Girl in our group of friends hates me for no reason?

[Anonymous]

I have never done anything to her or said anything bad about her. But whenever we're in a group she picks on me and is very sarcastic like she's trying to show off. And it's always directed at ME only, no one else. She's just extremely rude and i ignore her in group settings but she can't seem to ignore me.

The weird thing is, if we're alone or outside of school she's really meek and nice to me but in group settings she's rude? It's like she has two personalities, it just seems fake. Does anyone know why she would act like this?

[Anonymous]

I had a friend like this and I did nothing either. So I just left it alone, but seeing as she can't leave you alone, maybe you should, in a group setting, just ask? Straight up. It may clear things up.
You say she only does around your friends, and never when it's one-on-one, so she may be trying to show off perhaps? Do your other friends do things like that but actually 'jokingly'? If so, she may think she's doing the same, but is actually not, and being mean for no reason. Have your friends noticed she does this to only you?

[Asker]

No. Other friends in the group don't act like her at all. Like i could be talking to someone else and she'll come over and start being rude for no reason! I don't know if they have noticed.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe ask them if they have when she's not there to see if they have. If they haven't then perhaps ask her why she's being so rude, if you feel you can do.

[Asker]

I have asked her, like what's your problem etc but she's very sarcastic it seems like she doesn't even take it seriously. I just don't understand why be so rude to someone for no reason? It's not exactly showing off because no one actually laughs.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it's to make herself feel better. If she's being sarcastic, then just ignore her. The less you react the more likely she is to give it up. Hard to do, I know, but don't even acknowledge her presence.

[Asker]

Funny thing is I actually don't acknowledge her, I'm very good at ignoring her. But still whenever i'm around she can't ignore me and it's getting annoying. I don't want anything to do with her but we both share the same friends. The things she says are actually really nasty too.

[Opinion Owner]

Then, perhaps consider just absolutely losing your cool and tell her to shut up it whatever way you know, but I bet you've done that. She seems to be one persistent young lady. Do you react when she says this stuff, or do you blank it out?

[Asker]

Believe me i've told her to shut up, etc. But i'm not a nasty person i wouldn't say what she says to me but i have told her to basically go away and don't talk to me. And i have ignored her so i've resorted to asking people on gag haha!

[Opinion Owner]

You've done pretty much everything I have to offer! Wow, she is persistent. I honestly don't know. Does this happen in an educational setting? If so, mention it to a lecturer/teacher/tutor that you have an issue.

[Asker]

Thanks for your help anyway. What happened with your friend? Did you continue to be friends?

[Opinion Owner]

One turned against a mutual friend, so we've simply not spoken. Another talked about me behind my back so, not spoken. And the main one, who did similar stuff, I just tried to ignore it, or (as a stupid young teen) was mean back, but five of her other friends felt they could gang up on me, so we were at odds for ages, but I grew to ignore her a lot. After telling her to shut up quite a bit.
I still face issues now with friends who ignore me! I really have done nothing, but hey, not much I can do :/ Girls are so freaking annoying!

[jessiie06]

I had a friend like that and it's cuz she was uncomfortable with herself. Her self esteem is pretty low so she has to bring you down to bring herself up.

[Asker]

But then why be so rude to just me and not anyone else?

[jessiie06]

Probably because you let her do it and she knows that other people wouln't.

[Asker]

I don't let her do it. I call her out on it all the time. She doesn't seem to care. I don't even talk to her i talk to others in the group so why even talk to me at all? There's quieter people in the group who would let her do it but she doesn't do it to them.

[jessiie06]

Try to talk with the other people in the group about it then you should all confront her about it together.

[Asker]

I've confronted her about it myself, but she doesn't seem to take it seriously. Like she's really sarcastic. She seems fake to me if she acts all nice to me when we're alone.

[jessiie06]

Thats why I would try and get other people in the group to support you. If you are 5 people telling her at the same time then she will understand more.

[Asker]

Yea you're right thanks :) And honestly i couldn't care less about her self esteem, there's no need to be nasty to someone regardless of how you feel. Especially continuously. I used to help her before, we were actually friends but fk that!

[jessiie06]

I agree! She has no reason to be mean to you.

[abc3643]

Well girl here at G@G, 9mfeo, blocked me and I have no idea why! I didn't even know her until she answered a question of mine:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1491095-ladies-some-women-say-the-world-would-be-a-better-place-if-women

and I was fine with her response which was a question I answered and then I get "I only asked so I could block you and be sure I was blocking the correct person." WTF? What did I do?

[Klaatu51]

maybe u've done sth bad according to her... but she doesn't want to tell wot it is?

[Asker]

I have only ever been nice to her, so there is no way i've done something bad. She acts like my friend outside of school or if we're alone so if i've done something bad then why talk to be at all?

[Klaatu51]

i dunno... maybe she has her reasons... even if they r irrational

[Asker]

Yea she is irrational, if you don't like someone for whatever reason then leave them alone like i leave her alone, she can't seem to do that.

[kobe23]

She may feel like she owns you, just ignore her altogether, in all situations.

[Asker]

I do ignore her but it's difficult when you're talking to other friends in the group and she comes and starts being rude. She won't ignore me that's the problem.

[kobe23]

Maybe you should try confronting her, or saying 'off the cuff' remarks like "that was weird", "you're watching me a little hard" or "you're being annoying again", Just tell her that she's weird or she likes you or something.