I feel like im the least favorite friend or the one everyone always forgets about?

[Anonymous]

I've always been a good friend and nice to eberyone but i feel like my whole life I've always been the least favorite friend or the one everyone always forgets about. i have this group of friends I've had for 3 years and even though im usually invited when they hang out there's been a few times when they "thought they invited me" or there wasn't enough room in the car so i guess automatically im always the first one to go.. thats cool. i dont know what im doing wrong.. today i was in a group chat with my friends and as a joke we were gonna go somewhere but we had 1 extra person i said "i guess were gonna have to click clara out" and she freaked out.. she was like well im the funnier one and no one likes you! but i just dont know what im doing wrong? I've tried so hard to be nice to all of them i mean im funny but im not thatt funny i dont think im boring? i make my friends laugh.. I don't know its been like this my whole life what mistake am i making here? like last weekend they all went to the mall and at first i was invited and then i ended up seeing all their Facebook pics of them and no one even told me they were going! and then they just said we didn't have enough room in the car. has any one else ever had this problem? its like im not a prude or anyhring and im part of there friends group but im not like the most importiant in the group im kinda just there

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i also try to lead the conversations or i ask them to hang out but i feel like they just dont really care about me and this has happend with other friends too its like i have no voice but im still invited

[Starrk]

It sounds like you may be the tag-along friend, which is basically that one person in the group, that everyone seems to be indifferent towards. Its not like the group does it out of spite or malice, they usually do it unconsciously. As for the reasons for why you are the tag along friend, well that can be due to many reasons.
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1) You tend to stay in the background and don't exert yourself as much in front of the group. The more a person acts like the background, the more chances of them being seen as such.

2) You don't add nothing to the group. If you're the type of person that does nothing when invited to places, then chances are, they begin to view you as irrelevant (subconsciously).

3) You aren't the best match for the group. Maybe the group possess a personality type that just doesn't mesh well with yours, or they are interested in things that you are not, which could easily make you the odd ball.

4) They don't like you, but keep you around due to pity.

So as you can see there are many reason for why you may be ''the tag along'' friend. Me personally I can relate to you, because I once was ''that guy''. Even though I was nice and funny, my laidback and shy personality kept me in the background (reason #1). I hated being that guy, so I quietly left that group and found new friends who included me in everything. Comes to find out, I just simply didn't mesh well with my first group.

[existing_not_living]

You're not the only one. I'm basically going through the same thing right now and it really sucks. The one person who always put me first and I was his #1 girl/best friend had to go and get a freakin girlfriend so now I'm demoted to #2 again and it sucks. The girls that I am "close" friends with are always hanging out without me because they live close to each other and I don't live as close. I'm always getting left out and then they post stuff on Facebook about having a great night and they didn't even tell me about it. They also say stuff like 'Oh, we went out to dinner and then got ice cream and we wanted to invite you, but by the time we thought of it it was too late to come and get you.' So basically, I'm an afterthought and I don't matter enough for you to want to hang out with me BEFORE you already do the fun stuff. I am in the exact same boat.

[Anonymous]

See I had the same problem in middle school. I always felt so awful. Part of the reason why they left me out was because I was the more "innocent" one, and they thought I'd tell on them for doing the awful things that they did. I realized that they weren't the kind of people I wanted to hang out with. Being left out SUCKS, but I started hanging out with new people that treated me better. I'm still friends with the others though,

[halo33]

I know how you feel..