When Is It Time to End Friendship With Your Best Friend?

[Unknown2232]

Friendship

Best friends. They're always there for us and are a shoulder to cry on. We like to think that we will never have to end friendship with them. Unfortunatly, that's not the case. You may think, why on earth would I need to end a friendship with my best friend? I'm sure all of us no matter what, will have to do this one day. If you don't, you are very lucky.

How do they make you feel?

I know this might be obvious. Do they drain the energy out of you or make you feel like a negative person? Do you feel awful or end up feeling awful when you're with them?

Are they there for you?

Are they a shoulder to cry on? Or do they only speak about their own problems and don't listen to yours?

Do they crave all the spotlight?

Maybe it's when your in a group setting, they crave the spotlight and cut you off when you try to talk? When the guy/girl you like talks to you, do they start talking to them and don't involve you in conversation?

Do they cause conflict all the time?

Is it about something little and blame everything on you, even when it's not your fault and can't be changed? A friend and BFF won't cause conflict and try to resolve it when one does start.

Does it feel like they compete you on everything?

Maybe you got a new job, they say they got promoted. You get good test results. They say they got better.

I hope this helps everyone out there.

[Lilyanony]

I knew this girl in uni. But left u befriended her some years later and I thought we clicked. I suddenly realised she started moulding herself into me. She didn't want me to have other friends and would only invite me to things alone or cancel plans I arranged with my friends as a group.
I was so upset about another friend and confided in her, she told me to confront her and I did anyways that friendship ended. Suddenly this girl wasn't available as much and she was insulting to me. My parents both got ill and I really needed a friend she was too busy "dating" to be a friend. We hadn't spoken for months, anyways she called to tell me she had a boyfriend. And wanted me to go out clubbing despite knowing I had anxiety and no longer drink. I declined and the friendship ended that day she didn't even ask me how I was. Maybe I was being self centred and self absorbed as I was in a bad place for the last 2 years but she has added to my low mood by the lack of support especially on my good days reminding me of all the bad things. I literally would end up going home depressed!

[Angelina25]

I ended it with my best friend of 4 years, some time back. She was becoming toxic. She was blaming everything on me, leaking out my secrets coz she wanted to be the "gossip-girl" and did almost everything she could to make me feel bad about my own self. She had to give me Curt replies and behave as if I'm her servant.
One day I decided it was way too much for me to handle. I said, "I'm neither your servant nor dependent on your Goodwill. Treat me with respect in the least and if you can't lemme know, so that I can stay away from toxic people like you."
She just said, "Don't talk to me if you have a problem."

That's it. That's the ending. We ended it. Nothing like a proper, explained ending. Just a full stop inappropriately placed in the middle of a sentence.

A friendship of 4 years, tears, happiness, laughter, everything just ended. Finished.

And I keep asking myself till date, "Where did I go wrong? Was it my fault?"

[Unknown2232]

You didn't do anything wrong! One of my best friends started bullying me for no reason and I never understood why and what I did to her. I was really nice and respectful towards her and she became best friends with someone who hated me.

[Angelina25]

Omg mine did that too. She's now best friends with the girl who hates me.
It's just so unfair.

[Unknown2232]

I thought that only happened to me!

[Unknown2232]

I'm not alone lol

[Angelina25]

Nope you're not. I understand the pain.

[Silver158]

I've ended a lot in the past few years. The thing is I do feel I'm better off for it apart from one or two but still.
Had a friend attempt to stab me in the back with a girl I liked, He was lying about what he was doing, he was telling her lies about me to make her lose interest and make himself look better. He also talked shit about me to women we both knew behind my back to make them uncomfortable around me.
Had another friend who basically only hangs out with me when he's either single or his current girlfriend is busy. Like he ditched me for her on my birthday but then expected me to show up for his saying "But it's my birthday, it's important..." And mine wasn't?
Another who would always try to get thing his way, whenever I try to organise things or suggest plans I get met with "don't wanna do that..." then immediately suggests something he wants to do.

[Unknown2232]

At least it's over with. :)

[HOAAH]

what a bummer... but I wonder if they knew how you felt would they have changed for you?

[Silver158]

@HOAAH I told the latter two how I felt but they just got confused and didn't see the problem... Basically so self centered that they couldn't see any issues with their behaviour.

[Browneye57]

It's always about the FEELZ, right? LOL

Seriously, you're not obligated to keep toxic people in your life, regardless of who they are, friends, relatives, it really doesn't matter. Enjoy people, have friends, but live your life for YOU. You don't owe anybody anything.

[LiLithy]

i did everything for a friend that i had while i was in school. what was the final breaking point was when she wasn't even supporting my relationship. (bare in mind that severel other things had happen too before that) i just called her to see if she wanted to come by but she simply refused (she was litterly just a road across from my house) just that, doing the bare minimum to come out and see me for once just confirmed that i was doing the right thing. so i just told her that i didn't want anything to do with her anymore.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My high school & college best friends & I grew apart when I moved out of the country. And then Facebook helped us "see" each other again. We are still very much in touch and close friends. Some of them made me a bridesmaid in their weddings. Next year, they'll be bridesmaids in mine.

[Logorithim]

My feeling is that we know our friends aren't perfect, but someone got to be a best friend for a reason, and unless that changes radically, they stay your best friend. I've had the same one for 27 years even though we don't see each other regularly (we do keep in touch regularly).

[Gedaria]

No , my 2 best friends are women I've known them since starting school. They have with me through 2 marriages. Other personal problems , they have stayed at mine when they needed shoulder to cry on we usually both end up crying.
There are many things I love but my 2 friends are so precious to me...

[Anonymous]

They did some research on why men are 3.5 higher risk of suicide than women. One issue is that male friendships start to fade after age 30. We are to focused on our careers, family (if we have one) and are supposed to “have our shit together” and not need any people for help.

Many of my friendships have faded in the last few years. Either people stopped reaching out to me or I pulled away from people thinking they were distraction/drain.

I still have some close friendships but I feel too old to have time to screw around.

[Anonymous]

I am really impressed by a 13 year old having this knowledge.
I have all these issues with my mom and sister. Which is a problem so I avoid them now, and I also try to make friends with other people but I have been so jaded I think I act desperate for a friend so they usually push me away.
I have barely any friends, no one to really call to or hang out with for my birthday. LIFE SUCKS.

[binarybabe001]

When she sabotages you, f**ks you over or tries to take advantage of your friendship for personal gain. Then, the friendship is over and it's time to move on.

[ciaojujuu]

When boundaries are being violated; when there's no trust and respect anymore; when you don't feel safe with the person; when clearly you've already grown apart.

People change.

[JimRSmith]

Removing any toxic individual from your personal equation might be difficult, but it is always worth it.

[zagor]

No reason to end a friendship with a true best friend.

[m1sst3chn3rd]

U know to end a friendship because things get complicated or one person out grows the other. U can still keep them in contact with you trough social media.

[jacquesvol]

When he/she starts avoidking you.

When he/she lies for his own interest.

[Silver158]

been there

[Nice222]

Thank but my best friends are the same since Kindergarten.

[Sampan2017]

If you have good understanding with your best friend you will never end your friendship

[Tuliprose]

I love my best friends and can never leave them

[Ninene]

when she says that she likes hawaiian pizza

[NovissimumVirorum]

Friendship is useless

[HOAAH]

friendship is supposed to be good for your mental health if it is a good friendship. It's supposed to help you live longer.

[Anonymous]

There are best friends who broke up with me.

😭

[BillieJean1070]

When one of you dies

[LeaLee]

Thanks