Great guy friend turned annoying friend? help

[Anonymous]

This guy and I have been friends for a little over a year and he has tried to get me to start a relationship with him, have sex...everything. We would go out and play pool, go to strip clubs, talk about relationships we have been in and give advice to each other about the relationships. I wasn't attracted to him at first, but recently he has seemed attractive. Attractive enough to the point that we slept together about a month ago. I told him that I didn't want our friendship to change because he is a great friend, and that's what I was afraid of. I told him that what happened happened, and there is nothing more to it. I wish I could take it back, but that's life. Anyways, he texts me more than usual, to the point that he is annoying. He texts and if I don't respond within so many minutes, he trips out. I told him I don't want a relationship and if I could take back that one night, I would. After an event like this happens with a good friend, how can you remain friends and not let one night get in the way?

[DoggyDude]

Impossible.

Your friendship has always been a romantic one (from his perspective, even if only subconsiously) although he has tried to be a friend, he was probably always hoping for the outcome of a romatic relationship.

The best you can do is tell him how you feel, tell him what you feel (e.g. if he doesn't stop annoying you by constantly demanding your attention your friendship wll be lost).

Then all you can do is see how things go. The friend you first made will always be there, there's no loss of that, you just can't take back the romantic aspect.

I'm in a similar situation with my best friend, only the sleeping with each other part was derailed and didn't happen. Same result tho, infact slightly worse as I will always regret not pushing a little harder given her current boyfriend whent through same stuff but he was more persistant and pressuring (where as I tried to keep the friendship like she requested and went with what she said not how she acted which was a HUGE mistake).

So, in a way, I'm saying whilst it seems bad the way it played out. It in fact played out better than it might of. Well, for him anyway. He won't be questioning wether he did the right things (or maybe either way a guy would do that). Then I'm seeing this from my love of my best friend which is very true.

I suggest you give the relationship a try and see if you can make things work (then I would say that). He will get much less annoying as an accepted boyfriend as he is as a rejected friend. After all you said you found him attractive at one time? He's the same guy still, he's just in love (or at least, in luv).

He will "get over" his annoyingness if he feels he's in a secure relationship with you. If he doesn't then you can always dump his ass ;). Will be better for you both I feel (again I realise I'm highly bias, I should ask my best friend how she feels. lol. I think she would sympathise as she missed the me I was before I cared too much too).