Why the Modern Nuclear Family Makes Us Unhappy

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Humans are social creatures that depend on there unit. Yet until recently that unit was much more broad than Mom, Dad and family 1,000 miles away.

Many parents generation success equaled moving away. My generation said its okay to come back but not many did. Most of us find it hard to 'grow roots' Ina new society because evolution programmed us against going out alone and host communities against taking chance on newcomers for good reason. If someone found themself alone without partners they may have well earned it.

I was watching Girls most recent season and Marnie as horibble as she has been for a long while crawls into bed with Hannah and her boyfriend and no one questions it. She drops in unannounced and gets into bed. Is there any greater belonging?

I've had this only once with my BFF and her long term boyfriend who was and is still amazing even though they parted forever ago.

Humans thrive on tightnit small groups. Humans like to cooperate in small groups and we become depressed when we aren't part of a group. The nuclear family isn't enough. There's a reason why soldiers and peace corps service members become depressed when returning to Western Society, this isn't my idea to take credit for please google that phrase and buy his book.

My parents found a very handy work around that wasn't 100% the same as family but we did get lucky in that no one in our booming city or town was a native so we all wanted structure. The Boyscouts have families a pseudo version of that structure mirroring the military but obviously less structured. But Scouts were very hands on and take care of your own 24 years ago before the iPhone.

How will you build your community?