is just embarrassing.

[worldscolide]

I base my opinions on 50 years of hard data and facts. you base your opinions on faith and feelings, that is the difference between you and i end of story end of discussions.

[SueShe]

@worldscolide Thanks for the feed-back and when people have no longer valid arguments, they end the thread or conversation. So be it. Thanks for the time you took to explain your point of view.

- End of discussion -

[SueShe]

@Red-Blaze Thanks for your invaluable feedback. I see you are a gamer so you had to take your own defense in this case, it's only natural.

Was good to hear your point of view.

[Kira-kayy]

@worldscolide <3 this. Absolutely spot on!

[Red-Blaze]

I am a gamer

Even that lately have little time to play, I think been a gamer is understanding the rules, and being passionet about it
Its not my life but a hobby I favor greatly for all its postives

My top game for now is between Portal and Anti-Chamber both are fantastic

Whats your game?

[msmissydc]

I would say yes, but I dont play that much. I do like some relaxing game nights with friends though. Also some Single Player games are fun to play. My fiance plays a bit more though... when he has time at least.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I am! Covid lockdown was great! Playing a videogame and enjoying it is all the criteria, right?

[Dieudonné842]

Yup!!!

[Ms_Facesitter]

Hogwarts Legacy!

[Dieudonné842]

Oh, I am big harry potter fan. I cannot wait.

[Kori1236]

Yup! Although I wouldn’t call myself a hardcore gamer. I don’t play every new game or stream. I have my favourites. I’m currently replaying rdr2, and preparing to have my soul shattered for probably the hundredth time.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I don't stream or anything, but I do like playing games. As well as watching other people play them.

[Petr87]

Yes, I am, but only against the computer, not against others online. And in spite of what some misinformed people believe, the games are not "addictive" in any way, nor have they ruined my health.

[Alessa13]

I am, not a hard core must play or else I suffer from withdrawal gamer but I do like to play games.

[zagor]

Every once in a great while I get obsessed with a game, spend ridiculous portions of my life playing it, then finally give it up and don't play any game for months or years.

[worldscolide]

I have been gaming since the mid 80's. Believe it or not, i learned to read at the same time i learned to code.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What languages did you learn?

[MissHope]

I’m a gamer, my husband’s and now I think my son likes it play video games too.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Most men if not all are gamers

Women are not gamers.

[skyee_727]

yes, but these days i do not hv time for that

[Guy13]

No I don’t do AI game. I’m a Purist. 👩🏻

[LiamJHayden]

Only if Chess counts lol

[QuietRunner]

yes City builder and 4x games

[Anonymous]

No, I am no longer a child.

[DesiUwU]

of course i am! and i always will be!!!

[McKellar]

Yep I am.