Agree or disagree? Sadness is the mind's way of healing from trauma

[Anonymous]

I was pretty sad recently....what helped me get over it was recognizing that EVERYONE is dealing with the same problems. Everyone has sad moments.

That got me thinking about the purpose of sadness. I remembered a saying that goes like "it's good to be sad because that's when you grow." Obviously, you can grow when you're happy too. But I'm not cynical. I tried to understand what it was really saying.

What I realized is that I cried the most when I tried to do something that I had previously felt I failed at. Or when anything happened that reminded me of a traumatic experience.

Now it isn't wrong to tell people "don't cry" because if you just sat around crying, it defeats the purpose of crying. Crying makes you feel better. When you feel better you'll be able to push yourself forward.

Sadness is like using the restroom. If you don't allow yourself to be sad (by taking pills, crying too much, etc.), "toxic waste" builds up because you haven't let go of it. To let go, you can either 1) stop trying, stop desiring (helpful for depression). 2) focus more on what you want. 3) unite in a partnership to overcome any deficits that are holding you back. 4) just go try again at what you failed at.

I've noticed that people who come from abusive families will marry someone who was like their abusive father/mother. But, they'll try to build a family free of abuse. This helps them to let go of their past.

To be strong you have to be sore. 💪🏻

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re not entirely wrong but I also wouldn’t say this is entirely healthy either. Yes, crying is absolutely and objectively good for you, it reduces stress, builds dopamine, and helps to expel the chemicals that are causing you to feel so sad in the first place (there is a chemical difference between sad and happy tears, suggesting that crying is literally the expulsion of those chemicals that make you feel because you have too much of it in your body). I wouldn’t compare it to poop as much as an overdose but I’m not picky about metaphors.


You’re also right about the importance of feeling and addressing our emotions because they serve a specific purpose in developing our psychological understanding of the world. I’m reminded of the fact that all anger comes from a place of hurt, anytime you’re angry it’s because someone or something hurt you in some way and triggered that emotion. Repressing these feelings is obviously detrimental to our overall mental health, so it’s not recommended to be stoic in the face of something that hurt you enough to be angry or sad.


However, people who choose to be with someone that resembles their abuser is not their way of overcoming abuse. It’s more likely continuing the pattern of being abused because
1) that’s all they know and we find comfort in the familiar no matter how toxic it may be for our daily lives and
2) the victim is seeking psychological closure, a do-over if you will, to try and get their abusive relationship to be healthy with someone new that represents their old abuser. This doesn’t work very often as abusers often don’t change their behavior because they too are following the familiar patterns of abuse that they knew from a young age and find comfort in the familiar acts that cause harm.

[purplepoppy]

That guy in your picks going to be sad when he discovers that ladyboy is more hung than him.

[myTake Owner]

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[purplepoppy]

Autocorrect curse.

[myTake Owner]

Are you sure you're not just sic?

[myTake Owner]

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[ohsheeT]

Yeah I think that could be right at the same time it's so we can deal with it so we can accept it and move on from it if we hold on to it too long that sadness or that depression starts eating at our cells and our body and that's what causes us to get sick

The faster you can deal with something and accept it and move on from it and keep your cells happy and alive and clicking it's like being in a zone when you're doing a sport or something that you love you get that energy high from it and that's what keeps our body in tip top shape and just energized

And you're right every single one of us has a story every single one of us has things going on in our lives some things we can control some things we can but it's once we accept them and move on from them and don't let it bother us or hold us back is when we are at our best

And since we know everybody has a story that's why everybody should treat everybody else with kindness and respect because you really don't know what's going on internally with somebody

If anything you go out of your way to make their day better even if it's just with a smile

[strateguy632]

i think sad is simpler it is a feeling of less that we need to swap out with acceptance, too late, like in the new meg 2 film , "do the next thing"

[Wonderingguyy]

I couldn’t agree more

[Luckycharms12]

Common enough behaviour in lot of guys